Some people say: men love because of sex, and women love because of love.
So, is sex important or love important?
A psychologist put it this way:
"Men and women love each other, and sex is the absolute foundation.
Love is incomplete without sex, and the essence of sex is a way of communicating."
Confucius also said that "food color, sex also".
Hong Kong writer Chen Guanzhong wrote in his book Nothing Happened:
In Hong Kong, sex is the big thing; here, sex is like eating and sleeping.
Happy to be in harmony, happy to be divided, there is no need to be nostalgic, and there is no need to possess.
Nothing can be saved a little:
The brand-new house immediately corroded, the iron rusted, and the red wine became sour overnight.
In the movie "Golden Branches and Jade Leaves", the music producer Gu Jiaming played by Zhang Guorong and the singer Rose played by Liu Jialing are a pair of sexual and loveless "golden boys and jade girls", who are shaped fairy tale love because of the working environment.
Golden Branches and Jade Leaves is a love film directed by Chen Kexin and starring Cheung Kwok Wing, Liu Jialing and Yuan Yongyi, which was released in Hong Kong in the summer of 1994 and won the summer box office champion that year.
The film tells the story of the famous music producer Gu Jiaming and his singer Rose, who were originally male and female, a pair of golden boys and jade girls created by heaven and earth, but they gradually became inseparable from each other, and could not enter each other's hearts, until the arrival of Lin Ziying (played by Yuan Yongyi), a "third party" woman dressed as a man, broke the bubble of their love fairy tale, so that they no longer bound each other and pursued the story of the future life they wanted.
01, Rose: How do I love you? Let me do the math one by one
According to the relevant views of ancient philosophy and ancient literature, the social philosopher John F. Kennedy. Allan. Lee, psychologist Hendrick and others have identified three basic forms of love:
Erotic love --- love full of self-revealing romantic passion.
Game Love --- regard love as an irresponsible game.
The love of friendship --- feelings like friendship.
They are like the three primary colors, forming different kinds of secondary forms of love.
Psychologist Robert. Sternberg believed that love was a triangle, and the three sides of this triangle were passion, intimacy, and loyalty.
Passionate love is affectionate, passionate love, and a state of strong desire to be with each other.
Like other agitated emotions, passionate love also contains a sudden change in emotion, suddenly elated, suddenly full of sorrow, suddenly full of heart, suddenly sad and desperate.
It can be said that the love fairy tale of Rose and Jiaming in the movie is more like the passionate love of Rose alone.
Roses, as the name suggests: feminine, gorgeous, and full of charm, but also thorny roses.
At the beginning of the film, the various discord between Rose and Jiaming as lovers is shown:
On the one hand, Rose won the award ceremony for the best singer, but Jiaming was absent, he did not even go to his own award, and Rose took advantage of the award ceremony to excitedly show love to Jiaming.
On the other side, Jia Ming is immersed in the band that accompanied his father, and he is very happy.
When Jiaming prepared a large bouquet of bright red roses to coax the roses, the uncle of the band said:
"You sneeze as soon as you touch the rose, and when you come home, you don't hit the woman from morning to night!"
Change it! ”
In a word, it seems that a word (joke becomes true) paves the way for the later plot.
Then, in the outside of the infinite scenery rose but even sleep to wear makeup to have the confidence to tease Jiaming, and will be for a word of Jiaming and make the temperament tantrums, after the two warm, Jiaming proposed to go to Africa, and Rose did not pay any attention to Jiaming's vision and planning for a trip to Africa, saying alone that he liked Europe and wanted to go shopping in Paris.
The two were more awkward than awkward conversations.
More than 10 minutes from the beginning of the movie have shown that the relationship between the golden boy and the jade girl has been precarious, and only the cellophane has been broken.
Rose is a singer discovered by Jiaming from the bar, and after Jiaming's training and training, she became an excellent singer, and her fame was even higher than that of Jiaming.
Their love for a while became a good story in the music industry and even the entire entertainment industry.
But Rose is very clear in her heart, she loves Jiaming but she also has her own life trajectory, and she as a "work" of Jiaming, she does not want to be just regarded as a work, but she can not go into Jiaming's heart, she can only bind Jiaming through a series of "works", but it makes the two people more embarrassed, going farther and farther.
Just like the music card sent by Jiaming when she confessed Rose, Rose cherished it but would only open it after arguing with Jiaming, because she was not sure about this love at all, and she was afraid that the song would eventually disperse.
Rose deliberately hooked up with other men in order to anger Jiaming, but in exchange for Jiaming's words:
"You find such a piece of material to compare with me"!
Enough to prove that Rose does not understand Jiaming.
In the elevator, because of the elevator failure, Jiaming is afraid, while Rose ignores it.
It is more appropriate to say that roses are more grateful than to say that roses are love for Jiaming, because it is Jiaming who has made her, without Jiaming there would be no her present day, but it is not the love they desire in their hearts.
This kind of love is very tired, so Jiaming doesn't even have the inspiration to create, and can only empathize through the draft.
So Lin Ziying, as a draft singer, broke in and disrupted their lives.
02, Lin Ziying: the "boy" waiting for love
Lin Ziying is a super fan of Rose and Jiaming, super loves Rose, and knows Jiaming very well, because of Rose's radical method of Jiaming, Lin Ziying of "women dressed as men" mistakenly hit and bumped into Jiaming's newly signed civilian singer.
Lin Ziying is very ordinary, but after a period of training, she can also sing with Rose with deep feelings.
Her simple cheerfulness and unpretentiousness not only win roses' hearts, but also win the favor of Jiaming.
She is a true love fan of Rose and Jiaming, super envious of their fairy tale love, and also very much looking forward to their love.
But when she moved into Gu Jiaming's home, she found that Rose and Jiaming did not live together, but lived separately upstairs and downstairs.
And Rose can only say a lot of words in her heart to Lin Ziying, only Lin Ziying is willing to accompany her, please her, discover her advantages and appreciate her various beauty.
Jia Ming is chafing at his lack of inspiration, but because of Lin Ziying's arrival, he has inspired his creation.
Originally, Lin Ziying did not think much about Jiaming, but she understood Jiaming and admired Jiaming's talent and character.
Love gradually grew in the contact between the two people.
Also because of the elevator failure, Jiaming and Lin Ziying happen to be in the elevator, Jiaming is still afraid and afraid, Lin Ziying although also afraid but not as blind as Rose, but with his own pretend to be a man and carry a glow stick to coax Jiaming, the two also together by saying tongue twisters and dancing to alleviate panic.
When Jiaming talked about going to the African savannah, Lin Ziying's heartfelt excitement and cooperation with Jiaming's various imaginations, the two can be said to be quite tacit.
Lin Ziying's emotional transformation of Jiaming comes from the song "Chase".
"With you, even if it is ordinary, it is the most important."
Lin Ziying conceived for 4 years, only to make four sentences, jiaming heard it, and then Lin Ziying's creation completed the song.
In an instant, too many things surged to stop Lin Ziying from falling in love with Jiaming.
But the simple Lin Ziying does not want to destroy the relationship between Jiaming and Rose, and her identity is still a man.
And so a series of embarrassments began.
Rose seduces Lin Ziying in order to test Lin Ziying's sexual orientation, and Jia Mingqiang snubbs her by enduring his good feelings for Lin Ziying, and once thought that he was in love with a man.
Love, love!
What a fascination!
I have to say that Lin Ziying and Jiaming are suitable, they appreciate each other, have similar interests, and cooperate tacitly.
Conclusion: How nice it would be if you understood me
In the movie, Gu Jiaming repeatedly said that he wanted to live a plain life, just like the song he sang at the beginning of the film to appease the quarrelsome uncles, "This Life and This Life".
But Rose doesn't understand him, because Rose enjoys her current glamorous life.
In fact, they are just inappropriate and have nothing to do with anything else.
And Lin Ziying also wants a plain love, thin water and long flow.
"Chasing after chase, tracking some of the most basic needs of life, it turned out that there was no shortage of ...
With you, even if it is ordinary, it is the most important."
A song "Chase" has already told the same outlook on life as Lin Ziying and Gu Jiaming.
As the American writer Thoreau tells us in Walden:
I want everyone to be very careful about finding and following their own way of life, not his father's or his mother's or neighbor's way of life.
Man, don't look at everyone in the eyes of worldly success.
Don't solve simple problems in a complicated way.
Lin Ziying and Gu Jiaming both pursue love as a way of life, so they are quite suitable.
Like the opening of the film about sex or love is important?
After Jiaming fell in love with Lin Ziying, he always thought that Lin Ziying was a man, and he even had doubts about his sexual orientation, which showed that sex and love were equally important.
But at the end of the film, when Lin Ziying went to Jiaming in a skirt and said that she was a woman, Jiaming said, "Whether you are a man or a woman, I only know that I like you."
It shows that love is still more important!
Because Jiaming has fallen deeply in love with Lin Ziying.
Only deep love can be desperate!
Man, it's always contradictory, isn't it?
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