<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" > introduction:</h1>
As the saying goes, when a man gets married, a woman should get married, and at a certain age, getting married has become a big thing. Especially women, marriage to seize the opportunity, miss the age, really a lot less opportunities. But in today's society, there are many women who have passed the marriageable age who are still single and have become older leftover women, so let's listen to what three women over 35 years old say.
Chen Yanmei, 36 years old
I worked as a restaurant manager in a five-star hotel with a monthly salary of 10,000 yuan, various subsidies and year-end bonuses.
Today, I have a house, a car, food, clothing, and freedom. Mom and Dad were very happy to see me succeed in my career. I also became a strong woman in the eyes of my friends and family.
Every New Year's Holiday, my friends and relatives like to talk about me the most, always chasing me and asking me why I am not married. Is it that the vision is too high, or is there something wrong with the body?
In their view, 36 years old is an old girl, not married and has no boyfriend, which is a very serious thing. Even if the career is successful, if you don't have a family, it is useless and incomplete.
In fact, I don't care about these gossip, they say theirs, I live my own little life, enjoy myself.
I'm not married at such an old age, it's not that I can't find the right one. I was capable and good looking, and there were a lot of people who pursued me, but I refused them all. In fact, I'm an unmarried person.
I used to be a love brain, talked about two loves, the man is cheating, sad in the moment. Later, I paralyzed myself with work, and I didn't expect to have good results.
After shifting my focus to work, I became sane and became less interested in getting married.
What to do when you get married, the feelings between men and women are uncontrollable, and I don't want to be hurt by feelings again. Looking at the friends around me who are married and have children, their lives are a chicken feather, which makes me more determined not to get married.
I've already planned to work hard to make money, and when I'm old, I'll hire a babysitter to take care of myself, or go to a nursing home for the elderly. What about it? I'll talk about it later, I'm happy now anyway.
The only trouble was that my parents were always worried about me and kept persuading me to find someone to marry quickly, and they didn't approve of the idea that I wouldn't marry. Wait, one day, they'll take my idea.
Zhang Yuting, 35 years old
I work for a skincare company and am very eager to get married. Since the age of 30, as long as there is a blind date opportunity, I have firmly grasped it, but I still can't find a suitable person.
So many blind dates, in fact, there are many men who are quite satisfied with me. I have a gentle personality, tall figure, good facial features, and give a good first impression.
However, when they heard that I had only one relative in my family, my father, and that I was 68 years old and had severe diabetes, those people changed their faces and lost interest in me.
The reality of this society is chilling, and everyone has conditions to find a partner. Don't think that men don't have any demands, they have higher requirements than women.
In fact, I almost got married when I was 28 years old, and then because my mother died in a car accident, my future mother-in-law felt unlucky, so she asked us to postpone the wedding.
A push was delayed for more than a year, and when I mentioned it again, the boyfriend flashed his words, and finally he actually avoided me and chose to develop in the field.
The future mother-in-law said, "Yuting, you don't blame my son, your father has no pension, and he doesn't have a house, and he will definitely rely on you when he gets old." Besides, your dad now has severe diabetes, and the burden is too heavy. You broke up, it's good for both sides, and Auntie hopes you find a suitable one later. ”
It's ridiculous, 5 years of feelings, my first love, was broken because of my parents. I was sad, but helpless.
Now, I have to make money and take care of my father, and I am very eager to have a dependency. I'm also not saying I want to shift responsibility, mainly I want to have a child. Now that I am 35 years old and ready to become an elderly mother, how can I not be in a hurry.
Dad delayed me because of himself, he often sighed, saying that he was useless, and his mental condition had been bad, and I was very worried.
I have positive thoughts about getting married, but the facts run counter. Now I don't know what to do, I'm older, and there is no market. Alas, it's hard to put into words.
Li Meizhu, 38 years old
My name is Li Mei Pearl, and I run a beauty salon with an annual salary of one million. To tell the truth, living to my age, I have no interest in the relationship between men and women, nor do I have the idea of starting a family.
When I was 6 years old, my dad divorced my mom for a woman. My mother took me all the way to stay at my grandmother's house for a few days today, a friend's house for a few days tomorrow, or to a hotel, and there was no place to live.
When I was a child, my biggest wish was to have a home, a stable home. You don't need to look at other people's faces, eat when you want, sit down when you want, and sleep when you want. But these, for my young self, are a kind of luxury.
By the time I was 10 years old, my mother remarried. Later, with my brother and sister, my mother no longer had me in her eyes and heart.
When I was sixteen, I went to a small restaurant to serve dishes and wash dishes. Young, bullied by those old employees, and dare not say a word, that kind of hard work is still unforgettable.
Later, I went to a five-star hotel as a waiter, about two years, and went to sell cosmetics. In short, I have been engaged in many industries, and finally chose the beauty line.
Women love beauty, as long as they have money, they are willing to maintain, the beauty industry is a profiteering industry.
I started at the bottom and spent almost 15 years as the boss. That kind of hardship can only be experienced by oneself.
During this time, my mother divorced again, and then after a few years, three marriages, life is still not good. In this life, she relied on men, paid her heart, and wanted to live a good life, but in the end she failed to do as she wished. What marriage gave her was only scarred.
I also once had a relationship, two years, was cheated out of savings, 30,000 yuan. The hateful man clearly said that he loved me and would be good to me for the rest of his life, but he threw away all my hard-earned money, and I was really blind.
Since then, I've lost very little confidence in marriage for men. Coupled with my mother's experience, it made me even more indifferent to marriage.
If you have money, you can live your life as much as you want, don't be angry, how good. Anyway, I'm enjoying being single now.
Have I ever spoken to death, maybe one day, I met a man who looked good and wanted to get married again? Who knows? Let's talk about it later.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" > concluding remarks:</h1>
From the self-statements of Ms. Chen, Ms. Zhang and Ms. Li, it can be seen that the reasons for not getting married at the age of 35 are various. Some are unmarried; some are very eager to enter marriage, but have burdens and cannot find the right one; some enjoy single life, marriage follows fate.
One thing is for sure, as long as the financial conditions are good and there is no burden on women, they enjoy being single, or even not married. In addition to economic reasons, this is also related to their own independence, in their view, relying on others is better than relying on themselves.
In addition, I hope that those girls who are eager to get married will quickly meet the one who is destined to meet him and have a good relationship. While it may be a little longer to wait, please don't lose faith and come on.
No matter what the reason is that they have not yet married when they reach the marriageable age, they are expected to be happy and not be affected by the world's vision.