Listen to my advice to women not to take their children back to their mother's house for the New Year after divorce.
Someone once asked, if a woman is divorced and she still has several children, then where is the New Year, it is impossible to take the child back to her original husband for the New Year, it is too humiliating.
But if you go back to your mother's house for the New Year, is there something wrong, but you can still visit your mother.
Looking back on my own childhood, I can still have a warm year, is it so, no, sometimes relatives may be more sad when they talk like knives.
Next, I will tell you a personal experience to tell you why divorced women do not recommend going home for the New Year.
Point 1, the cousin's story.
Because of family reasons, I have said before that my grandmother has 8 brothers and sisters, and my grandmother has a lot of brothers and sisters.
So there are many such cases of my cousins and cousins, I can't say that I can count them, but at least I can contact one of my cousins who got married when she was young, and after marriage, she had a crystallization of love and had three children in total.
These three children performed well, at least when the exam can take a small red flower, the teacher often praises, but for some special reasons it is inconvenient to say here, there are contradictions and estrangement between the husband and wife, which eventually leads to a two-shot dispersion and a complete divorce.
And when the divorce was made, the husband said, I don't want this child, I give you 2,000 yuan of compensation every month to raise the child, what will happen in the future you will find me again, I will spend money again, what do you think?
The cousin just wanted custody of the child, so it was almost a hit with the two of them, but after a while there was a problem, what was wrong?
Because it is about to celebrate the New Year, everyone knows that when the New Year is celebrated, if a person celebrates the New Year, it is really not interesting, and it seems very lonely.
At this time, my cousin's mother called my cousin, saying that there is really no way for you to come back for the New Year, our home will always be your home.
After listening to it, my cousin was moved to cry, and after hanging up the phone, she bought high-speed rail tickets, train tickets, and various tickets without stopping, and finally returned to her hometown.
When I returned to my hometown for the New Year, it was originally a happy and warm situation, but halfway through the New Year, my cousin couldn't go on, and insisted on taking her own children with her, why? Because what these relatives say is not what people say.
Because my cousin's family is more special, my cousin's grandmother is the eldest in my grandmother's generation, so there will be many young people or many relatives who go to my cousin's place to visit the New Year.
Of course, the New Year's greeting is not the cousin of the worship, it is the grandmother of the cousin of the worshipper, and in the process of the New Year's greeting, there are some people who say things that are not salty or light.
Including but not limited to young age, you can't find another one, your own orphans and widows will be bullied in the future who will support you a piece of the sky.
Some people will say, how did you break up with your husband, your husband is very good, is it your problem to say so?
Is there something wrong with that? Or is there something wrong with you as a person?
All kinds of foul language said a lot, and my cousin's mother was a little embarrassed, so that my cousin's mother secretly said next to her, Alas, my daughter came and added to my mess, and I have not had a good year this year.
But coincidentally, this sentence was heard by my cousin, and after my cousin heard it, the whole person almost collapsed.
Point 2, why not recommend going back to your hometown for the New Year after divorce?
Okay, let's continue to analyze why it is not recommended to go back to my hometown for the New Year after divorce, in fact, the main reason is that relatives, their mouths are too broken.
Especially relatives in rural hometowns, because their knowledge is extremely limited, they may have only attended primary school, only junior high school, not even junior high school, or they are illiterate.
Over the years, their daily lives cannot be said to be extremely boring, but at least their cognition is confined to a range.
So much so that when they chat with others, everyone they meet chats with the same set of words.
And this set of sayings includes, but is not limited to, when do you get married, and how is your family? Is it okay to live a good life? And so on and so forth.
In addition, there is a more embarrassing and sensitive thing, that is, they will encounter the role of the microphone when they talk about things or do things.
Because they found that when chatting with other relatives, there was no topic to talk about at the end, so you can talk about your classic case.
This is also why the benefits do not go out, bad things go thousands of miles, there are always a few old men and women in the village, they sit together and do not say that the east parents are short, all kinds of things have been turned over by them.
So much so that any small problem you have will have the potential to be infinitely magnified by the people around you.
Coupled with the fact that at this time, the girl has just divorced and divorced with a few small children, and in this case, the mentality is the most unstable and the most likely to break or the easiest glass heart.
Please note that this glass heart is not saying negative or ironic, this is a normal change of mentality of a person.
We imagine ourselves, suddenly encountering great difficulties and standing next to it, others may intentionally or unintentionally say a word, you may wonder if the other party is alluding to themselves or whether the other party is satirizing themselves.
This is a very normal thing, but this normal thing is really easy to have problems under that mentality at that time.
So after the divorce, in 1 to 2 years, you can visit your parents on weekdays, but especially in the New Year, there are many relatives in your own home, you must be cautious.
Because once you choose to go home, you need to face so many relatives, but we look at it from another point of view, not everyone's every plot is so thin, there are always some easy things they know, know the difficulties you are encountering now and will give you encouragement.
So this needs to be said from two aspects, if the relatives in their own family really have no culture, and they are not easy to use their brains when they speak, then we recommend caution.
Because at this time, returning to your hometown for the New Year may also experience secondary injuries.