#情感PK台 #
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" > what is the family of origin</h1>
What is the original family, the original family will bring us what impact, and these problems are the problems that many people ignore, in the psychological counseling, there are many people who have found out after doing counseling, the reason why their marriage and love are not going well, actually found the answer in their own original family, then we first come to understand what is the original family, the original family said simply, that is, our family from childhood to adulthood, there are fathers and mothers, some have their own brothers and sisters, living together, And the original family for us is also a great influence, it is no exaggeration to say that the problems brought by the original family can affect our life, including our personality and intimate relationships, but also give us a lot of pain, and these pains are hidden under our subconscious, which is why some people are always very inferior, very cowardly, very naïve, thus affecting their careers and marriages, but they can not find the reason and can not understand, and these problems can actually find answers in their own primitive families. I remember as if jung, the master of psychology, had said a famous psychological saying: We spend our whole lives making up for the hurt we suffered in childhood.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" > the impact of primitive families</h1>
For example: a person lives in a family where parents quarrel or fight for a long time when they are young, then this person's personality may be violent, the personality will be very withdrawn, the personality is impulsive, the temper is not good, the suspicion is heavy, and the fights will often occur when they grow up, which is why the experts who study criminal psychology, they first study the original family of the offender, in psychology, it is clearly pointed out that the most important factors in the child's character growth are his/her family education and the emotional relationship between the parents, the American drama "evil deeds". Mind Hunter" and "My Genius Girlfriend" These characters in the play are all influenced by the original family, if you have time to watch these American dramas, now you can also think back to your original family, what kind of family were you born in? What about the relationship between parents? What kind of education did your parents do to you, what kind of person are your parents, what kind of personality do you have, and whose personality has the greatest impact on you? In your childhood, the one thing your parents did to you makes you remember it and you can't forget it, you can write about these events while recalling it, and then you can compare it with the character you have developed now and the problems caused by your perception of things, and maybe you can find the root of the answer.
The sick love of the mother in the American drama "Evil Deeds" leads to the final murder of the mother
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" > the influence of the family of origin on marriage</h1>
Many modern marriages are the most able to reflect the problems caused by the original family, in many marriages the contradictions between men and women, if you go back to the root of the root, a large part of the people's problems are caused by the influence of the original family, in the marriage counseling, when the counselor does not find the clues of the contradiction between the husband and wife, will return to the original family of both men and women to find the answer, and the magic is that soon you can find the key to the question, each of us comes from a different family, The impact is also different, that is, the so-called living habits, personality, life for the world, etc., and then after the two get married, followed by a copy from their respective families, there will naturally be problems, once there is a dispute, then it is a collision between the problem and the problem, either both lose and lose, not happy and scattered, or one of them stepped on the brakes in time to minimize the damage, or both people stepped on the brakes in time, and neither side was hurt. However, in the real marriage, after encountering problems, most of them are in the form of both sides and losers, so men and women want their marriage and family harmony and happiness, then men and women must understand that you are themselves with the problems of the original family, which requires both men and women to jointly pay attention to each other, understand each other, when the problem arises, it is necessary for both men and women to solve together, marriage is not a one-person thing is a matter of two people, only husband and wife work together to be happy.
Finally, give couples and married friends a question to think about: Man and woman, whose personality of your parents has the greatest influence on you, and if people with their personality are together, what kind of results do you think will occur when they face problems?