People have self-knowledge, which shows that self-knowledge is difficult, and it is enough to have a confidant in life, which means that it is even more difficult to have a confidant.
"It is enough to know oneself in life, and Si Dang regards it with the same heart" comes from Xu Shidong's "Notes on Yanyu Lou" in the Qing Dynasty, and Later Lu Xun gave it to Qu Qiubai in the form of a couplet. Everyone could only envy Lu Xun and Qu Jun.
Yu Qihui, 1961 comrade-in-arms - Lu Xun and Qu Qiubai
So, meeting each other is already a fate, how to determine whether the other party is your confidant? Maybe there's not a single person who doesn't want to know. Let's try to start from the following three aspects to confirm the fate in the fate.
First, once recognized by others, you will have the feeling of confidant! People who do the same thing, who are of the same faith or who share the same path. The Tao is different and does not conspire against each other, and those who part ways cannot have a confidant.
It is better than self-knowledge to be a true confidant. Lu Xun was a fighter for the new cultural movement, with a mission and a responsibility, he criticized the pen and used the pen as a gun, but imagined that if he had not met Qu Qiubai, who was a benevolent person, he might not have realized that his pen still had such a great role.
Second, confidants are by no means hot sticks, they need to admire each other, have a sharp mind, and think of each other in everything. And the ability is balanced, the influence is comparable, too high above oneself, what needs to be looked up to, only admiration remains, and there will be no feeling of confidant. If you are too far away from yourself, do you not believe that you will regard him as a confidant?
Third, both sides must have a force to grow upwards, first of all, comrades-in-arms, positive, full of positive energy, courageous to take responsibility, generally people without positive energy gather together, at best called smelly.
On the first anniversary of Lu Xun's death, Mao Zedong once commented: "The value of Lu Xun in China is, in my opinion, the first-class saint of China, Confucius is the saint of feudal society, and Lu Xun is the saint of new China." ”
The benevolence promoted by Confucius is a kind of upward growth force, Lu Xun's life, bowing down to the cow, is a warrior, and has a positive upward force throughout his life.
If the other party meets at least the above three conditions, agrees with each other, walks in the same way, admires each other, has a sharp heart, is positive, and dares to take responsibility, you can consider whether to accept it as a confidant.