Bittersweet Life: These four words are the way to break the way of the strong
The famous writer Zhou Guoping said: The mission of life is to take good care of life and settle the soul well.
Let go of the prosperity, give up the meaningless busyness, quietly listen to their inner voice, only to find that the best state of life, but four words.
01 Bitterness without words
Life is hard. To live is to overcome those sufferings, boredoms and mediocrity one by one.
Life is not satisfactory nine times out of ten, and wise people do not speak of misery lightly, but will firmly grasp the one-two points of ruyi. Stupid people will be obsessed with their own misfortunes, like Xianglin Sister-in-law, keen to expose their suffering and pain to others.
Everyone says that in addition to showing vulnerability and attracting sympathy, it will not halve the pain, but will let yourself be swallowed up by suffering and accidents.
There is a bottom line for talking, and compassion is time-sensitive.
People's sorrows and joys have never been shared, and there is no real sense of empathy. The sour, sweet, bitter and spicy of life, each in the taste, only their own understanding, and not enough for outsiders also.
Suffering without words is not self-repression, nor is it to "break teeth and swallow blood", but to complain less and learn to eat a little harmless loss.
Truly powerful people are not afraid of the hardships of the years and the replacement of personnel, but become an island of their own. Quietly transform, wait until the luck of the time, a sound and the world is shocked.
02 Laugh without saying a word
Laughing without saying a word is not showing off, know how to put away the sharp edge.
Zhang Ailing and her friend Yan Ying are more talkative because of Yan Yingxi, which causes the two to part ways until they completely break off their friendship:
When Zhang Ailing was financially strapped and her life was embarrassing, Yan Ying always boasted of her earning ability; Zhang Ailing had a bumpy road and lived widowhood for many years, while Yan Ying talked about the sweet happiness of her marriage; after frequent extraterreal shows, she finally annoyed Zhang Ailing, so the two completely broke off friendship and lost contact.
Laughing without saying a word is not to say that happiness cannot be shared, but that you cannot make others unhappy for your own happiness. Exaggerating and showing off your superiority not only exposes the hole card, but also hurts others and invites disgust.
In the Cai Gen Tan, it is said:
Most of the indifferent people are suspected by those who make up heavy makeup; those who examine them are mostly jealous of the unscrupulous. Gentlemen in this situation must not change their behavior, nor should they show their sharp edge too much.
Laughing without words is still a kind of freedom and open-mindedness.
Compared with people who are blind and must be rewarded and tit-for-tat, people who laugh and do not speak can hold back their inner impetuosity and do not easily export hurtful people.
Whether it is in the face of malicious slander or gossip, you can always grasp the measure in a round way, meet a smile and a vendetta, and have more tolerance.
03 Lost without loss
In life, there are two things that make people lose, one is lies, and the other is desire. We often go too fast and too far, and gradually get lost in the complex world.
A limited life cannot just be filled with fame and fortune, but ignore health, happiness, and family; it cannot just run for the pursuit of desires and gradually lose principles and bottom lines.
To be lost is to know how to let go of prosperity and give up meaningless busyness. Remove the debris and dust in your heart, and maintain a clean and calm, so that you can be at ease and retreat from impetuousness.
It is not lost, but also to keep the principle of standing on the world. Ships that lose their direction and move with the wind will eventually be buried in the sea.
People can be insensitive and can learn without talent, but they must keep their own principles, so that society will not be disorderly and people's hearts will not be lost.
04 Shocked but not chaotic
When he was young, Zeng Guofan was full of shortcomings. Later, he passed the entrance examination and entered Beijing as an official. For the sake of his career, he made up his mind to correct his shortcomings, listed many precepts for himself, and even renamed himself "Di Sheng", saying fiercely:
"After that, Zhishu was completely cleansed and did not relax at all. From the past, such as yesterday's death, from the latter, such as today's birth. ”
But he still often made some old mistakes.
At this time, a man named Tang Jian reminded him: "If it is not quiet, the province is not dense, it is all floating, always quiet... The most important thing is to work hard. ”
Can't be quiet, no matter how much introspection, everything is empty.
It is often said that there is wisdom in the middle of the rush.
This is not the case. It is easier to be chaotic in a hurry, and it is easier to make mistakes in busyness.
At present, major events are often gained and lost, and the stakes are compelling. The more this is the case, the more it must be supported by a calm breath.
The solution to the problem: to solve the emotion - think - analyze - observe the feedback. It can be seen that calming down is the first way to deal with things. The calmer you are, the more you can think of good ways, the more calm you are, and the more panicked the enemy becomes.
In the face of major events, there is no chaos, and when the interests are at stake, it is not lost.
When things happen, they are nervous, they are shocked when they are about to happen, and people who lose every inch are difficult to achieve great things.
When you encounter something frustrated, you will be treated with patience
When you encounter something happy, you will treat it lightly
When you encounter something that is honored and favored, you will let it go
When encountering a matter of sorrow and indignation, it is calm and stable
This is the way to live in the world, and it is also the wisdom of life
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