How to accompany an 8-year-old boy through the rebellious period

Our family's Toot Bao is eight years old this year, his rebellious period is every time as scheduled, the first rebellious period is about four years old, carefully recall that the rebellious cycle at that time was about two months, from the beginning to the end of the whole process was accompanied by me, at that time when facing me or gave face, now think it should be the love for me, let him have restraint when he loses his temper with me. But for other people, including Toot Dad and grandparents in the temper is unscrupulous, at that time Toot Dad will also be in the rational communication and language reprimand after the fruitless stick education, but the effect is not obvious, Toot Bao's personality belongs to eat soft and not eat hard, stubborn and soft, every time beaten will not take the initiative to admit mistakes, even if the beating hurts again. Basically in the end, I went out to communicate with him, before communicating with him, I would give him a hug first, and then start the content of the communication, many times he could calm down after my hug, and we would discuss the reason why Dad beat him and the problem point of his mistake. Many people will say why not communicate with him directly, why should I communicate with him after The Toot Daddy finishes fighting, I don't know if the other children are the same as the personality of our family, many times in the case of his rebellion with him to say that he can't listen to him at all, I and toot Dad basically need to start the division of labor at this time, a re-education without results to beat him, a hug and re-education in the case of almost time. In general, when he was four years old, he stumbled through the rebellious period, after all, we were both parents for the first time, and he was also a child for the first time.