Author | Erhe
"The last thing I dare to play is to play video."
"It hurts to punch a boxer, it hurts to hit a video."
Recently, the boxing king Zou Shiming said the above in an interview.
It has been more than 6 years since he took his son Xuan Xuan to participate in "Where Daddy Goes". Because there is usually too little companionship for children, they can only make video calls, and sometimes they call, and the children are already waiting on the sofa to fall asleep...
As a parent, I was poked in an instant, and I could especially understand this kind of heartache.
Although he is a boxer who has gained fame and fortune, and is also the father of the child, the pain caused by boxing can be alleviated, but the pain and guilt of the child are difficult to calm.
Many times, dads are so busy with work that they can't stay with their children all the time. But no matter how busy you are, remember to call your child.
But for children, a phone call, a video, are silently expressing their father's inner concern for them.
Children who receive the warmth of their fathers will be more confident and brave in the company of this love.
Dad's love will make children happier
How happy is a child with a dad? You can see it in their eyes.
Not long ago, Huo Qigang took his daughter to the supermarket, although it is a simple purchase, but with his father, even ordinary small things are full of fun.
Along the way, both father and daughter have talked and laughed. Whether it is pushing the shopping cart hard, closely following Daddy Huo Qigang, or tasting food with Daddy at the booth of free tasting, the little girl always has a crooked smile in her eyes, and when she looks up at her father, she is also full of smiles.
Children who grow up in the company of their fathers are different in the end.
Dad's company, unlike Mom's company, is full of all kinds of novelty and exploration.
A hardcore dad in Shanghai "brought his son's carousel to life."
However, in a month's time, the family's small garage became a playground where all the children in the community were envious and crying. The son looked into his eyes like a big hero.
At first, because his son showed him a self-drawn carousel, he suddenly thought, "Do you want your Trojan to move?" ”
My son's eyes lit up immediately.
So, he took his son, from drawing, to making the base, turntable, installing and fixing, painting, all the little guys in the process were involved. In this way, it took 1 month for the father and son to finally turn this Trojan horse into "alive".
Why not just make it for the kids?
It is obviously more meaningful for children to experience the joy of completing a piece of work by hand.
A month of beating and beating, the hard work of working together, the sense of accomplishment of the moment when the finished product comes out, these will become the beautiful memories that children will never forget for a lifetime.
That's quality companionship, not being in the same room where you play with your phone and he plays with toys.
A study by Yale University scientifically explained the magical power of dads to accompany babies, and children with larger children have higher IQs and are more likely to succeed in society.
What children need is never a luxury toy, let alone the latest mobile phone, but the company of their father.
Maybe every child will face difficulties, but there are children who are nourished by their fathers, and when they face setbacks, they will continue to move forward with this happiness and security.
Dad's ability is big enough to do everything
"Dad, are you a scientist or a magician?"
A father in England is often tortured by the souls of 2 children, because he single-handedly accompanied the baby to a new height.
Take the children out to play, he let the children hold a magnifying glass, carefully look at the flowers and grasses of nature, every time the children marvel and discover, he especially cherishes.
In addition to the explorer, he was also a magician, filling the balloon with baking soda and then pouring it into a bottle filled with vinegar and pigment, and the balloon was blown up!
Suck magnets with coins, watch the coins spin wildly, and the giggles of the children, all piercing the roof.
On sunny days, he took his children to draw the shadows of small animals; in the clear summer, he took the water pipe and conjured a rainbow for the child.
Behind the child's laughter and laughter is his exquisite ingenuity and thoughtfulness for the child.
The two little ones are always clinging to their father like farts, and he also cherishes every minute and every second of accompanying his children.
He said proudly, "I hope that 10 years later, I am extremely proud to think that I have taken care of my children in such an ingenious way!" ”
As long as you are with your father, life is full of surprises.
In "Sometimes, I Like Dads" the dads that children like are like this:
They sometimes liked to play pranks, and he always pinched his nose and pretended to be a girl, calling his cousin: "Hey, I'm your aunt." ”
Dad was still a Hercules, and he would lift big rocks up on the beach and let the children catch crabs.
They also like to watch football, watch rugby with their children, taste good or bad, although they don't understand, but the baby still thinks it's great.
Dad also likes to play the guitar, although he can only play one song, but it is still very good.
Dad is still the king of jokes, walking together in the park, buying marshmallows for me to eat, looking at the sky, Dad suddenly looked surprised: You ate the clouds!
Fooling around together, laughing together, courage and strength, just like this, through the father's smiling face, passed on to the child.
Maybe it's not perfect, maybe the time spent with you is not so much, but every father is the best father who can do anything in the child's heart.
Because they firmly believe that their companionship will pass on to the child a sense of security, this warmth will accompany the child to grow upwards, go farther and farther.
Dad's love makes children more confident
Friends often travel for business because of their work relationship. In the beginning, the child always cries and hugs his thighs and does not let him go.
But later, he took the child to design a game, prepared a map and marker pen, told the child where he went, and then took the child's small hand and carefully told the father what kind of transportation to take.
Then on the road, everywhere he went, he would send his child a postcard full of love and thoughts.
The fear of separation gradually turned into interesting geographical knowledge, and expectation.
Although the little boy still does not know the words, but after receiving, still treat these as treasures, carefully put them in a box, nothing to take out and turn over, the favorite, is to drag the mother to read to himself what the father wrote, the little fat hand nodded at the father's words, focused and happy.
Be carefully accompanied when you are together, and connect with your heart when you are apart.
More and more fathers are gradually coming out of the "inertia absence", giving themselves more responsibilities and carefully accompanying their children.
Although there will be differences, this love will still break through time and space, flow from the father's heart to the child's side.
One of my favorite bloggers, every day before going to bed, would read three sentences by the French writer Desbold to his daughter seriously:
I love you when you see me;
I love you when you can't see me;
I love you when you fight bravely;
I love you when you are scared to run away;
I love you when you imitate me;
When you are yourself, I love you too;
Don't worry, I'll always love you.
What kind of existence is a father in the child's heart?
When children are sad, they will soothe their hearts and bring them a source of happiness;
When a child is lost, they empower the child and support them unconditionally.
Maybe they can't be together all the time, but as long as the father participates and accompanies them with his heart, and passes on the qualities of strong and courageous, generous and confident to the children, it will warm them for a lifetime.
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Author: Erhe, journalist, pastry chef, likes fresh and interesting text, prefers sweet and rich cream. Some of the pictures are from the Internet, and the copyright belongs to the original author.