Reluctance is also a trauma
This trauma is very recessive. This trauma usually comes from the departure of relatives and lovers.
When someone you love very much leaves you, you don't dare to think about him. The thought of it hurts you to the point of suffocation, but many of us generally choose to escape the pain rather than heal.
For the departure of the person you love, you must say goodbye to this relationship. Otherwise, this wound will never heal, and every time you think about it, it will suffocate in pain.