Wen'er
When it comes to mother, almost everyone's heart is soft, and when it comes to mother, there are countless words of praise. Mom is the feng shui of the family, which determines the fortune of the family and the emotions of the family members.
But in daily life, there is such a kind of mother, they always have the ability to make the family unhappy, their existence is like a dark cloud in the family, so that the atmosphere of the whole family has become depressed and heavy. Whenever she is mentioned, the faces of her family are always tired and helpless. This kind of mother is like an endless storm that makes the family's life miserable, and even if she wants to escape, she can't seem to find a way out. Whoever has this type of mother in the family, the family is in dire straits, and they can't hide from it.
Ask for your own hardships
This type of mother always seems to have endless work, from morning to night, from the kitchen to the living room, to the bedroom, she is everywhere. At the same time, her mouth is always complaining: "I am tired and tired all day long, but you don't help anything, it's all for you, you can't do anything without me, etc.!" Such complaints, echoing in the house all the time, make everyone feel depressed.
In fact, everyone in the family knows that she is hard and willing to help, but her attitude discourages us, for fear of accidentally touching her moldy head.
Boasting that he has contributed the most to the family
In my mother's heart, I am undoubtedly the pillar of the family and the source of happiness for everyone. Whenever there is something good in the family, she is always the first to stand up and ask for credit; And if something goes wrong, she will quickly find an excuse and push the blame away. What's even more unacceptable is that she always likes to repeatedly mention her "great achievements" in front of her family, as if every bit of progress in her family is inseparable from her efforts. This behavior of claiming to have contributed the most to the family makes other family members feel neglected and belittled. While we appreciate her efforts, we also hope that she can see our efforts instead of blindly emphasizing her own importance.
Self-proclaimed king, standing on all kinds of commanding heights, all kinds of insults, attacks and injuries to those closest to him
If the first two points can be barely accepted, then this point is enough to make people feel cold. This type of mom always seems to have a habit of stinging the softest parts of the family with sharp words. Whether it is the child's academic performance or the partner's work performance, as long as there is a slight disappointment, she will immediately stand on the moral high ground to accuse and abuse.
Her words were full of negativity and belittlement, making her family feel worthless. What's even sadder is that she never seemed to realize how hurtful her words were, and never thought of apologizing or making amends. Children who grow up in this environment tend to be introverted, have low self-esteem, and lack self-confidence. They crave recognition and love, but they fear being hurt again. What mom needs to understand is that the power of words is immense. A warm word can make people happy, while a hurtful word can make people hate for a lifetime.