"This kid is really angry, he doesn't listen to me, I don't want to be in a hurry, yell at the kid, but I can't control it."
"The child has to discipline him a little, otherwise he won't listen to you, it's useless to talk quietly, and it hurts my throat every day."
Is this kind of scene very common at home, but yelling, raising the decibel of the voice, can it really control the child? The child is forced by the strength and majesty of the adult, and was frightened at the time, but in the long run, the psychological shadow brought to the child will affect the child's life.
The higher the mother speaks, the more rebellious the child becomes
Every child should have a mother with a gentle temper in his heart, even if he is deliberately naughty and challenges his mother's authority, he is also testing how his mother will treat me, which is the child's careful thinking.
If the mother can't hold her breath and yells at the child, the child immediately feels very wronged, will express it, and may directly and pitifully confess to the mother: "Mom, I don't want you to say this about me." "The mother's heart is soft, and she will lower her voice and comfort the child.
But if the child is not good at expression, the courage is small, when he is a child, he does not dare to yell at his mother; when he is older, when he is older, in adolescence, the child will be more rebellious, and his mother will be dry, grumpy, and the two will continue to conflict.
Mother is the child's model, often yelling at the child, bad temper, the child will be like this when he grows up, what kind of cause and what kind of effect, for the child, the mother needs to restrain the anger in her heart, with patience and love to treat the child.
Speaking softly is the foundation for children's growth
Two children call their mothers, one can not say a few words on the quarrel, the child is angry, but also to digest the bad emotions brought by the mother alone, although I know that the mother loves her very much, the child also loves the mother, but at this moment, the emotions are still broken.
Another child called his mother, talking and laughing, there was laughter, the child and the mother talked and danced, very pleasant, after the phone call the child was relaxed, gentle maternal love is the driving force for the child to move forward.
Gentle talk is the child's growth of the bottom, the mother in front of the child does not show strength, but set off the child's strength, independence without losing the principle, the child will be more assertive.
Every child wants a good-tempered mother, to be treated gently, the mother treats the child with the same respect as an adult, and the child's temper will be more confident, gentle personality, and get along with people happily.
Visionary parents will choose to speak in a low voice
Most of the children are smooth donkeys, like to be encouraged, affirmed, when the child does something wrong, the parents are patient, avoid anger, soft and peaceful, will do nothing, tell the child the right way.
The louder the parents shout, the more they strengthen the child's impression, and they will do so next time; the more gentle and calm the parents are, the more cooperative the child is, and the more he listens to the parents.
Yelling and shouting will only make the distance between the child and the parents' hearts and minds farther and farther, and the whispers dare not say, for fear of facing the criticism of the storm, the parents do not understand the growth dynamics of the children, and they cannot make better suggestions.
Parents are the people who support the growth of their children, lower their posture, achieve a better future for their children, treat them as equals with their children, speak softly, speak at a reduced volume, have a good parent-child relationship between children and parents, and the future development of children will be better.
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