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In this seemingly open era, why are there still people who are so obsessed with women's "chastity"? Qiu Yingying in "Ode to Joy" was disgusted by her boyfriend because she was not a "virgin", which caused heated discussions.
However, several other heroines in the play have also had emotional experiences, why is Qiu Yingying the only one treated like this? What kind of social problems are reflected behind this? Let's take a look at the truth behind this "virgin complex" farce.
Qiu Yingying: Pure or silly and sweet?
The role of Qiu Yingying, to be honest, is really loved and hated. She is warm and simple, and she is righteous to her friends, qualities that should be liked. But when it comes to feelings, she is like a brainless silly white sweet, and people can't help but want to pound the wall.
Her first romance was nothing short of tragic. As long as the scumbag of Director Bai hooked his fingers, Qiu Yingying ran over. People didn't even have a serious pursuit, so she took the initiative to give her a hug. What's even more outrageous is that when the good sister Qu Xiaoxuan kindly reminded her, not only did she not appreciate it, but also said that people seduced her boyfriend.
This is so simple, this is obviously stupid!
In the end, I was cheated of money and sex, and I lost my job, and I realized repentance. But she had to be cleaned up by others for her, which was really infuriating and helpless.
followed by the innocent love between her and Ying Qin. Qiu Yingying knew that Ying Qin was an old antique who valued girls' "chastity" very much, but she still had to lie to others that she had never been in love. After the results were discovered, Ying Qin did not hesitate to propose to break up.
To be honest, the brainless concept of Ying Qin is really uncomfortable. But Qiu Yingying, since you know that people are this kind of people, why do you need to stalk them? It's not your fault that you're not a virgin, and now it's not a feudal society, who still takes this as proof of a girl's chastity?
But Qiu Yingying just doesn't know how to stop losses in time, so she has to hold on to her duties. Even if Ying Qin reluctantly accepted her later, this matter will always become a stain on her. Isn't this self-inflicted?
The situation of the other sisters is very different
Looking at the situation of the other sisters on the 22nd floor, it is a world of difference.
Fan Shengmei is the goddess that Wang Baichuan took great pains to catch. Wang Baichuan knew in his heart that on Fan Shengmei's terms, he must have had a lot of boyfriends. But he fully understands that he will not dislike Fan Shengmei because of this matter at all.
Qu Xiaoxuan and Dr. Zhao were even more simply, and they rolled together not long after they met. This shows that they are very open to the affairs of men and women, and they don't mind each other's past at all.
As for Andy, that's even less to say. She had a relationship with Wei Wei, but this did not affect Bao Yifan's love for her at all. Bao Yifan himself has had a lot of girlfriends before, how can he care about this kind of thing.
is also a girl who has had emotional experience, why can other people be accepted, but Qiu Yingying should be disliked?
The real reason why Qiu Yingying was disliked
If you want to say why Qiu Yingying is disliked, there are actually many reasons.
First of all, her personality is too simple. It is simple to say that it sounds good, and it is stupid to say that it is ugly. This kind of personality is easy to suffer in relationships, and it is easy to make people think that she is not mature enough.
Secondly, she doesn't know how to stop losses in time. Knowing that Ying Qin is an old antique, he still has to fight to the death, isn't this asking for hardship? If she could be decisive, she wouldn't be disliked because of this.
However, the most critical reason is actually from her original family.
Qiu Yingying's father is a typical patriarchal mentality. He knew that his daughter was not suitable for survival in a big city, but for the sake of the so-called face, he smashed the pot and sold iron to let Qiu Yingying develop in the big city.
In Qiu's father's eyes, Qiu Yingying is simply a shame if she is not a virgin, as if her daughter is inferior all of a sudden.
There is such a description in the original book:
"Since I was a child, I have never been willing to move a finger of you, and I have always worked hard to educate you about the rules, but look at what you have done for me. You still want to hide it from me, and you know shame too? Know that I poke you back and forth. Your mother and I, how did you teach you since you were a child, ah? We have always taught you to be obedient, to be obedient, to be diligent, what about you? What the hell is going on with you?"
These words can be said to have exposed Qiu's father's thoughts. In his opinion, his daughter is either a virgin or unruly, or disobedient, or disgraces him.
What's even more sad is that even though he knew that his daughter was disliked, Qiu's father still wanted his daughter to cling to Yingqin. There is also such a description in the original book:
When they arrived at the door, Qiu's father and Ying's father went to the trunk to pick up their luggage together, one of you and one of me, and they were very happy to grab it. Father Qiu laughed: Don't rob me, you hurry up and watch Ying Qin and let him walk carefully. Seeing that Ying Qin was struggling to walk, Ying's father hurriedly pulled his luggage and joined his wife and children and went upstairs together. Qiu's father followed behind with large bags and small bags, panting heavily, very hard.
In order to allow his daughter to marry into the Ying family, Qiu's father did not hesitate to grovel and desperately curry favor with the Ying family's parents. This kind of behavior, I have to say, is really sad.
Netizens are hotly discussed: virginity complex or double standard?
This incident quickly aroused heated discussions among netizens on the Internet. Some netizens think that Ying Qin's virgin complex is too ridiculous: "What age are they, do you still care about this?" What a feudal antique!"
Some netizens also stood on Qiu Yingying's side: "Although Qiu Yingying is indeed a little silly and sweet, it is not her fault that she is not a virgin." People like Ying Qin don't deserve love at all!"
Some netizens pointed out the social problems reflected in this incident: "Why are several other girls who have also had emotional experiences not disliked?" Isn't that a blatant double standard?"
According to data, in a survey of the post-90s, as many as 73% of men said that they did not mind whether the other half was a virgin, but at the same time, 62% of men thought that virgins were more attractive. This ambivalence seems to confirm the double standards that society has for women.
However, some netizens defended Ying Qin: "Everyone has their own criteria for choosing a mate, what's wrong with Ying Qin liking virgins?" Since Qiu Yingying knows that she doesn't meet the other party's requirements, why do she still lie to people?"
Some netizens pointed the finger at Qiu Yingying's family education: "Just look at Qiu's father's appearance, Qiu Yingying has had problems with the education she has received since she was a child." Her tragedy is a combination of family and society. "
Write at the end
Looking at the whole incident, it is not difficult to find that Qiu Yingying's experience actually reflects many prejudices and injustices against women in society.
The so-called "virginity complex" is essentially a kind of objectification and discrimination against women. It assumes that women's worth lies in their "purity" and ignores their other qualities and talents as individuals.
At the same time, isn't this concept a constraint on men? It imposes an irrational expectation on men, causing them to become obsessed with the "purity" of their partner, and instead ignore the emotional connection and value alignment that really matters.
In an era where there should be more openness and equality, we should abandon this old notion. Everyone, male or female, should be treated as a whole individual, rather than simply being judged by criteria such as "virgin or not".
So the question is: have you ever been in a similar situation in real life? What do you think should be done to change this prejudice and discrimination against women? Feel free to share your thoughts and experiences in the comment section.