01.
As the saying goes: "Home and harmony, everything is happy".
In life, we always live in our own families.
From an early age, he and his parents and brothers are a family, and when they become adults, they form a new small family with their lovers.
No matter what role they play in the family, there is a consensus.
That is: I want to run my family better and better.
How to operate is also a science in life.
Some things are much better hidden in one's own heart than in one's mouth.
After all, the home itself has its own privacy attributes.
The people or things in the family belong to the family themselves, and they have little to do with outsiders.
Things in the family are resolved within the family.
Once outsiders are mixed in, it is likely to produce the exact opposite result.
So if you want to make your family as good as possible, be careful about one thing:
Don't easily tell the secrets of your home to outsiders.
02.
Outsiders are always outsiders.
Deep in the heart of man, he has his own dividing line.
People in the line are usually called: their own family.
In the context of one's own family, it may not be limited to blood relatives.
Many times, it also includes well-connected friends.
Close friends and relatives together constitute people's "family members" category.
Outside of this category, it is what people call outsiders.
This type of person, at least in the current time, has not entered people's hearts and cannot be fully trusted.
And if you can't be trusted, there are naturally reasons not to be trusted.
Since it is divided into outsiders, it means that this person is not in the crowd that shares secrets.
For such a person, the secrets of his own family must of course remain silent.
There is an aunt with a very "big" mouth next to her, and she always goes out of her way to tell the secrets of each family.
Whether it's hearsay or witnessing it with your own eyes.
She can speak well in a very short time.
At the same time, she doesn't just talk about other people's things, she also talks about her own family.
Every day when she talks to her friends, she will tell everyone about the "interesting things" of her family.
After saying that, I will tell you not to tell others.
Her family repeatedly dissuaded her, but she refused as a friend.
Thinking that they are all friends, if not particularly close, will not be good.
But as soon as she turned her head, those so-called friends also spread the news of her family.
It is true that among the outsiders, there are a small number of people who are true friends who have not yet been discovered.
But more often than not, those who can be called outsiders are people who have been defined and cannot become friends.
Now that you know they're outsiders, stay away early.
03.
Secrets can only be solved by their own family.
The secrets of a family are nothing more than those that are not easy to talk to outsiders.
Most of the time, it's family members, internal contradictions.
The so-called "family ugliness must not be publicized", on the surface, it seems that it is not to let others know the troubles of their own family.
In fact, this is not what it means.
There is an old saying: "To untie the bell, you must also tie the bell person."
The only people who can really solve the things in their own homes are the people in their own families.
Don't talk to outsiders, their intervention will not achieve very good results.
Instead of asking for help, ask yourself what you should do.
Not long ago, I paid attention to a blogger, and the content of daily updates is the chicken and garlic between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
For the newly married daughter-in-law, the mother-in-law is always very dissatisfied.
No matter what the other party did, she did not like it, but her son did not want to listen, and she complained about her wife.
In a hurry, the mother-in-law found a neighbor to complain and told the outsider about the contradiction between herself and her daughter-in-law.
After blending into outsiders, the contradiction between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is even more intense.
Every day, the family quarreled with people on their backs, until the son couldn't look down, and then he pulled them together and had a good exchange.
It was also that open and honest conversation that made them open their hearts.
In fact, they do not have irreconcilable contradictions, but the lack of communication makes them seem out of place.
The secrets of the family can be told to outsiders, in fact, this is what they are.
In other ways, what can be called secret is not usually told to outsiders.
As for these contradictions, it is better to resolve them yourself.
04.
Home and, all the best.
In everyone's heart, home is their own harbor.
This is the place where people feel the most secure.
That being the case, please run your own little home well.
Don't hurt your family because of your quick talk.
Be aware that once a wound is formed, even if it heals, it will leave a scar.
In the world of family, many things can be indifferent.
But outsiders are not indifferent options.
If a family wants to live well, the first thing to do is to "make peace" from the inside out.
Everyone in the family is working together to work hard, how can such a home be bad.
And if you are poking holes in the outside and don't need outsiders to invade, this home is already in ruins.
So, friends, if you also want to run your own home, please note:
First of all, don't easily tell the secrets of your home to outsiders.
Going to internal cultivation is the best choice.