"Lucky people, all their lives are healed by childhood, unfortunate people, all their lives are healing childhood."
It can be seen how much the growth environment of childhood affects a person.
Nan Nan's family was bitter when she was a child, often going to school alone, going home and working alone, and spending very little time with her parents, but her heart was longing.
With this only desire, she wants to be close to her parents, but she is insulted by her mother for no reason, or her parents quarrel, light words are evil, heavy is fist and foot, living in such an environment every day, Nan Nan's heart is full of fear.
When he grew up, his brother married his daughter-in-law, and the two of them often quarreled because of trivial matters in life, often hearing the sound of throwing things and endless chicken feathers, which was no different from their parents.
From childhood to adulthood, Nannan's life is in this environment, it is inevitable, she wants to get a small love from the family, it is simply nonsense.
As a result, Nan Nan stepped into society later, ostensibly cheerful and lively, but when she was alone, she was extremely pessimistic.
Whether in daily life or at work, when encountering the inadvertent concern of others, Nan Nan will be more sensitive than the average person and more easily moved, but from beginning to end, Nan Nan can't believe anyone.
In an example like Nan Nan, there are many people around him, who encounter problems in the process of growing up, usually solve them by themselves, and there is a thought in his bones that tells him that to be strong, no one will help you.
And nan nan, who is hurt by the primitive family, can easily form some character defects, and will also make her grow up to be troubled, growing into a part of a person, which will follow for a lifetime.
First, the pain of the primitive family is really not curable
"The Daughter of the Qiao Family" is being broadcast, and the drama tells the story of the five children of the Qiao family who lost their mothers from childhood, and the father, as the only pillar of the family, is idle and does not care about the growth of several children.
But thankfully, the children of the Qiao family are slowly growing up like a bean sprout under the protection of their brothers, and some people may feel that this father is incompetent, or perhaps, at least in the play.
The five children of the Qiao family, who grew up in this unfortunate original family, although they look very strong and have love in their hearts, it can be said that they are still mentally healthy and comforting.
But, this is only superficial, in fact, is it really what their hearts are presented like this? The answer is: of course not.
Just like the little story we told at the beginning, she is cheerful on the surface, but in fact she is lonely inside, which is the pain of the primitive family and the scar that can never be erased.
In the play, since the death of his mother, the eldest brother has become the main pillar of the family, pulling his younger brothers and sisters up from a young age, until he marries later, and he has no way to quit in time.
In the heart of the eldest brother, he thinks that his brothers and sisters have lost their parents, and only he is the eldest brother to rely on, so the center of gravity has not shifted, so his wife complains about him and usually does not care about his own small family.
You see, in this invisible, the primitive family is like a chronic pathology, with the passage of time, shrouded and restrained, even without realizing it, it is slowly destroying another family.
Therefore, the pain of the original family, it really can't be cured, it's like what a person looks like, how to plastic surgery is not good, it has seeped into the bone marrow.
Regarding the bitterness and sweetness of those original families, in the final analysis, what crushes the original family is not a major thing, but a daily detail.
When these so-called small details accumulate day after day, until one day, these details become mountains and block the line of sight, only to find that it is impossible to remove them.
Second, in marriage, the door is very important
It is said that marriage should choose "door to door", which is a view that many people agree with.
When I was a child, I saw two people in love with each other, and finally, because of the family disparity, they could not come together, and then saw the scene of parents cruelly separating their children, which was lamentable.
Although I can't understand why I want to beat a mandarin duck with a stick, I also feel that the party with good conditions is too superficial, and only knows how to look at these material things and does not pay attention to people.
Later, when there were too many such stories staged in the TV series, it was gradually understood that the experience of some ancients was really irreversible, and most of those who married into the rich or married the final destination of the rich, the ending was not so beautiful.
On the other hand, an ordinary ordinary family, although a place of trivialities, but many people can live a very warm, and rich people are different, they pay attention to pomp and decency, popularly speaking, that is, they pay more attention to superficial things.
Obviously, if these things appear in ordinary people's homes, they are really too harsh.
There was once a rich girl who was in a relationship with an ordinary boy and the two were together for less than half a year and regrettably broke up.
Although the rich girl's taste is high-end, she also tries to take into account the boy's feelings, until one day at the class reunion, everyone shouted to see the rich woman's boyfriend, could not stand everyone's entanglement, the rich girl brought the boy to the appointment.
In the party, the etiquette of eating, as well as the conversation, it is obvious that the boy cannot keep up with the rhythm, and what is more helpless is that everyone talks about the east boy answering the west, after a few glasses of wine in the belly, the boy is simply out of the topic.
When everyone was silent, only the boy was talking endlessly, and the rich woman sitting next to him felt that what the boy had done was really undignified.
Later, regarding the biggest reason why two people broke up, the rich woman recalled that they did have their own way of life and could not fit in together at all, which was like two people from different worlds.
It is true that the values of two people are not the same, it is really difficult to talk about together, only a marriage of equal strength and the right door will be reliable, because only if the conditions of the two parties are not far apart, the family may reach a state of balance.
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