Don't worry about what is the confinement period of the "mother-in-law relationship"?
Ye Haiyang, who went to the United States to "buy sperm and give birth", has attracted a lot of attention because of "fighting for the second child" and has become a "winner in life" in the eyes of many women.
Like all mothers, after Ye Haiyang gave birth to her second child, "Little Heidi", she also began to "confinement", but her confinement period has some special features - do not worry about her lover doing nothing, there is no "mother-in-law relationship" entanglement, she seems to be extra free with a baby alone, and observing Ye Haiyang's "confinement photos" is indeed full of happiness.
In the photo, Ye Haiyang holds her daughter Xiao Heidi, but her belly is still as big as the third trimester, and compared with the cool and sassy dress before pregnancy, she now has more maternal breath on her.
Although the figure has not yet recovered, but Ye Haiyang does not care, will be a mind into the care of the two daughters, the eldest daughter "Doris" in the relationship with the sister, but also appear cautious, the sisters in the frame is not only very warm and loving, but also have a super high value, facial features are very similar.
For Ye Haiyang's "special" confinement period, many netizens are directly envious, some people praise her as worthy of being called "the ceiling of women", and Bao Mama said that "the postpartum life without the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is too happy", which has won the unanimous approval of many "people who have come over".
I have to say that many baoma's confinement period is indeed unsatisfactory, especially when there is a conflict with the mother-in-law and the formation of a "confinement feud", it will leave a lifetime of psychological shadows, and Ye Haiyang's confinement state is undoubtedly the "ideal confinement period" for many women.
However, although such a confinement period looks very "perfect", but some practical problems, Ye Haiyang also needs to face, inevitably encounter some difficulties.
Without the "confinement vendetta", the confinement period also has difficulties
First of all, the reason why the confinement period is "difficult", in addition to the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and the "torture" of the spiritual level of the lover, the physical fatigue also makes people collapse.
Although in the public impression, Ye Haiyang has always been a strong woman with no compromise, but because of all the hands-on work with the baby, it is actually very hard.
For example, a few days ago, Ye Haiyang posted a video of coaxing the baby to sleep, the baby in the picture was full of energy, but Ye Haiyang was listless, and he could only make the gesture of "Tang Monk reciting the tight hoop mantra" in desperation, hoping that the baby would fall asleep earlier.
Second, there is mental tension.
When Ye Haiyang just gave birth to her eldest daughter, on the one hand, because the public did not understand, she needed to face overwhelming public opinion, on the other hand, because of the new mother, when taking care of the baby, many experiences were lacking and needed to be slowly groped, so her mentality was inevitably tense, for which Ye Haiyang once said that "when giving birth to the eldest daughter, life seems to be a mess."
However, now that the public has a stronger ability to accept Ye Haiyang's "deviant" behavior, Ye Haiyang also has the experience of taking care of a first child, and the confinement period of having a second child is not as difficult as imagined, and gradually becomes handy.
Of course, in the face of such a lovely two daughters, perhaps in Ye Haiyang's heart, all difficulties are actually not difficult, as she herself said: "Compared with the two daughters that the years have brought me, why wrinkles and aging?" Walking the rivers and lakes is real, and so is the milk powder can in the bag. ”
"Mateless parenting" is difficult to imitate, but these characteristics of Ye Haiyang are worth learning
In addition to the distinctive confinement period, many women have also expressed envy for Ye Haiyang's life of "no contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, no chicken feathers, money and ability".
But what has to be admitted is that in real life, the vast majority of ordinary mothers cannot be as free as Ye Haiyang, nor do they have such economic strength and personal ability.
However, as a special "single mother", Ye Haiyang actually has many outstanding personal qualities in her, which are very worthy of our learning.
For example, as a mother's strength, when taking care of the eldest daughter, Ye Haiyang not only withstood the pressure of public opinion "and be a father and a mother", but also did her best to give her the most intimate care, so that the daughter's growth and happiness are full, and such a strong general woman is difficult to reach, if we can learn Ye Haiyang's strong quality, many difficulties in life may be solved.
Another example is economic independence, Ye Haiyang can live such an enviable life, is based on the economic basis of wealth freedom, if it is not "worth tens of millions", I believe it is difficult for her to live so freely.
In life, some mothers, after giving birth, will focus all their attention on the child, gradually lose their own life, career is also in a slump, once there is a marriage crisis, there is no courage to say "no".
In fact, only economic independence can bring about the independence of personality, even if there are children, bao mom must have her own life, future career planning, in order to make life easier.
Old Miao Conclusion:
Although Ye Haiyang's life is "cool", it is not universal.
Instead of envying Ye Haiyang for living the "ideal life" in her heart, we should learn more about her advantages, make ourselves more excellent, and become a "female ceiling" in the eyes of other mothers around us.
Today's topic: What do you think of Ye Haiyang's life choices?
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