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On the issue of the gap between the rich and the poor, many countries have, the mainland as a developing country has been racking its brains in this area, after all, it is difficult to formulate policies that take into account all classes at the same time, so in the next ten years, ordinary working-class people can only rely on their own efforts to complete the counterattack of life.
The Gini coefficient in economics is used to measure the gap between rich and poor in a country or region - its coefficient is between 0 and 1, and the larger the coefficient, the greater the gap between rich and poor.
The Gini coefficient released by the Mainland Bureau of Statistics in 2020 is 0.465, according to international standards, 0.4 is the warning line, and more than 0.4 is the gap between rich and poor.
The BBC's "Seven Years of Life" documentary took 56 years to study 14 different classes of children, and the director made accurate future predictions for them based on class alone, and the children of the rich made accurate plans for life at a very young age, thus being much higher than ordinary people under the Matthew effect mechanism of individual ability, family conditions, and socio-economic operation. At present, the fairest way to break the absolute barriers of the gap between rich and poor is the college entrance examination.
If you want to change from poor people to rich people, the most important point is to change the thinking of poor people, as to whether you can really use the thinking of rich people, it is recommended that ordinary people do not force it, which is a long process of awakening.
The huge gap between the rich and the poor has created hundreds of millions of poor second-generation dilemmas, and when they enter social work, they are already 5-10 years behind others, and it is more difficult to self-awaken.
How can an ordinary person, or even an ordinary person with ills in his original family, achieve a counterattack?
From the perspective of professional psychology below, most of the dilemmas of hundreds of millions of poor second generations stem from these 2 "thinking traps".
Thinking trap one: scarcity mentality
The barrel effect is that a person has a long board and a short board, if the full score is ten, and you are a nine-point talent, a short board on the "barrel" can make you quickly drop to five points or less than five points of ordinary people.
American scholar Mullernathan analyzed in "Scarcity: How We Fell into Poverty and Busyness", because of scarcity, we will be short-sighted, will only focus on the current "peeping view", will fall into the quagmire of debt.
For example, because the poor are too poor, so the attention is allocated to money, when there is a conflict in life, self-control will decline, so as to do something irrational, resulting in the consequences will continue to amplify the desire for money, thus forming a vicious circle.
No matter what kind of factor you are desperately lacking in your heart, it will become a great obstacle to your growth path, and the most stupid people will be bound by feelings, and feelings are the only things in the world that cannot be obtained through hard work, so the rich never owe human debt.
How to get rid of the scarcity mentality, through their own way there is only one, that is, to establish a time buffer mechanism, any scarcity is essentially not enough time, the rest of the scarcity is only a superficial phenomenon, reserved spare time, the establishment of a buffer mechanism is the most effective way, with buffer time to learn more knowledge to change the fate.
Through meditation, we can form rational thinking, realize the essence of the problem, rather than avoiding the problem and being dragged by the subconscious, we all know that it is the subconscious mind that changes the fate, at least half an hour of meditation every day, and the power of cumulative change is huge.
Many of the company's top executives conduct meditation training, and studies have shown that meditation can reshape the function of the brain, make people feel more positive emotions, and play a great role in treating various mental illnesses such as depression.
Some companies even set aside a week to meditate in monasteries, throw away their mobile phones, and seriously reflect on the behavior of the year, and then implement them into daily behavior, carry out accurate time management, establish a time buffer mechanism, and meditate can maximize the transformation of people from scarcity psychology to concentration.
The difficulty of meditation is that it is difficult for impetuous people to stick to it for a long time.
Thinking trap two: the poorer the more you want face
Anyone who wants to succeed must be cheeky, the first trap of young people born in society is the face trap, even if you are a person with a very bad background family, if you can be thicker in your work than the people around you, and make bolder behaviors, you have surpassed most ordinary people.
First: cheeky can let you win opportunities and resources that others can't get, second: cheeky can meet noble leaders to lead the way, the way the rich know people is to look at attitudes and beliefs, not to see what he lacks in front of him.
And the choice creates a gap. Third: Cheekiness makes you immune to rejection and failure, and successful people are always the ones who fail the most.
There is a kind of psychotherapy called "rejection therapy", which was founded by Jiang Jia, a Chinese-American, who is a person with a typical psychological disorder (childhood shadow), who was repeatedly rejected by investors in the entrepreneurial process, fell into self-doubt and created this therapy, helping himself to succeed in counterattacking, and helping many people with social fear out of psychological disorders, so personality is not an excuse for being cheeky.
There are two basic premises for cheekiness, the first is to have a long-term goal and a long-term pattern, and the second is to have strong faith.
In the show "The First Job of the World's Richest People", it is concluded that these rich people have found the beliefs and goals that can arouse their passion at a very early age.
Harvard's open happiness class points out that the goal is the means of success, not the result, there is a goal will fail, successful people begin to reverse after an average of four failures, the process and the goal are equally important, and the butterfly effect brought about by doing the goal of liking is huge.
The difficulty of cheekiness lies in the obstacle to goal setting, many people can not find a clear goal, love and the outlet industry may be two different things, Xiaomi CEO Lei Jun said, "Standing on the outlet, pigs can fly", and in the traditional industry, you may not be able to "fly" for several lifetimes.
For ordinary people, if you can't support the latter, then start with the things you love, if you can't find it, try more from the places of interest.
If you want to become a winner in life, goals, choices, beliefs, guts, etc. are indispensable, and successful people in this world will always be the people who fail the most times, without exception, people are spiraling upwards, not rising in a straight line.
If you have begun to self-awareness, then you have won on the starting line of life, people must have a pattern, can see the next ten years, can also see the feet, seriously do everything in front of you, reduce internal friction, cultivate focused flow and attention, really good people can do every little thing well.
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Author | Tommy
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参考资料：Vogel, D. L., & Wester, S. R. (2003). To seek help or not to seek help: The risks of self-disclosure. Journal of Counseling Psychology, 50(3), 351.