#焦恩俊称与林千钰和平分开 #
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Middle-aged couples, separated for a long time, will they still have feelings for each other?
It turns out that as long as two people are separated for a long time, they will eventually go to divorce. No one can stand a long period of cold violence, if you and I are just a nominal couple, then why should we wronged ourselves to maintain an empty shell marriage?
If you can get by, you can't disperse too early, and the two people will be okay, and there is not much practical significance.
Recently, Jiao Enjun's wife Lin Qianyu talked about her marriage with Jiao Enjun in the show, saying that everything is a karmic obstacle, "Anyway, the karmic obstacle is over, it is natural to bye bye like this."
Jiao Enjun may have seen what Lin Qianyu said, and he responded by tweeting: "Karmic obstacles? Isn't it peaceful to say after separation: Will it still be a lifelong friend? Well, it's all right, I wish you happiness, peace, and happiness. ”
After the divorce, can the two people continue to be friends?
People who have experienced it know that the so-called friends after divorce are just a scene after all. Two people once loved deeply, and then married, the result is that the relationship between each other is not handled well in the marriage, and when they have to separate, they will only have more resentment towards each other, where can they be calm and friends.
Jiao Enjun and Lin Qianyu were married in 2014, and in 2019, they were exposed to the Cold War for 2 years, and in these two years, the two of them were equivalent to maintaining an empty shell marriage, breaking the bond for two full years. Two people are husband and wife, but they are strangers than ordinary friends, can they not complain about each other?
It is no wonder that Lin Qianyu compared their marriage to a "karmic obstacle", it seems that this marriage is really too painful for her.
Jiao Enjun said that he and Lin Qianyu were separated peacefully: divorce or friends, after all, is just a scene.
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Jiao Enjun and Lin Qianyu are married for the second time.
We all know Jiao Enjun and his daughter Jiao Manting, but we know very little about his married life. This also has something to do with his age and style of doing things, in the early years, when Jiao Enjun was on fire, no one was interested in picking up his private life, he was a relatively low-key man.
Jiao Enjun debuted in 90 years, at first he mostly acted in Qiong Yao dramas, and later began to act in martial arts dramas. We were also impressed by martial arts dramas, such as "Little Li Flying Knife", "Flying Knife Asking Love", and later "Baolian Lantern", and then we felt that he rarely acted, some declined, and we rarely saw his traces.
In 1994, 27-year-old Jiao Enjun married Fendi and had two daughters.
But in 2005, when Jiao Enjun had a good career, he divorced his ex-wife, and some people said that his ex-wife cheated on him. Jiao Enjun chose to leave the house in order to get custody of his two daughters. From this point of view, he feels that he is quite responsible, is a good father, and there are not many men who can get the custody of their daughters.
Besides, a man growing up with two daughters also has to pay a lot of hard work during this period.
From 05 to 14 years, almost ten years, Jiao Enjun remarried, and I don't know if it was because of his daughter.
Last year, Lin Qianyu revealed that she and her husband Jiao Enjun had been disconnected for 2 years, and even during the epidemic period, the two sides did not contact each other. She described the relationship as just "the spouse's name is still there." Lin Qianyu also said, "He may have arrived at menopause, and it will take him more time."
Jiao Enjun and Lin Qianyu's Weibo interaction in 2017 and 2018 is quite frequent, and there has indeed been no interaction in these two years. Although both of them sent Microblogs related to their families, they did not have each other's figures.
Once they were quite loving, and now they are really quite sentimental.
In fact, this is not the first time that Jiao Enjun and Lin Qianyu have been rumored to have changed their marriage, and in 2019, the two were exposed to have no contact for a year because of a quarrel. Jiao Enjun's daughter Jiao Manting directly said in an interview that no matter what her father makes, he will support it, and the words seem to reveal a non-optimistic attitude towards Jiao Enjun's marriage.
What are middle-aged couples afraid of? A quarrel without contact is a cold war. We often say that "there is no overnight vendetta between husband and wife", but if it is really more real, no one is willing to coax anyone, nor give each other a step, then the marriage between you is in jeopardy. There is no third party, but such a marriage is not a long-term solution. One year or two years is okay, three years and five years or ten years, who can stand it.
When people reach middle age, how many couples are living in an "empty shell"?
Even if the feelings are weak, they should give each other a room for maneuver and please each other, instead of being so stiff.
If the cold war does not solve the problem for a long time, there will only be one result, that is, divorce, and you will have a very deep resentment towards each other.
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Being friends after divorce is only a scene after all.
Lin Ya recently ended their ten-year marriage with her husband, saying that it was a ten-year marriage, and they had been separated for three years. During the three years of separation, the two of them could not think of contacting each other, and what could remind Lin Ya that she still had a husband was their marriage license.
Once, Lin Ya cleaned the hygiene of the house, accidentally turned to the marriage certificate, she looked at the familiar photos on it, and smiled bitterly: "It turns out that I have a husband, but the two of us have been separated for a long time." He didn't know what I was busy with, and I didn't know what he was busy with. ”
The two of them separated because the two people often quarreled, communication was not smooth, and no one was willing to solve the problem, and at the end of the quarrel, the husband packed up his things and moved out. One month, two months, three months, gradually from half a year to a year, and then to three years. They also contacted less and less, not even making a phone call for half a year.
The relationship between two people is cold to this point, is it still a husband and wife?
What Lin Ya originally thought was that he would simply be so cold, maybe he would come back when he was cold. However, the Cold War will only make the feelings of two people disappear, and there will be no benefit.
Lin Lin had planned to make up for the rest of her life until she found out that Pingye had cheated on her. That time she went to Pingye's residence to find him, saw a woman she didn't know, and she understood everything in an instant. However, the strange thing is that Pingye "Kanaya Hides jiao", she is not angry at all, and it is from that time that she began to realize that she has long since lost love for Pingye.
That's it, divorce or let each other go.
Wanting to understand this, Lin Ya also went to the Civil Affairs Bureau with Pingye to go through the formalities. They also survived a one-month cooling-off period for divorce. The cooling-off period is of little use to them, because the word "divorce" has been deeply rooted in their minds for a long time.
When the two people walked out of the Civil Affairs Bureau, Pingye smiled and said to her: "Thank you for letting me go, we will still be friends for a lifetime, if there is anything you talk about, I will be on call." ”
Lin Ya really believed this sentence, once she had stomach cramps in the middle of the night to call Pingye, the phone was picked up by Pingye's second wife, and people directly came to the sentence: "All divorced and not stopped, how do you still harass our family Pingye, you have no end." If it weren't for you, we would both have gotten married long ago, as for waiting so long? Be friends after a divorce, I tell you to dream. ”
After hanging up the phone, Lin Ya sneered for a while, too, they are divorced, how can they still be friends in a calm place.
Two people have to break up when they are in love, and they may be friends, but after divorce, they really can't do it. Each other is each other's former "pillow people", living under the same roof for so long, so many unpleasant things have happened, there is only resentment towards each other, where will there be any feelings?
"Peaceful separation" may not be a quarrel, but it is impossible to be friends after divorce, and no one can be so generous.
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★ Author: YIBAO; emotional original author, writing about the warm emotional affairs of this world.