Today is the second day of the Chinese New Year, the day to return to the mother's home, but the traditional Chinese customs have too much, such as the daughter who marries out can not go back to the mother's home for the New Year, can only go home again on the second day of the first year to visit relatives.
Because the old people have said that the daughter who marries out is the person of others, the New Year is the day when their family is reunited, and the daughter who marries out will come back and be lucky. It will bring bad luck to the mother's family in the new year, so the daughter who marries out is not welcome to return to the mother's house for the New Year.
I have a friend Who is like this, this year is her first year of marriage, she has not returned to her home for the New Year for three years because of the epidemic.
This time it was not easy to take a holiday, she wanted to go back to her hometown hunan for the New Year, they had all returned to their hometown 5 days in advance, staying at home until the third day, Xinyan's mother advised her daughter not to celebrate the New Year at her mother's house, asked her to go back to her in-laws' house, saying that the new first year should be in her in-laws' house for the New Year, and it was very obscure to come back to her mother's house. And even if you come back to your mother's house, you can't sleep in the same bed with your husband, you need to sleep separately, otherwise it will bring bad luck.
The daughter who marries out in their hearts is like water spilled out, so don't come back for the New Year to avoid being unlucky.
In addition, there is also a saying that the daughter who marries out of the house returns to her mother's house for the New Year, which will bring ruin to her brothers and sisters and embarrass their families, which is a feudal idea.
However, there are also many people who think that they have to guard against returning to their mother's home for the New Year, indicating that the daughter still has a crush on the mother's family, but not allowing the daughter to return to her mother's home for the New Year is for the daughter to be cold to the mother's family, so that he can single-mindedly think about the husband's family and take root in the husband's family.
This is an ancient way of cutting off the daughters who marry out, the main reason is that the marriage in the ancient feudal society is the master of the parents, and many daughters are not satisfied with this marriage, so the mother's family will take such a way to let their daughters confess their fate, and work hard for the sake of the husband's family.
One year, my aunt was abused by her old uncle and returned to her mother's house on the twenty-eighth day of the month. At the New Year, the old uncle did not come to pick up the grandparents and could not drive the daughter back, Chinese New Year's Eve at night, he forced the old aunt to stand on the street for one night.
Because if the married daughter looks at the lamp of her mother's house, her brothers cannot live a good life, so no one welcomes her at home for the New Year.
Xiaoting is a woman who is married far away, whether she can go back to her mother's house for the New Year, even returning to her mother's house to visit relatives in the second grade is a charity. Distant marriage brings only regret, because far marriage has given up too much, and there is no place to go after being wronged.
Hunan these days are snowing heavily, go back to these days and be driven back to the in-laws' house for the New Year, the mood is like this snow, cold and bone-chilling, just like this snow, the appearance is good-looking, it is actually like it has been chilled.
The customs of the in-laws are completely different from their own, their family is very happy, you feel very bored, you can't understand a word of what they say, but the other party is very happy. As soon as there is a problem, it will point all the contradictions at you alone, thinking that you are a foreigner, and not treating you as an outsider at all.
The in-laws are the in-laws, the bustle is always theirs, you are just married from a distant place.
Whether it is a scam or not, the mother's house that cannot go back to the second year of the first year is a realistic drama.
To marry far away is to leave a place where you grew up, to a completely unfamiliar city, in addition to your husband and husband's family, there are no relatives you are familiar with, the trek, the hard work of the journey back to your mother's home, the home where your parents are there, it seems too difficult to drag the family back with your mouth.
However, in addition to the strange city and their own home, there is no place to live, really quarrel do not know where to go, a person's original place is how desolate pain, walking on the streets of a second hometown, no sense of familiarity, no direction of the street, lost yourself is a momentary thing.
I can't understand the dialect, the food I can't eat, and the climate that can't be adapted can become a collapse at any time, "alone in a foreign country for strangers, every festive season to think of relatives", this year, I really felt the sadness of a distant married woman: the in-laws who can't get in, the mother-in-law who can't go back.
Due to the influence of traditional customs, women in all aspects of the countryside will be strictly constrained, in ancient times pay attention to the three from the four virtues, the husband with the husband, even if married to a bad husband, can only swallow the bitter water into the stomach.
Not only can a daughter who is married not be allowed to celebrate the New Year in her mother's house, but even the fifteenth day of the first month and the second day of the first month of February cannot celebrate the New Year in her mother's house.
I don't know if your hometown has the custom of "avoiding needles" for the New Year, you can't do needlework from the first to the tenth day of the first month, in fact, it is because in the past women had busy needlework every day, and let them rest for a few days to take a few days off in the New Year.
The first two days of the first two families can not move the needle and thread, the first three and the first four is the meaning of the thief three fire four, not to mention can not move, away from the hometown for a long time, the specific day represents what the meaning, I have forgotten almost.
But now is a new era, and the status of women has improved. If you are not happy, you will get divorced, although you will be gossiped by others, but it is better than suffering yourself for a lifetime.
But the road is chosen by oneself, even if you kneel, you must finish it, and if you fall down one day and can't get up, you must walk through it with tears.
I hope that you who read the article can go back to your mother's house today, and you can also be treated kindly by your mother's family and in-laws.
The topic of this article: Can I stay for a few days when I return to my mother's house on the second day of the Chinese New Year? Or do you have to go back the same day? Welcome to leave a message to talk about your customs there.