Some people say that hedgehogs and hedgehogs can't hug each other, but they don't. Hedgehogs and hedgehogs can also warm each other, and even on the coldest nights, they will grasp the most appropriate distance, and then get close to each other to maintain the hottest temperature to resist the cold.
People are the same, especially lonely people, although they will package themselves as hedgehogs in animals, but people with hedgehog personalities, even if they are lonely, will find it difficult to suppress the instinct to embrace others, and will always desire the arms of others.
One: The grandson is not a grandson, and the grandfather is not a grandfather.
Originally, I thought that the movie "Grandson from the United States" is about the concept of family affection transmitted by parents and blood, but it is not. In the 88-minute plot, the audience will find that the real protagonist, that is, the grandfather and grandson, are not related by blood. At the beginning of the story, the son who has not returned home for many years suddenly brings back a foreign girlfriend, but the foreign girlfriend is followed by a blonde foreign child.
Soon, the young couple packed their bags and went to Sisicuri to protect the animals, leaving only one old and one young under a brick and tile. At the beginning, the contradiction between an old man in Shaanxi, China, who has a deep sense of tradition, and an international grandson from modern society intensified.
Brooks, as a foreign grandson, could not accept the dryland hut, not only shrugged his face to express his protest, but also did not forget to describe his contempt for the hut. Then Brooks did not want to eat Chinese food and wanted to eat hamburgers, and Grandpa Yangtou, who had never seen what a hamburger was, could only think of a way to meet the wishes of his little grandson, so he developed a Chinese hamburger with the help of friends: two meat sandwich buns with some meat cakes in the middle.
Soon, the little grandson was not accustomed to drinking the soup and water in the countryside, and shouted to drink milk, and the old Yang Tou, who could not take the little grandson, could only turn to the head of the cultural station with dairy cows at home. Although the cow borrowed it, the source problem of the little grandson drinking milk was also solved, but the cultural station director put forward a request, that is, to invite lao Yang to teach the local shadow puppet culture.
This can make it difficult for Old Yang Tou, because Old Yang Tou's subconscious believes that the head of the cultural station is to build his own political achievements, not to carry forward the local traditional cultural shadow puppetry in a pure sense, so he has always been in a dilemma.
After understanding Grandpa's love for shadow puppetry, his grandson Brooks also constantly advised Grandpa that he should go to class, and could use this opportunity to bring more people happiness to the local traditional culture and let more people understand the charm of shadow puppetry. So at the insistence of the grandfather and grandson, Old Yang Tou returned to the shadow puppet drama class.
When performing shadow puppetry, Lao Yangtou also made the image of Spider-Man in Western art according to the hobbies of his grandson Brooks. When Western heroes appear in the expression of traditional Chinese culture, this also means that the grandfather and grandson have established the most harmonious friendship under the cultural difference.
However, on the occasion of the arrival of the New Year, the young couple returned to the countryside of Shanxi again, breaking up the grandfather and grandson who had just become familiar and friends, this time the old Yang Tou returned to the previous empty nest state, and the little grandson Brooks could continue to return to his modern life, where there were Spider-Man and hamburgers, and there was also milk that could be drunk every day, but there was no shadow puppet play that old Yang Tou performed for himself.
Children for loneliness, where the elderly understand so thoroughly?
Second: The feelings that get closer and closer between grandchildren do not come from mutual liking, but from the instinct when they are lonely.
Old Yang Tou has been living in the relatively closed thinking of the Shaanxi countryside, where the son who does not return home for many years is already easy to attract public opinion around the countryside, but the son brought back a foreign daughter-in-law after returning home, followed by a foreign grandson, this series of behaviors themselves and the traditional sense of rural thinking has the strongest conflict If old Yang Tou can choose, then as a father, old Yang Tou is likely to encourage the child to marry a Chinese daughter-in-law, and then have his own children. But in the face of helpless reality, Old Yang Tou could only accept everything.
Brooks, the young grandson of the foreigner, did not like everything about rural China from the very beginning, including the old-fashioned and stooped old Yang tou grandpa. Brooks eats and wears under the care of old Yang Tou, but he is still thinking about the details of modern society, such as milk, flush toilet, hamburgers, movies and so on. But children have so many choices, they can only temporarily live next to strangers Old Yang Tou under the arrangement of their parents.
But the relationship between the two has become more and more intimate by later, and the main reason for all this is because old Yang Tou and foreign grandson Brooks are the loneliest representatives at that time, when the two have no other people to keep warm in life, the two loneliest people will inevitably get closer and closer, want to hug together to resist the cold brought by loneliness, and the way to resist the cold is to accept the proximity of another lonely person around them, which is also human instinct.
So later Brooks was stung because he wanted to catch the spider, and it was the old Yang tou grandpa who took care of Brooks next to him, when Brooks wanted to watch the Spider-Man movie, it was also the old Yang to cut an image of Spider-Man in a shadow puppet way, and then used the shadow puppet play to present the hero of Spider-Man to his little grandson Brooks.
And when Brooks felt that the dryland pit could not be accepted by himself, old Yang Tou would help his little grandson bring a towel mask and carefully order an incense. Although the attitude of Old Yang Tou in contact with Brooks's life is always with a complaining voice at the corner of his mouth, the closer the two get closer and closer is the best proof of emotional attraction.
Summary: The world has always been facing abandonment, and habituation of loneliness should be a skill that people have. Just like the image of the old Yang Tou in the movie is an empty nest old man, Brooks was born in a single-parent family, shadow puppetry has gradually been forgotten by people, etc., all of which are telling about people and things in this world, and have always been easy to forget.
Therefore, if you want to seize the short-term warmth in life, you first need people to be able to adapt to loneliness when necessary, and at the same time, you should also try to actively approach others who are feeling lonely like us, rather than building a stronger wall of the world of self-loneliness as if you are destined, which may be the most real way of life.