In the movie "Meet You in New York Again": The little girl has a crush on the senior, is embarrassed to confess, and has been wearing strange and revealing clothes to attract the attention of the other party.
The heroine saw her thoughts and said to her: "If you like a person, then you ignore him, ignore him." If you want him to fall in love with you, don't let him have it at your fingertips. ”
It seems that human nature is like this, and it is very patient with strangers, but in the face of people who have always been good to themselves, they can show the most unreasonable and arrogant side.
Maybe it's called: "Those who are favored have no fear", and he can turn a blind eye to you because he knows clearly that you will not leave.
So, in a relationship, if you want to make men more active, then you have to learn to reject the following things.
Refuse to give blindly
Love is mutual, not wishful thinking on your part.
After many women fall into feelings, it is easy to make the same mistake: they are eager to give all their love to each other, pay unconditionally, and always think that as long as they pay enough, the other party will cherish themselves.
But unfortunately, in a relationship, the more you give unconditionally, the more you can't get the cherishing of your loved one.
Because of your recklessness, your blind giving will only make him get used to your giving and take your giving as a matter of course.
The new season of "Wife Romantic Trip" began to broadcast, in addition to the Well-known Qin Hailu, Jiang Qinqin, Liu Tao, there is also a fresh face Zhou Jie, the wife of Olympic champion Zou Kai.
Before the trip began, Zhou Jie asked Zou Kai to pack his bags. But Zou Kai repeatedly found an excuse to delay, that is, not to move.
At first, Zhou Jie would sort it out by herself, and when she found that Zou Kai didn't have the slightest desire to move, the suppressed anger suddenly broke out.
She first messed up the packed luggage, then took it out and threw it aside, and then she ignored even Zou Kai talking to her.
Zou Kai sensed that his wife was angry, silently went into the room to pack her bags, and then came out to coax her, let her wife "review" her work, and took the initiative to offer a kiss.
Zhou Jie was finally amused, and the two people reconciled as before.
Tu Lei said: "It is very unrealistic to tiptoe to love someone, and at a certain age you will find that the more you need to maintain the feelings, the more fragile you are."
The person who can really get along with you for a long time will always appreciate your independent appearance, not your pretending to be humble and flattering. ”
Therefore, if you want the people you love to take the initiative to love you and cherish you, then don't blindly pay.
Refuse to listen to men
Su Cen said: "If you take a person too seriously, the other party will easily not take you seriously; when you never can't bear to refuse, the other party will start to snub you." ”
I think so.
In a relationship, the more you listen to the man, the less he will put you in his eyes and will not care and value your feelings.
Once men get used to your obedience.
When you stop being patient one day and take the initiative to erupt, he will look innocent: "You have changed, you were not like this before." ”
You see, it was clearly his fault, but in the end he blamed everything on you.
So, in the relationship, no matter how much you love a man, you can't listen too much to men.
The end of your obedience is to lose the right to speak in this relationship, and he will often ignore your feelings, so that you can swallow all the grievances and sadness alone.
The man you love wants to value you, love you, learn to cherish you, and don't be too obedient in the process of getting along with two people.
When two people encounter differences, they do not easily compromise, do not give in unconditionally, have their own ideas, and have their own opinions.
In this way, the man you love will know how to cherish you, respect you, and will not ignore your existence and feelings.
No one's happiness, no giving, can be easily obtained.
In a relationship between the sexes, if you want the man you love to take the initiative, then, in the process of getting along, you must learn to manage your feelings. A long-term happy relationship is never bought by humble flattery and blind concessions and compromises.
Don't put your happiness entirely on the conscience of men, let alone live in your own "thoughts".
May all your gentle efforts in this life be answered with affection, and may you be so strong that you do not need anyone to be favored, but still lucky to be favored and loved.
May you be free and live a prosperous life.