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She, from a famous family, was a descendant of Chu Ling Yin Ziwen, the daughter of Ban Quan, a lieutenant of zuo Cao Yue, and the maternal aunt of Ban Gu, Ban Zhao, and Ban Chao.
She, married into the imperial family, because of her talent and appearance, won the emperor's favor, and was praised by the empress dowager as "fan ji in the past, and now there is ban jieyu";
She, framed by the Zhao sisters, was invited to live in the deep palace and accompanied by the green lantern, but left behind works such as "Tuan Fan Song" and "Self-Mourning Endowment".
This woman, who is known as the most perfect woman in Chinese history, used her life experience to tell future generations: Red dust is troublesome, many troubles, only indisputable, free in the world.
It turns out that not to argue is not to retreat, not to be cowardly, but to be the greatest wisdom of a person.
In 48 BC, a baby girl was born in the home of the Meritorious Family. The girl was quiet and cute, and Ban Qing gave her a name - Ban Tian .
At the age of fifteen, a major event occurred in the Han Dynasty. Emperor Yuan of Han died, and Crown Prince Liu Xiao succeeded to the throne as Emperor Cheng of Han. When the new emperor ascends to the throne, he will definitely seal the harem. When Ban Tian was first selected, she was only an inferior female official, but it was not long before her radiance was discovered by the Hancheng Emperor, and Ban Tian was given the title of "Jie Yu".
Jie Yu's position was very high, second only to the empress and Zhaoyi, and at that time, Ban Jie Yu had not yet given birth to an heir, and this reward from Emperor Hancheng was undoubtedly a great favor.
However, the pampered Ban Jieyu did not compete with other women for jealousy, and did not use her heart to consolidate her position, how could she not understand these means when she was born in a rich family, not that she could not, but that she disdained it.
Proficient in literature and history, she has seen too many stories of spoiled concubines who have ruined the harem, and she can always do it without controversy under the favor, which is the pattern of Ban Jieyu.
She always scrupulously adhered to the duty of a concubine, and every time she visited the emperor, she had to follow the ancient etiquette and did not dare to transgress at all.
She always used history as a mirror when Emperor Cheng was troubled by state affairs, quoted scriptures, and enlightened Emperor Cheng's inner depression;
She always used a beautiful rhythm when Emperor Cheng was bored and bored, so that Emperor Cheng could immerse himself in it and temporarily forget the trivial affairs of the imperial court.
She knew that her identity was that of a harem, so she did her best to do her duty as a harem and fulfill her duties as a harem. The rest, she does not argue, never gets contaminated.
Once, when Emperor Cheng was on a parade in the palace garden, he invited Ban Jieyu to sit with him, and he held out his hand, only to smile at the beauty.
Unexpectedly, Ban Jieyu said, "Ancient sages, all those who accompanied them were virtuous courtiers, and only the king of the fallen country let the concubines sit with him." ”
As soon as these words came out, they shocked all the concubines present. Some were dismissive, some were obedient, some were in disbelief. This was the best opportunity to show off her might in the harem, and it was also the best time to compete for favors, and it was a blessing that others could not ask for in their lifetime, but she refused so easily.
Emperor Cheng understood her bitter heart, and when Empress Wang heard about this, she was even more grateful to Ban Jieyu for her virtuousness. She said to the people close to her: "In the past, there was Fan Ji, and now there is Ban Jieyu." The concubine who advised her husband to be diligent in government affairs on a hunger strike helped King Zhuang of Chu achieve the great cause of dominating the world. In contrast, Ban Jieyu's "virtue of being a man of generosity" is not inferior.
Ban Jieyu knew that competing for favors was only for her own glory. But indisputablely, he could guard his great cause of empire. Knowing the general situation like Ban Jieyu, she did not hesitate to choose the latter.
She doesn't fight or grab, but she has her own world. The emperor pitied her, the empress dowager admired her, and even the harem people respected her and obeyed her.
However, the fate of harem women has always been bumpy. What's more, her husband, Han Chengdi, is a man who likes beauty and has no ambition in his bones. Ban Jie yu is beautiful, and after watching it for a long time, she will be bored.
At this moment, Emperor Hancheng met the dancer who made him fall in love with her at first sight in the palace of Princess Yang'a.
The woman was light in stature, could be used as a "palm dance", and because she had been stuffing musk into the navel for many years, she was fragrant throughout her body; the woman's skin was like gelatin, her hands were like soft, she smiled, and Gu Pan was radiant. She is the famous Zhao Feiyan in history.
The most important thing is that she was born poor, did not have the pride of Ban Jieyu, and did not have so much truth, and every day she only knew that changing the fa to please the emperor was in line with the emperor's appetite.
Emperor Cheng lingered in the flowers and could not extricate himself, so he immediately decided to take Zhao Feiyan into the palace, and was crowned as a concubine, and sat on an equal footing with Ban Jieyu.
In order to compete for favors, Zhao Feiyan even brought his sister into the palace and served the emperor together. Unlike the slender Feiyan, Zhao Hede has a plump physique, and the jade muscles are smooth and beautiful, and there is another kind of beauty, which makes Emperor Cheng want to die.
The Zhao sisters were exclusively favored, which made Empress Xu angry and hateful in her heart, and the harem people tried their best to compete for favors, but all to no avail. On the contrary, Ban Jieyu has always had a weak attitude towards the Zhao sisters. Neither collude with them nor confront them tit-for-tat. She was originally a favorite harem, and now that she has been robbed of the limelight, she is not envious, not complaining, not jealous or jealous.
Later, Empress Xu, who was poor in donkey skills, set up an altar in the palace and cursed the Zhao sisters, which was discovered by the Zhao sisters and publicized, resulting in the empress being deposed. Ban Jieyu, on the other hand, is still standing in the harem because she is alone.
The indisputable and self-satisfied Ban Jieyu has her own small world, a world that has nothing to do with external recognition and wealth and power. Although she did not have the favor of the emperor and did not have the grace of the Zhao sisters, she could enjoy herself, not admire the fame and fortune of the red dust, disregard the gossip of others, let herself lean on the window and smile at the clouds, and watch the flowers blossom and fall.
After reading Ban Jieyu's story, I knew what Lao Tzu said: "Husbands are not in dispute, so the world cannot compete with them" What a realm and what a mind. The so-called "indisputable" is not to give up everything, but to stand in an invincible position with indisputability, and to find the bright world in the heart with indisputably.
Ban Jieyu thought that as long as she did not fight or grab, she could live her own peaceful life in the harem. As everyone knows, the Zhao sisters are aggressive and design to frame her for participating in witchcraft.
Emperor Cheng listened to the rumors and wanted to punish Ban Jieyu. But Ban Jieyu only sneered: "Life and death have a fate and wealth in the sky, and no human being can change it." If the ghosts and gods knew, how could they receive the secret message from the victims, and if the ghosts and gods were ignorant, what good would the curse do? Not only did I dare not do it, but I despised it."
A rebuttal, let Emperor Cheng be dumbfounded, Ban Jieyu's righteous and awe-inspiring appearance, let Emperor Cheng sigh, but also let him ashamed. He had no choice but to put Ban Jieyu back and give him another hundred and two gold as compensation.
This time, the Zhao sisters recognized The power of Ban Jieyu. But Ban Jieyu also had a cold heart for Emperor Cheng. She was determined to leave the harem, away from the disturbances here, and invited herself to serve the empress dowager in the Changxin Palace.
Many people think that Ban Jieyu is defeated without a fight, but if you think about it carefully, with Ban Jieyu's mind, it may not be impossible to win this war.
It's not that she can't argue, she just doesn't want to fight and disdains to fight.
What about winning? However, it is a favor that has been embraced by the front and the back; if the battle is lost, it can only be killed, and perhaps even the clan.
Since Ban Jieyu, who was the favorite at that time, could not be changed, she could know that she did not value glory and wealth, but what she cared about was the emperor's true feelings and self-love.
Now that the true feelings are gone, clean self-love cannot be lost!
She gave up with a smile, turned around gracefully, but lived a different life of her own.
She appealed to the grievances in her heart, and her "Tuan Fan Song" was listed on the list of the top ten most mournful and poignant "palace grievance poems" in ancient times; her "Self-Mourning Endowment" was praised by Zhu Xi as "peace and righteousness".
She became the first female lyricist in Chinese history, the first Chinese female writer with a written record in "Ci Hai", and the only female poet to be commented on in "Poetry". Zhong Rong spoke highly of her: "From Li Duwei to Ban Jieyu, in the past hundred years, there have been women, only one person."
Indisputable, it turns out to be the greatest wisdom of life. Many times, instead of doing a senseless struggle with fate, it is better not to argue, to reconcile with your own destiny, at least to harvest a sense of inner peace and peace.
At the end of the story, Emperor Hancheng returned to the west with his life in Zhao Hede's bed, Zhao Hede was forced to commit suicide, and Zhao Feiyan only lived six years longer than Hede, and also died tragically.
Later, Wang Mang usurped the throne and the imperial power fell.
The torrent of time rolled away, and there were countless nameless concubines in history, but time did not bury Ban Jieyu's name after all.
People remember her story, remember her poetry, and remember her indisputable wisdom.
When you are proud, you do not argue, you know how to measure up, and keep your duty;
Not arguing when you are frustrated is knowing how to advance and retreat, and know how to make trade-offs.
In the scenery, you can always maintain an indifferent attitude; in the trough, there will always be no fear of the world's troubles, Ban Jieyu is like a calm and proud chrysanthemum, always quietly waiting for the next bloom.
She used her own experience to interpret the famous sentence of the English poet Rand: "I do not argue with anyone, and I despise anyone who fights." She used her life to warn future generations: Endless struggle will only make our mentality unbalanced, and eventually we will lose; only by not arguing can we have a wide range of hills and the earth, and the interpersonal communication is smooth.
Author: Yue Yue, a signed author of Bi Reading Good Book, a Buddhist mother who pursues "Qinqi calligraphy and painting poetry hops, chai rice oil salt sauce vinegar tea". This article is the original of "Bi Reading Good Books", which are as precious as Jasper! Original American texts, good books, good lessons, new book information, etc., accompany you to grow!