The 4 most hidden ways to abolish a person, the sooner you know it, the more you will benefit

Franklin Book Club

2024-07-16 09:59Posted in Jiangxi Emotional Field Creator

Author: Zz Manor Diary (Rich Book Author)

United States writer Stephen · King said, "Hell never makes you fall immediately, but engulfs you little by little." "There are many things in life that seem to be calm on the surface, and you can't see any impact at once.

In fact, like a boiled frog in warm water, it will unconsciously eat away at a person's foundation, and when you wake up, you will find out that it is too late.

Just like the four hidden traps below, the sooner we know about them, the better.

Seek certainty in everything

In the book "Tearing Down the Walls of Thought", there is such a story:

A girl approached a classical teacher and wanted to ask him about her future career direction.

The girl is currently working as a teacher in a small city, and although her income is not high, she has a stable job.

Seeing her classmates and friends around her, some buying cars and houses, and some getting married and having children, she felt inexplicably anxious.

On the one hand, she is not satisfied with the status quo, and she doesn't want to be like the people around her, who can work at a glance and work all her life.

On the other hand, he is reluctant to give up his "iron rice bowl", and is worried that if he chooses a job again, it is not as good as now.

She also wanted to use the graduate school entrance examination to get rid of the current situation, but she was afraid of "what if she couldn't pass the exam after a year of revision".

She is always desperate to get an accurate answer and then put it into action, but reality does not give her a clear answer as she wants.

This caused her to fall into great anxiety, unable to do anything, and eventually wasted a lot of time day after day.

The classical teacher told her that if a person is obsessed with the pursuit of certainty, he is easy to become a slave to the "sense of security".

Before you start acting, you can anticipate the outcome and pursue a definite answer to everything, which will only stagnate you and lose the infinite possibilities of life.

In life, I don't know if you have ever had such thoughts:

I want to take the vocational certificate, but I am afraid that my foundation is weak and I will not be able to keep up with the progress, and I am also worried about bad luck.

Seeing that everyone else signed up for classes and started studying, I was still hesitant and finally stuck on my thoughts.

I want to do a side hustle to increase my income, but I don't know which type I am suitable for, and I am afraid of taking risks, so I can only discourage.

The pursuit of certainty in everything is like setting a shackle on oneself, invisibly shackling one's hands and feet.

Not only is it easy for people to miss opportunities, but it also erases thousands of possibilities for the future, making people's life path narrower and narrower.

I agree with the sentence: "Thinking is a problem, and doing will have an answer." ”

Don't be afraid of those uncertain things, you might as well try to be brave first, work hard first, and then have generously, and believe that time will give the best answer.

Accustomed to suffering from the lower levels

In the book, Mr. Kazuo Inamori divides suffering into two types: one is consumable suffering and the other is growth suffering.

Suffering the first type will consume a person's physical strength and kill his time, but it will not improve his current situation.

And suffering the second kind of suffering will enrich one's brain, improve your own strength, and thus change the trajectory of your life.

Blogger @燕阳天 once shared a personal experience:

The year before last, their company recruited two new employees, Xiao Li and Xiao Wang.

Both joined the company's business at the same time, but the end result was very different.

Xiao Wang is the earliest to arrive at the company every time and the latest to get off work. As soon as I arrived at the company, I started to make phone calls to do business, and I rarely communicated with others.

He worked like crazy every day, burying his head in hard work, but his performance was still dismal every month.

The company implements the last elimination system, and in the end, Xiao Wang had no choice but to resign.

And Xiao Li commutes to and from work on time every day, and is especially good at thinking and communicating.

I often ask for advice and communicate with my seniors, and I will take a little time every day to review and summarize the key and difficult points in my work.

At the same time, we will also analyze and study some past successful cases to learn from each other's strengths.

As a result, his performance was among the best, and he was undoubtedly promoted and raised in the end.

Many times, we also unconsciously step into similar traps:

I always feel that I have to endure hardships to become a superior person.

I thought that as long as I put in enough time and energy, I would be able to wait for a response.

Not all the sufferings are worth bearing, they only make you physically tired, but they do not improve your abilities.

It's like the famous rat race experiment:

Although the little mouse runs around in the cage day and night, it is still trapped in the cage.

Low-level suffering always gives people the illusion that they are trapped in endless busyness, but they are not beneficial to their own growth.

Only high-level suffering can make you grow upwards and firmly hold the initiative of life in your hands.

Indulge in the fun of "nipple fun".

Professor Luo Xiang said that "nipple music" refers to those easy-to-get, short-lived, material or sensory satisfactions, such as watching videos, playing games, etc.

And "nipple music" is like spiritual opium, which is eroding our lives bit by bit.

saw such a self-description in the post of Zhihu netizen @南汐玲玲子:

One day, she came home from work and lay in bed after washing.

After a day at work, she was ready to swipe her phone and relax before she started reading.

But before she knew it, she had brushed until one o'clock in the morning, but she was still sleepy.

It was only at the thought of going to work the next day that she forced herself to go to sleep.

In retrospect, she seems to be like this often, she just wants to relax, but she wastes a lot of time on her mobile phone, and instead squeezes out her rest time.

He only indulges in momentary pleasures, but ignores his original study plan, and falls into endless anxiety afterwards.

In the comment area, many people also said that they had such a time:

Originally, I just wanted to relax, and I didn't want to click on the short video and never stop.

When I stopped, I found that my eyes were sore, my head was swollen, and I was even more unenergetic.

In an age where entertainment reigns, it seems that getting pleasure has become a breeze.

As soon as you turn on your phone, many worries will be temporarily left behind.

On the surface, it seems to be resting, but in fact, it is just a different way to drain your energy.

If this is done repeatedly, then one day one day one will be dragged down by low-level rest.

Quit those cheap pleasures and do something that really relaxes your body and mind.

While it may not be as exciting in the moment, it can bring long-term benefits.

Leave time for books and sleep, and let that knowledge broaden your horizons and illuminate every moment of confusion for you.

Let sleep and exercise be the best companions in your life and rebuild a healthy body for you.

When you get away from the fun of "nipple fun" and learn to delay gratification, you will eventually meet a better version of yourself in time.

Reduced to a prisoner of thinking

In 1903, Ford introduced a "Model T".

As soon as this model was launched, it aroused the love of consumers and made the company's sales far ahead in the same industry.

Over the next few years, founder Henry continued to expand the market, but only produced the same model in a single and large series.

At this time, he was asked, "Why not try to introduce some new models, even if it is a different color?" ”

However, Henry decisively refused, he always believed that the practicality of the car was far more important than the appearance, and there was really no need to toss.

But at this moment, several competitors launched new cars, and sales instantly surpassed the Model T.

Henry was still stubborn and chose to use price cuts to increase sales, but the effect was minimal, and the company was forced to stop production because of the continuous price reduction, which led to a backlog of inventory.

Henry regretted not being at the beginning, because his complacency not only lost the throne of the number one car sales at that time, but also brought huge losses to the company.

If he hadn't blindly followed the old way of thinking, would things have ended differently?

Schopenhauer said, "The largest prison in the world is the consciousness of the human mind." ”

Many times, it is not external forces that trap a person, but his inherent thinking.

Just like the frog at the bottom of the well, only clinging to the one-third of an acre in front of him, how can he see the vast world outside?

The biggest enemy in life is never external resistance, but inertial thinking and empiricism.

They are like an invisible wall that hinders us from moving forward.

Those who can continue to move forward on the road of life are never favored by anyone, but can get rid of the old thinking, so that they have more ways out.

Warren Buffett once said, "The chains of habit are too light to be felt, until they become too heavy to break." ”

This sentence is like a mirror. Those seemingly insignificant behaviors and habits often unconsciously shape our lives and determine our destiny.

You don't have to cling to certainty in everything, so that the brave can enjoy the world first.

Refuse to suffer low-level hardships, take the initiative to take the road that is conducive to your own growth, and let those hardships become the best assistance for you to climb upward.

Ditch cheap pleasures, learn to enjoy delayed gratification, and set aside time for things that really nourish your body and mind.

Tear down the high walls in your thinking, don't be trapped by the inherent thinking mode, you might as well think more, try more, and the road of life will be wider and wider.

May you not be deceived by superficial phenomena, discern the pearls, identify those hidden traps, always remain sober, and live a better life for the rest of your life.

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