The real people and real things that happened around her, in the face of her daughter's marriage, it is really surprising that a rural mother with only a junior high school education would make such a decision.
My niece is 28 years old, not married, and not ready to find a boyfriend. But my sister is not in a hurry at all, let alone urging marriage, what should I do every day, and I live a comfortable life.
A few days ago, I sat down with them and chatted, and my niece and sister talked about how difficult it is for young people to get married, and it is even more difficult to find a suitable man to marry. Unexpectedly, my sister's next words shocked us even more, my sister, who has lived in the countryside for a long time, only has a junior high school education, and the pattern is even more open than all of us.
My sister said to her niece, "It's okay if you don't get married, then give birth to a smart and good-looking doll." You don't have to be married to have children, you know? ”
My sister is crazy hinting that my niece can get pregnant and have children if she is not married!
My sister continued: "Don't be afraid to think too much about falling in love and getting married, for fear that it will not be suitable for divorce in the future." If you get married, if you really can't get by, you will divorce if you want to divorce, but the doll must be in hand. In the future, you will raise it yourself, and your mother will help you bring it, and you will have to rely on it when you are old. In case you get married and divorced in the future, you have children to rely on, and your mother will not urge you to find it again, and you can be single for a lifetime. ”
I didn't expect my sister to say such a thing, it's really unexpected! In my mind, she is a very traditional rural woman. Working hard at home, taking care of the elderly and children, silently giving her life, she is a standard good wife and mother.
In the end, my sister said: "As a parent, I have the responsibility to explain the pros and cons to you, and the final choice is yours, and I support it unconditionally." I hope you don't get married, so I'm a lot easier, but I hope you can meet the other half who really loves each other. ”
I still asked a little unconvinced: "Sister, can you really accept that your child will not get married or have children in the future?" Or have children without getting married? ”
My sister said with a firm attitude: "Don't look at my low education, and I haven't seen any big world, but my thoughts are not stupid." If this problem is placed in ancient times, if you don't get married and don't have children, it is a big rebellion. But in modern times, it's not a big deal. After all, the current social pressure is too great, and it is very difficult and hard to survive. It is true that you should be cautious when getting married and raising children. If she has to stick to her ideas, as long as she doesn't regret it, I can accept it. ”
After listening to my sister's words, I really admired her. To be honest, if my daughter is not married and infertile, or if she is pregnant before marriage, it is really difficult for me to accept.
Although we should respect everyone's lifestyle, it is not wrong for children to choose not to marry or have children, and it is not necessarily necessary to follow a specific life track, such as going to school, working, getting married, and having children. However, if you deviate from such a life track, do not go to school, do not get married, or do not work, do not have children, I think such a life will not be called perfect, and you will have regrets.
Friends, can you accept that your children will not marry and have children in the future? Or pregnant out of wedlock?