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3 women, 3 destinies: Who said that "low marriage and high marriage" are doomed to be miserable?
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In that hierarchical ancient society, marriage has never been a simple private matter, especially for women, it is more like a big gamble, betting on their own life, and "low door and high marriage" is like a dangerous bargaining chip, some people use it in exchange for glory and wealth, some people fall into the abyss, and some people use it to pry the gears of fate, and finally live their own wonderful
The TV series "Do You Know If You Should Be Green, Fat, Red and Thin" shows us the joys and sorrows of such a marriage, among them, the fate of the three women Xiao Shen, Minglan and Zhang Guifen is particularly thought-provoking, they have different backgrounds and different personalities, but they have all experienced the test of "low door and high marriage", and finally came to a completely different ending
Xiao Shen: Gaomen's dowry, can't you get sincerity?
When I first saw Xiao Shen, I only felt that she was innocent, lively and cute, like a carefree bird, flying freely in the high walls of the deep palace, she was the emperor's sister-in-law, the queen's own sister, with the halo of "the daughter of the national uncle's mansion", a collection of thousands of favors, but such a seemingly noble woman, but in the marriage event, embarked on the road of "low door and high marriage".
Her husband is the Erlang of the Zheng family, born in a family of military generals, holding the forbidden army, and leaning towards the government and the opposition, for this marriage, others are envious, and feel that the Xiao Shen family has climbed to a high branch, but only she knows in her heart that this marriage is more like a product of a political marriage, she is like a beautiful gift, which was sent to the Zheng family to consolidate the relationship between the emperor and the Zheng family
On the wedding night, Xiao Shen waited for her husband to remove the hijab with joy, but only waited for a cold "rest early", and at that moment, she realized that the dowry of the high family could not be exchanged for sincerity, nor could it be exchanged for true happiness
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After marriage, Xiao Shen still maintains an innocent character, she likes to be lively, likes to have fun, and disdains those red tape, which makes the Zheng family's wife from a famous family very headache, feeling that she is "childish" and cannot be put on the stage, and Xiao Shen's sister-in-law, that is, the grandmother of the Zheng family, is even more suspicious of her, and is wary of her everywhere, for fear that she will threaten her status
In the Zheng family, Xiao Shen is like a clumsy kitten who strayed into a porcelain shop, hitting walls and frustrations everywhere, she longs for her husband's love and respect, and longs to integrate into the family, but reality beats her back to her original form again and again
Xiao Shen did not give up because of this, although she was naïve, she was not stupid, she understood that if she wanted to gain a foothold in the Zheng family, it was not enough to rely on the power of her mother's family, but more importantly, to win her husband's heart and win the recognition of the Zheng family
She began to restrain her temperament, learn to be a housekeeper, learn how to get along with people, she treats everyone sincerely, whether it is the high-minded Mrs. Zheng family, or the grandmother of the Zheng family who treats her coldly, she treats it with a sincere heart
Gradually, the Zheng family began to accept this seemingly "unruly" sister-in-law, and they found that although Xiao Shen was naïve, she was kind-hearted and had no bad intentions, and her optimistic energy also infected the people around her
And Xiao Shen's husband was gradually moved by her sincerity and kindness, he began to care for her and take care of her, and the relationship between the two gradually warmed up
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In the end, Xiao Shen with their own efforts and sincerity, won their own happiness, although she "low door high marriage", but did not become a victim of politics, but found themselves in marriage, to achieve growth, her story tells us that the happiness of marriage, never determined by birth, but need both sides to work together, care for the heart
Minglan: Born in a low family, but living a transparent life
is different from Xiao Shen's "low door and high marriage", Minglan 's marriage is more like a counterattack, she is from a humble background, she is the unloved concubine of the Sheng family, she has seen the warmth and coldness of people since she was a child, and she has also cultivated her cautious and forbearant character
For marriage, Minglan didn't have much hope, she just wanted to find someone who would "live in peace", but fate played a joke on her and pushed her to Gu Tingye, who was in power and opposition
Who is Gu Tingye? He is the second son of the Marquis of Ningyuan's Mansion, a decisive general on the battlefield, and a capable minister who strategizes in the court, how could such a proud son of heaven fall in love with Minglan from a humble background?
The answer is simple, because of love
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Gu Tingye admired Minglan for her intelligence and transparency, and was even more attracted by her neither humble nor arrogant bearing, he knew that what Minglan wanted was not glory and wealth, but a sincerity and respect
And Minglan was also moved by Gu Tingye's sincerity and responsibility, she knew that although Gu Tingye was born noble, he was not a gentleman, he had the world in mind, he cared about the people, and was a person worthy of being entrusted for life
They broke through the prejudices of the world and came together
Life after marriage is not all smooth sailing, Minglan has to face the complex family relationship of the Gu family, and has to deal with all kinds of open guns and hidden arrows, but she relies on her wisdom and courage to resolve them one by one
She did not feel inferior because of "low marriage and high marriage", nor did she lose herself because of Gu Tingye's favor, she always kept a clear head, knew what she wanted, and knew how to fight for it
She is filial to her elders, loves her brothers and sisters, keeps the Gu family in good order, and has become Gu Tingye's strongest backing
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In the end, Minglan used her own efforts to win the respect of everyone, but also to harvest her own happiness, her story tells us that birth does not determine everything, the important thing is that you have enough wisdom and courage to face the challenges in life, to strive for your own happiness
Zhang Guifen: A daughter of a high family, but she lost to herself
Compared with Xiao Shen and Minglan, Zhang Guifen's fate seems somewhat tragic, she is from a famous family, is the concubine of the United Kingdom government, has been dressed and eaten since she was a child, and has been loved by thousands of people
In the matter of marriage, Zhang Guifen also chose to "marry low and high", she married her uncle Shen Congxing, this marriage, in the eyes of outsiders, is a match made in heaven, but only Zhang Guifen herself knows that she married Shen Congxing, not because of love, but because of family interests
After marriage, Zhang Guifen has always maintained a lofty attitude, she looks down on Shen Congxing's background, and she also looks down on those poor relatives of the Shen family, she doesn't know how to manage marriage, let alone how to love someone
She put all her energy into fighting for power and profit, she wanted to be the mistress of the Shen family, she wanted to control everything, but she ignored her husband's feelings, and also ignored the most precious feelings between husband and wife
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In the end, Zhang Guifen's arrogance and selfishness pushed Shen Congxing farther and farther, and also laid the groundwork for his tragic fate
Shen Congxing took a concubine, Zhang Guifen was jealous, but there was nothing she could do, she could only watch her husband shush other women and ask for warmth, while she was like a resentful woman, guarding the empty room alone
In the end, Zhang Guifen ended her young life in despair and pain, and her story tells us that marriage is not a child's play, let alone a tool for power and profit, and only by operating with heart can we reap happiness
Three women, three destinies, and their stories reveal the true meaning of marriage for us, and also let us understand that happiness is never easy to achieve, it requires us to manage it with our hearts and protect it with wisdom
Whether it is "low door high marriage" or "high door low marriage", the final decision of fate is not the background, but ourselves, only by constantly improving ourselves, in order to find ourselves in marriage, live our own wonderful
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