01
"Han Feizi Says Lin Shang": "The saint sees the micro to know the cuteness, and sees the end to know the end, so he sees the elephant and is afraid, and the world is insufficient." ”
We can often discover the truth of this world from small things. From the beginning of the matter, you can guess the ending at the end. Everything that is small is often the true trajectory of the development of things.
In the same way, when we work hard in society, we will also observe what kind of person the other party is from the subtleties, so as to know what kind of people we have.
In this regard, many people will wonder, since they can find out what kind of person the other party is from the subtleties, why are so many people still hurt?
One sentence can be summed up, do not hit the south wall and do not give up, this will always be the inevitable experience of mankind.
He thinks that all the people in this world are good people, and in the end he will suffer losses, and even be taught a lesson by life. In this way, he can truly understand the truth of human nature.
He thinks he is good to others, and others will be good to him. As everyone knows, all sincerity will not be exchanged for good results. It is possible that your sincerity will also feed the white-eyed wolf.
One day you will understand that the complexity of human nature is beyond our imagination. However, no matter how complex human nature is, it cannot exceed the following 5 words.
02
"A circle of friends, let me see the faces of my relatives."
I received a letter from a reader, and on the twenty-fifth day of the year, the reader Mr. Chen's family returned to the countryside. However, when Mr. Chen met his relatives, he also heard a lot of gossip.
Some relatives said that Mr. Chen's family is not a good person, but a small person who has made a fortune by unscrupulous means, and he is too close to them and is afraid of being obscure.
Some relatives said that Mr. Chen's son is a nerd who is dead reading at first glance, don't look at him now studying in a prestigious school, and in the future, he will not help others to work, and what is the use.
Some relatives said that Mr. Chen's wife was not a serious person at first glance, dressed so fancy, and did not know whether she did those things before she got married.
......
After hearing these gossip, Mr. Chen was particularly puzzled, I have not returned to my hometown for a year, why do these relatives target me like this?
Later, Mr. Chen met his cousin, who had just returned from the town next door. In his mouth, Mr. Chen understood the causes and consequences of this matter. Everything is the disaster caused by the circle of friends half a month ago.
In fact, half a month ago, Mr. Chen sent a "2021 summary" circle of friends, the content of which has these three points: his son was admitted to the 985 University, he and his wife have made small achievements in entrepreneurship, and they already have a house and a car in the city.
However, it is this circle of friends that allows Mr. Chen to see through the truth of human nature.
03
Those who like this circle of friends are outsiders, and there is not a single relative. Although Mr. Chen found this, he still did not think too much, because he felt that just likes, they were all relatives, and there was no need to worry about it.
Who knows, his cousin says bad things about Mr. Chen everywhere, either thinking that Mr. Chen is not good here, or thinking that Mr. Chen is not good there, and anyway, he is worthless.
In fact, in the early years, the relationship between my cousin and Mr. Chen was particularly good. However, the cousin returned to the countryside because he could not go on, but Mr. Chen persisted, until now he has established a family, has a car and a house, and his son is particularly outstanding.
Due to the psychology of "envy, jealousy and hatred" in his heart, his cousin was particularly disgusted with Mr. Chen, and felt that his every move was an insult and irony to him.
After learning about these things, Mr. Chen especially sighed, I just sent a circle of friends to record it, why do you still provoke these unnecessary contradictions? Really don't understand.
Slowly, he himself also came up with a truth, the more people who were related to him, the less they wanted him to live well. Unless it is a parent or a collaborator whose interests are closely related to him.
Everything is not as simple as we think. Perhaps, the family affection we used to advocate is often much more fragile than we think.
04
Human nature and family affection will never exceed the five words of "unkind to others".
Some emotional counselors believe that seeing no one is good, and the essence is a "distorted" comparison psychology. Especially people with close relatives, often accustomed to horizontal comparison, as a way to harvest inner satisfaction.
For example, if your relative feels that he can outperform you in a horizontal comparison, he will be particularly happy and his attitude towards you is not too bad. On the other hand, if your relative feels that he cannot beat you, he will be jealous of you and even go around spreading rumors about you.
You're doing well, others aren't happy. You're not having a good time, but others are very happy. Especially impetuous modern people, their thinking is actually particularly profound.
Although not everyone is a person who is not good, in the depths of the vast majority of people, there is a concept of bad people.
In this regard, I still have to say that if you can't see outsiders well, it is normal. But why can't we meet our loved ones? Everything is a curse of the "principle of proximity".
When comparing, people are often accustomed to comparing with close relatives without involving outsiders. At this time, the contradictions between relatives will gradually intensify, and the contradictions between outsiders will not change much.
This creates the result that distant relatives are inferior to close neighbors. Maybe your friends are more reliable than your relatives.
Why can't relatives get along harmoniously, and they have to "see no one good"? This is a question that deserves our careful consideration.
Wen/Shushan has deer