When children come into this world, they are full of curiosity and curiosity. To this end, they will explore this world, once the child has setbacks, difficulties and mistakes in the process of exploration, we must learn to understand and tolerate, so that children grow up in the process of trial and error.
We saw such a scene, the father was not careful, he lost his wallet, the mother dropped the man with a strong force, said that the man was waste, nothing could be done well, the long eyes were the same as the one that did not grow..., the daughter on the side said: "The father's loss of money psychology is also very uncomfortable, but also holding the fire ...", look at the child's heart, how can we understand people, and we make mistakes for our children?
Just break a bowl, but also loudly reprimanded..., not to mention less exams, it will be more reproachful, more ugly, do you raise children or destroy children? In fact, we need to have a model for solving problems.
The specific steps are as follows:
What happened?
Children make mistakes, we should first let children make things clear. Moreover, sometimes what is wrong is not necessarily the cause of the child, but also the objective reason that cannot be resisted. For example, when the test results come out and the child's academic performance declines, many parents will be angry with their children and blame their children for playing greedily, without effort. This indiscriminate blame can make the child feel uncomfortable and may be wronged. The decline in children's grades may be abnormal, may also encounter some difficulties and other reasons, at this time parents must first understand the reasons, do not easily draw conclusions, but first listen to what the child says, let the child express their own views, comb the child's thinking process.
What are your thoughts on this matter?
After listening to the child's story, parents should also encourage the child to speak out his inner thoughts.
For example, if a child and a classmate have a conflict, it is their child's fault, and parents should calmly ask the child after understanding the course of events: What do you think about this matter?
If the child has realized the mistake at this time, then the next thing is naturally easy to handle. If the child does not admit mistakes, then you can seek other ways, be sure to let the child experience, self-awakening.
How are you going to deal with this?
After understanding what happened and what the child thinks about it, parents should further ask the child what he plans to do with the matter.
Through communication, let the child calmly think about how to face and deal with things, and the child will grow slowly in this process.
If you do this, what will be the consequences?
The purpose of asking this question is to let the child think about the problem from many aspects, and then think more comprehensively when encountering things in the future.
Children do things to develop the habit of considering the consequences, and they will be more thorough in dealing with things in the future, and interpersonal relationships can be handled well. In this way, the child's sense of responsibility is cultivated.
In addition to your handling methods, do you still want to listen to Dad's methods?
In this way, we will further improve the child's method, provide side guidance, help the child to be good at adopting opinions in many aspects, and develop a good habit of "listening and listening".
Sixth, if the child says that it is okay, you can talk about your views, give rationalization suggestions, and re-analyze his ways and methods, and then let him make the final choice, no matter what kind of choice is made, the result will bring the child to grow, and form a problem-solving thinking mode.
In short, every child is the pride of heaven, and we need to take care of the growth of children with our hearts. Will love is love, will not love is hurt, parents do not learn, children are hurt. Parents learn, children change, equal to change.
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