In daily interpersonal communication, there are three sentences that are most commonly used, they are: sorry, thank you, it's okay.
As a bitter social animal, I can't be more familiar with these three sentences. But as a parent, think about it, have you ever said these three words to your child?
<h1 class="pgc-h-center-line" > saying sorry to the child is actually teaching the child how to deal with mistakes</h1>
I have an impatient cousin, and every time something happens, she is shocked. She has two sons, who are also following her nature, and shout when they are not happy.
On this day she came with her two sons, adults chatting and children playing. Suddenly, my cousin shouted, "Ziyu, why are you beating your brother?" After saying that, he rushed out, and it turned out that the brother had pushed his brother to the ground, and the younger brother was sitting on the floor crying. The cousin reprimanded his brother a few times in the past, who knew that instead of listening, he kicked his cousin with his feet.
My cousin angrily pulled him aside to the penalty station, and I rushed up to persuade him, and I asked my eldest nephew why he beat his brother! He said that his brother snatched his toy first, and then he started to beat people. The cousin immediately interjected: "You are older than your brother, you should let him." Who knew that this sentence did not have an effect, but it made him cry, the people around him immediately came to comfort him, and the cousin was so angry that he sat on the side and counted down.
My cousin said, "Why is it so difficult for children to carry now, and why are they so fierce when they make mistakes?"
Curious, I asked, "Cousin, have you ever told your child in your life that you are sorry?" The cousin was stunned and said why did she say sorry to the child.
I said, "Of course I apologize for making a mistake."
My cousin looked amazed: "How can I make a mistake, everything I do is for the good of my children."
I asked again, "Then if you didn't ask questions just now and directly punished your brother, is that a mistake?"
Who knew that my cousin still said with a hard mouth: "That's because he beat his brother, and if I apologize to him, it won't prove that he did the right thing."
I shook my head, "Your two sons are really like you."
My cousin was dazed, and I knew that it was useless to persuade her, but the poor two children would definitely be hit by society in the future.
Gu Zhenbiao, a veteran educator, once said: "People who know how to respect themselves will also know how to respect others, including respecting their own children."
Your child's attitude toward you may be the attitude you use to treat him.
Many adults look at adults and actually don't know what it means to apologize. They may apologize to their leaders for obeying authority. But in front of the child, he feels that he is the absolute authority, and apologizing will lose his majesty. As everyone knows, this behavior of parents has planted the wrong seed in the child's body and will accompany the child for a lifetime.
<h1 class="pgc-h-center-line" > say thank you to your child, you are actually teaching your child how to view the kindness of others</h1>
Xiao Yi is a very mischievous child, this day is his birthday, and his mother invited several relatives and their children. During the meal, Xiao Yi found that the fried chicken legs he liked to eat had been robbed by other children, and he was very unhappy, drinking a drink on the side, his mother reprimanded him a few words, he hid to the side and was sullen, and his mother beckoned everyone to continue to eat, leave him alone.
After the wine and dinner were full, everyone took out the cake, and Xiao Yi wanted to cut the cake himself, but he deliberately cut it backwards and forwards. When he gave one of them to his uncle, he said, "Thank you, you really have a personality for cutting this cake." Xiao Yi was suddenly a little ashamed, and then he corrected his attitude and cut it well.
In life, we often see such cases, children one day on a whim, want to help their mother to do housework, but these housework, the child does for the first time, it will not be too good. At this point your mother might say, "You've got water all over the floor... Your bowl didn't rinse..." The child who was waiting to be praised suddenly disappeared.
Actually, is it so hard to say thank you? Why are many parents ashamed to open their mouths, and feel that this is what they should do, after all, they have done more and have not received a thank you. But if you don't open your mouth, how can the child understand?
Parents always feel that the child does not know how to thank his parents for their efforts, because they have not taught him how to thank, in fact, this understanding may be reversed. Forcing a child to say thank you is more of a behavior of taking, while taking the initiative to say thank you is an act of encouragement. If you expect your child to become what you like, encourage the behaviors you enjoy.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-center-line" > tell the child that it is okay, in fact, it is teaching the child how to face the dilemma</h1>
On a hot summer day, a father and son sit in the house, each fighting with a mobile phone. Suddenly, his son's face became ugly, his whole face was red, and his fingers were frantically poking at the phone. At the moment when the character operating on the mobile phone died, the son's anger also reached the extreme, and he threw the mobile phone to the floor, and with a "bang", the mobile phone was smashed to pieces.
The father on the side finally reacted, rolled up his sleeves and slapped his son's ass. The son also shouted angrily: "I blame this game, why is it so difficult to play?" The father helplessly recalled when the son became so grumpy that he was angry with others when he encountered difficulties.
When my son first learned to walk, he accidentally bumped into the corner of the table and cried in pain. Parents immediately picked up their children and comforted: "Don't cry, don't cry, blame this table." After saying a few times on the table, the child also broke into laughter. When the child is older, the child accidentally falls, and the parents have no patience to coax people, but just reprimand: "The clothes that have just been washed, you have soiled me." When the children fell on their bicycles, the parents reprimanded: "Why is it so wild?" The pants you just bought were torn by you. ”
It is not surprising that many parents have the above behavior, they are paying attention to things and have never paid attention to people. Jenny Arnim said: "It is not terrible that there are shortcomings in the child, but the terrible thing is that the parents who are the leaders of the child's life lack the correct concept of tutoring and the method of teaching their children."
It is inevitable that children will make mistakes, but whether they can learn from their mistakes is more important. When a child encounters difficulties, all he can rely on is past experiences, which come from trial and error. And parents do not help their children solve the dilemma at one time, appropriately say "it doesn't matter", just like the game, fail and then start again.
<h1 class = "pgc-h-center-line" > Sorry, thank you, it's okay, these three sentences represent three attitudes to life</h1>
In fact, many people can perceive the difference between Chinese and American personality, Chinese implicit introversion, Americans are extraverted. This is a difference in national character, but if you look closely at American movies, you will find that the above three sentences appear very frequently in the conversation of Americans.
I'm not saying that extroversion is necessarily better than introvert, but using these three sentences more helps to express the heart. Many people have a misconception that the three sentences of sorry, thank you, and okay are social skills, more superficial, so they are not good at using them in front of their families. In fact, these three sentences represent three attitudes to life: humility, gratitude, and strength.
When it comes to the growth of children, making mistakes is the fastest way, and making mistakes will inevitably use these three sentences. It is also training their attitude towards life, and some parents try to avoid these three sentences, which is nothing more than depriving their children of the opportunity to grow. If you want to take it easy in educating your child, you may wish to talk about these three sentences!