First, Zhu Zhe's story is a typical case of sacrifice and struggle. When she was young, in order to support her younger siblings to go to college, Zhu Zhe resolutely gave up her own development opportunities.
This decision not only deeply affected her life trajectory, but also laid the groundwork for future family conflicts. After graduating from vocational high school, Zhu Zhe came to Shanghai, where opportunities and challenges coexist.
In this highly competitive metropolis, she relied on her ingenuity and perseverance to climb the ladder step by step. Eventually, she managed to sit in the position of room management manager of a five-star hotel.
This hard-won achievement not only allowed Zhu Zhe to gain a firm foothold in a big city like Shanghai, but also gave her the ability to buy a 60-square-meter house. However, Zhu Zhe's success did not win her family's respect and gratitude.
Instead, her years of dedication seem to have been taken for granted, and her family has become accustomed to seeing her as a resource that can be claimed at will. This unequal relationship made Zhu Zhe's heart full of contradictions and pain.
Despite this, Zhu Zhe still has a glimmer of hope and looks forward to getting the understanding and warmth of his family. Her kind heart has never been erased by reality, and she still expects her family to give her even a trace of warmth.
This contradictory psychological state not only reflects Zhu Zhe's strength, but also reflects her deep desire for family affection. One day, Zhu Zhe suddenly received a call from his younger brother, saying that he was coming to Shanghai.
This news made Zhu Zhe feel a trace of expectation in his heart, maybe this time is an opportunity to repair family relationships. However, when her younger brother appeared in front of her with his fiancée and future mother-in-law, Zhu Zhe keenly felt that things were not simple.
The younger brother claimed that the trip was to see a doctor for his future mother-in-law, but Zhu Zhe soon discovered that this was just a cover. The younger brother's real purpose is to raise funds for the upcoming wedding.
They take it for granted that the eldest sister who has a successful career should bear this expense. The younger brother even asked Zhu Zhe to lend them money to live in a hotel, without considering the actual situation of his sister at all.
At the same time, my sister also took the opportunity to make her own request. She hopes to get some decent clothes from her sister to prepare for her upcoming wedding. What's even more chilling is that my sister still wants some dowry.
These demands left Zhu Zhe feeling disappointed and heartbroken, and she realized that in the eyes of her family, she seemed to be just an ATM. When Zhu Zhe tentatively asked about his sister's bride price, his sister kept avoiding answering, and even lied that he and his fiancé were in free love and did not ask for a bride price.
Second, this deliberate concealment attitude made Zhu Zhe even more convinced that her family's request for her was premeditated. Facing the greed of his younger siblings, Zhu Zhe had complex emotions churning in his heart.
On the one hand, she still has a glimmer of expectation for her family, hoping to get some warmth; On the other hand, years of experience have taught her to protect herself. She decided to take action and see her family for what it really was.
Zhu Zhe recalled that when he was a teenager, he willingly gave up his good opportunity to raise his younger siblings. If she could get even a little response for these efforts, she wouldn't have to disguise herself as she is.
However, the reality is harsh. The behavior of the younger siblings made Zhu Zhe realize that the purpose of their coming to Shanghai was still to suck blood. This situation made Zhu Zhe feel both disappointed and heartbroken.
She began to question whether her years of hard work had been worth it, and she began to reflect on the damage that this unhealthy family relationship had done to her. Faced with such a situation, Zhu Zhe knew that she had to make a choice, either continue to endure this unfair treatment or take action to protect herself.
Faced with the upcoming relatives, Zhu Zhe did not choose to confront him directly, but carefully designed a plan. She decided to "pretend to be poor" and hide her true life situation as a way to test the conscience of her younger siblings.
Zhu Zhe told his roommates and Ye Zhenzhen in advance that he needed their help to hide his true situation, creating an illusion that he was too poor to open the pot. She packed up all her things and moved them all to Ye Zhenzhen's room.
In order to make this scam more realistic, Zhu Zhe even changed his bed sheets with holes, and there was not a single decent thing in the room. Even the clothes in the wardrobe have been replaced with old and old styles.
In addition to "pretending to be poor", Zhu Zhe also made up a story about foreign debts. She told her younger siblings that in order to provide for their schooling, she could get tens of thousands of yuan a year to go home, and these were all debts she owed.
This lie not only explains her current "embarrassing" situation, but also tests the conscience of her younger siblings. Zhu Zhe wanted to see if her younger siblings would offer to help her when she learned that she had foreign debts.
Zhu Zhe's actions seem a bit extreme, but they actually reflect her inner struggle. She still hopes to be cared for and understood by her family, but at the same time, she is also protecting herself from being hurt again.
This ambivalent state of mind makes her behavior seem both smart and distressing. Zhu Zhe knew very well in his heart that his younger brothers and sisters had been spoiled, and they couldn't endure such hardship.
She expected that her siblings would choose to go out and stay in a hotel. But Zhu Zhe still prepared shabby foam cushions and torn sheets, on the one hand, to maintain the illusion of "poverty", and on the other hand, to give his younger siblings a chance to see if they were willing to endure some inconveniences for their families.
This well-designed plan not only reflects Zhu Zhe's wisdom, but also shows her last glimmer of expectation for family relationships. She hopes that in this way, she can not only protect herself, but also see the true face of her family.
Three, although this strategy may bring painful results, Zhu Zhe knows that this is the reality she must face. Zhu Zhe's strategy quickly worked, and the true colors of his younger siblings were gradually revealed.
Faced with his sister's "predicament", the younger brother not only did not show any sympathy, but was furious because he had to sleep on a foam cushion. He directly asked his sister to lend them money to live in a hotel, completely ignoring Zhu Zhe's "financial difficulties".
My sister's performance is even more chilling. When she rummaged through Zhu Zhe's wardrobe and wanted to borrow clothes, she saw that they were all old styles, and immediately showed a disgusted expression and threw the clothes on the bed casually.
The two talked about their surprise at the eldest sister's living situation, but they didn't have the slightest intention of helping. When Zhu Zhe mentioned that he had foreign debts, his sister's reaction was particularly indifferent.
Even if Zhu Zhe clearly asked if he could take out 20,000 or 30,000 yuan to help him pay off his foreign debts, his sister refused on the spot. Faced with Zhu Zhe's foreign debt troubles, his sister not only did not express her desire to help, but deliberately avoided the topic of her wedding bride price, obviously not wanting to take out money to help her sister.
The most heartbreaking thing for Zhu Zhe was that when she said that she might not be able to attend her sister's wedding because of financial difficulties, her sister was indifferent. Zhu Zhe explained that he had to take the train back to attend the wedding, and he needed to take several days off, and he had no money to fly.
In the face of her sister's difficulties, her sister did not say a word of retention, did not have a trace of concern, as if it didn't matter whether her sister attended her life events or not. This series of reactions made Zhu Zhe completely see the true face of his family.
She realizes that in their eyes, she is nothing more than an outsider who can claim it at will. Years of dedication and sacrifice have been rewarded with such indifference. Zhu Zhe recalled her kindness and patience to her neighbors and employees, and she was always a person who gave three points in return for six points.
In the face of her relatives, she can't even get the most basic care. This strong contrast made Zhu Zhe feel deep disappointment and heartache. This experience made Zhu Zhe realize that if she hadn't been heartbroken, she would never treat her "family" in this way.
But fortunately, Zhu Zhe did not choose to continue to repay his grievances with virtue. She understands that if she blindly meets all the requirements of her siblings and family, although she may keep this family relationship, it is not what she wants.
True family affection should go both ways, rather than her blindly giving but not getting any warm response. Through this incident, Zhu Zhe finally understood that her family's vigilance and indifference to her had gone deep into her bone marrow.
This cognitive process, although painful, has also made her more awake and stronger. She began to think that it was time to make a new choice in her life. After this incident, Zhu Zhe finally made up his mind to change the status quo.
Fourth, she realized that continuing to maintain this unequal relationship would only make her more and more miserable. Although the blood relationship is difficult to part, she understands that true family affection should be mutual understanding and support.
Zhu Zhe decided to resolutely refuse his younger brother to "enter the house" and no longer meet the unreasonable demands of his family. This decision made her feel both relieved and heartbroken. The relief is that it is finally no longer used as an ATM; Heart-wrenching is having to draw a line with loved ones.
In the process of making this decision, Zhu Zhe experienced a fierce inner struggle. She recalls the years when she sacrificed for her family when she was young, and also thinks of the neglect and use of her family over the years.
In the end, the instinct of self-preservation prevailed over blind family affection, and she chose to take responsibility for herself. Zhu Zhe understands that if she continues to meet all the requirements of her younger siblings and family, she may be able to keep this family relationship, but this is not what she wants.
She realized that even if blood is thicker than water, family affection needs to go both ways. Zhu Zhe blindly gived and couldn't get a warm response, only her family's vigilance against her, anyone would be chilled.
Although this decision was difficult, Zhu Zhe knew that it was necessary. She began to learn to give more love to herself, and she also began to cherish those who genuinely cared about her, such as her colleagues and friends.
Zhu Zhe realized that she could no longer be a person who only knew how to repay grievances with virtue. Although this choice may bring some people's incomprehension, Zhu Zhe firmly believes that this is a manifestation of responsibility for himself.
She no longer allows anyone, not even her loved ones, to take advantage of her kindness and dedication. Zhu Zhe is determined to establish healthy boundaries and protect himself from being harmed. This decision marked an important turning point in Zhu Zhe's life.
She is no longer the "good old man" who is slaughtered by others, but has begun to learn to love herself and cherish her life. Although the process may be difficult, Zhu Zhe knows that this is the path she must take.
After making this difficult decision, Zhu Zhe began a journey of self-redemption. She understands that true family affection should go both ways, not blindly demanding. She began to re-examine her life and strive to build healthy relationships.
Fifth, at work, Zhu Zhe treats her colleagues and subordinates as well. Her kindness and integrity have not changed because of the hurt of her family, but she cherishes the sincere relationship in the workplace even more.
Zhu Zhe is still able to empathize with the employees under him and is willing to stand up for them. This attitude has earned her the respect and trust of her colleagues, making her feel like a fish in water in the workplace.
In life, Zhu Zhe learned to cherish those friends who really cared about her, and established a warm social circle. She no longer gives all her love to those family members who don't know how to cherish it, but she learns to find balance in various relationships.
Although the relationship with her original family is still a pain in her heart, Zhu Zhe knows that her decision is the right one. She no longer allows anyone to take advantage of her kindness, but has learned to find a balance between giving and self-preservation.
This change made Zhu Zhe feel more relaxed and free than ever. Zhu Zhe's story tells us that sometimes, loving yourself is the greatest courage. Her choice is not only responsible for herself, but also the pursuit of healthy relationships.