The hard work you have paid for him, the little bits and pieces of raising children, that is meaningful.
Whether it is self-deception or true love, you can see through it at a glance.
Measured in six words, you can immediately know how true and false this man's feelings for you are.
In this way, the hardships and tears you have endured over the years can be accounted for.
01
Respect.
If the relationship between two people wants to go long-term, it is not how romantic it is, but how equal and respectful it is in the bones.
For example, I have a girlfriend whose husband wanted her to take care of her at home after marriage, but she insisted on working, and her husband agreed, and also kindly hired a nanny to make time for her to work hard.
This is respect, respect for her choices, and recognition of her abilities.
Such a relationship is equal and comfortable, not condescending, and does not forcibly change the other party.
But on the contrary, some men don't respect their wives when they talk on weekdays, and they shout at every turn, acting like an "emperor" in the family.
Such a family relationship, over time, is very detrimental to the woman's physical and mental health.
This kind of disrespect is actually contempt from the bottom of the heart, and it is to treat the other party as inferior.
To put it bluntly, a man's attitude towards a woman is the real position he has positioned for the other party in his heart.
In the relationship between the sexes, only respect can keep both parties equal, and it is possible to go on for a long time.
02
Identity.
To truly love someone, not only to love her strengths, but also to tolerate her small shortcomings.
At dinner a few days ago, I saw a girl and her boyfriend at the dinner table, the man kept belittling and accusing the woman, his words were sharp, the woman didn't say a word, and the atmosphere was very embarrassing.
To be honest, this kind of endless accusation is simply emotional garbage, as if there is nothing to be desired in the other party.
To put it bluntly, there are no perfect people in this world, everyone has shortcomings, including this man himself, why should he be harsh on others?
True love is recognition, encouragement, and the ability to tolerate everything about the other person when she is most imperfect.
If a man only treats women as vases or worthless playthings, then the woman in this relationship is destined to have a bad life.
True high-level love is the appreciation of strengths and the tolerance of shortcomings.
A man who can be full of praise and encouragement to a woman is worthy of talking about the word "true love".
This kind of relationship will make each other feel comfortable, instead of exhausting feelings in accusations.
03
Treasure.
When men and women get along, it is more about the quality of the details of life, rather than doing some romantic tricks every day.
In reality, a man's true love for a woman is not because he can talk sweetly, but because he can share responsibilities and take care of each other in life.
I saw a post before, a female netizen worked hard during the day, came home at night, and found that her husband only cared about playing with his mobile phone, not doing any housework, and she was alone in a mess of things at home, which made her cry aggrieved.
To be honest, this kind of relationship will only continue to consume a woman's mental strength and make her feel cold.
Not every man has romantic cells, and not everyone has the leisure to be romantic every day.
Most people are busy with their lives and rushing to make a living, and it is obviously unrealistic to expect romance every day, but this does not prevent them from showing their love with practical actions.
Sharing housework and understanding each other's hardships are the most authentic emotional support between husband and wife.
If a man can truly cherish a woman's dedication in life, care about her daily life, and understand her hardships, this kind of long-term care is more real than any romantic move.
Most of such women will not have a bad life, because her dedication is seen and cherished, and there is real warmth support in life.
At the end of the day, romance is beautiful, but it doesn't have to be romantic to measure love.
Love is a real mutual support, a man sharing housework, shouldering family responsibilities, and making a woman feel cherished in the bits and pieces of life.
Don't let a woman pay cold, but let her pay get a warm response, such a man is a person worthy of being with him for a lifetime.
Let my words come into your heart
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