Obsessed with why it leads you into the abyss of internal friction
执着于为什么把你带入内耗的深渊，这是你自己亲手打造的心牢。
Others bully you only for a moment, but your own punishment for yourself is a lifetime.
Whatever the reason, it's not something you can control
In fact, no matter why, it is not something you can control, and even if you find the reason, it will not change any outcome.
If someone else has a problem, there's nothing you can do about it, because someone else's malice comes from their own miserable life.
If you have a problem, it will be equally difficult for you to change, because your cowardice comes from the long-term domestication of the nurturers, and you have to accept this way of survival in order to survive.
It's better to choose Allow
Permission is not to force yourself to forgive, but to stop continuing to have unrealistic expectations of humanity.
You have to know that human nature is to bully the weak and fear the hard and bully the weak, when you are weak, everyone has the possibility of stepping on you.
You have to know that human nature is to seek advantages and avoid disadvantages, and when you don't have the strength, everyone has the possibility of falling into the ground.
So instead of putting the bad guys in your heart a thousand times over, it still can't offset their sins, and it won't change their malice.
Instead of condemning yourself a thousand times in your heart, it still can't change your weakness, and it won't make you strong because of it.
想办法解放自己
Therefore, it is better to choose to allow all the malice and disobedience first, and then find a way to redeem and liberate yourself.
Don't fall into endless internal friction, so that others are not painful, but you are tired, isn't this equivalent to continuing the evil deeds of others and bullying yourself?
Everyone wants to gain different benefits, different reasons for likes and dislikes, different angles of looking at problems, and different views, so anyone can become your enemy.
Other people's attitudes towards you simply represent their own limitations, ignorance, unreasonableness, incompetence and ruthlessness.
It doesn't mean you're wrong, it's not bad, and it doesn't mean you're not worthy of respect.
Therefore, many things do not need to delve into the causes, just need to see the results, make you happy and approach, let you be sad and stay away, allow ugliness, not to forgive others, just to liberate yourself.