What should I do if my friend's wife is too controlling?

朋友‬和‬他‬妻子‬在一起10年了，最近有点难过，吐吐苦水。。。 ：

When I met, I didn't feel it, but it began to be especially obvious after marriage

Look through the chat history, see where the location has been, and be sure to video chat at night.

There were informal conversations in between, slightly improved, and I didn't flip through my phone every day, but the problem wasn't solved.

Pick up the phone to chat, as long as she is around, must reach over to see who to talk to, what to talk about.

The phone was on the table, and there was a message prompting that she would go before me to see who was sending it and what was coming.

I can manage how to get along with a few friends and even relatives, like you can't do this, don't think like that.

Every day at home, you give orders like what do you do now, and then wait to do this, and then go to whatever.

It is also very strong for children to know what they are doing every minute, and what not to do is a yell at children.

There have been quarrels, there have been cold wars, and I don't know what to do with the relationship...

There have been some analyses,

First of all, I feel good about myself and say that I can be regarded as an 'honest person' in the traditional sense, without any act of spending time and drinking, sticking to flowers and grass,

Every day is also a two-point line, easy-going personality, even weak.

The family is also well-off, and the economic pressure is not very large.

The two work in the same company, and the position is not low.

My wife's mother, after all these years of contact, I think that most of my wife's appearance is influenced by her mother, who lives in another city.

To put it crudely, my wife farts, and her mother wants to know what it tastes like.

What happened in the house, no one around knew, the mother-in-law already knew.

I felt that my weakness and ease of mind also contributed to the growth of this desire for control.

These two days my friend asked me for a simple favor, and she began to have a bunch of reasons, can't do this and can't do that.

Every time I reasoned with her, all I got was a dismissive blank stare and a 'whoosh' and a cold war that lasted for days.

I said that children like you will have character defects in the future,,,

I said that you are too controlling,,,

There is no way to communicate rationally.

I feel like I'm on the verge of collapse and outburst...

Please comment on how you can help your friend's family