@ "What is it like for a girl to be too controlling?" ”
Probably all day long to be "checked", everything must be done according to her will, a little less than her intentions appear, she can cry twice and hang three times, until you compromise.
At first, I thought it was good to be cared for by a person so much, but then I felt very annoyed, thinking that she just didn't love me and would trust me so much, otherwise why would I have a dinner with my colleagues, she didn't agree.
When I was looking for her, she could ignore me, but when she looked for me, I had to reply immediately, and even if she wanted to see me that day, I had to rush over even if I was tired after working overtime, otherwise she would have to make trouble again...
Is this really love? Why do I feel like I've become her humanoid pet?
In the process of falling in love, some girls are insecure because of their original family, eager to get 100% attention in a relationship, so they will always want to get the attention of their boyfriends, and cannot tolerate each other disappearing in their sight.
But the other party is not a creature without any perception, he can love you, but he can't tolerate being bound and questioned for a long time... If someone is not on call 24 hours a day, you will also be tired, so if you want to maintain this relationship, how do you need to adjust each other's relationship?
Improve yourself and replenish your sense of security
Most girls in the hot love period, always put all their experience into love, always pay attention to the other party's every move, and put their own work and learning in the secondary, so when the other party does not care about your feelings, go out with others or team up to play games, you will blame each other because of lack of security, trying to force the other party to submit through "threats" to show their attention to you.
Such behavior will plant a thorn in the other person's heart, even if he compromises now, one day it will break out, so what you need to do is to learn how to regulate your emotions when your boyfriend does not give you the reaction you want], put more energy on improving yourself, make yourself an excellent person, and naturally attract his attention.
Learn to observe the color of the speech and avoid the other party's disgust
I often receive messages from users saying: "Teacher, I don't understand that he obviously said that he liked my true appearance, but I was willful and barbaric, he hated me, saying that I was not good, that it was not good, whether he did not love me!" ”
Two people who don't know each other can go to the point of falling in love, naturally because some points have attracted the attention of the other party, he said that he likes you for the real way, but this does not mean that he likes your wayward and spoiled behavior now.
In the process of daily getting along, the behavior of crying, making trouble and hanging up will only cause the other party to resent, some words come out depending on the occasion, if you make him faceless in public in front of his friends, maybe once he can tolerate you, but again and again, the result will be a breakup.
Even if you are a spoiler, you have to look at the situation and act in moderation, otherwise it will be counterproductive, don't say too many unnecessary words on the other party's anger, which will only aggravate the contradiction.
Girls use wayward, spoiled ways to get along with you, boys also need to review themselves, it is you who give each other wrong information, girls will think that you like her to you pamper, wayward, like a kitten for a while docile and clingy, but there will also be a grumpy scratching time, boys to tell her which side of you like her, which some are a little more for you to appreciate.
Therefore, both men and women should communicate well, express their true thoughts, and choose the most suitable way to get along, rather than one side pushing in, one side giving in, and finally retreating without retreat, ending up separately.
The "slave" of the high rank should be tight and moderate, and adjust the other party in the comfort of the other party!