Wen | thirteen brother-in-law
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Hello everyone, I am the thirteenth brother-in-law who has been crazy at home for 7 days.
As we all know, there are only three eggs left in my family, and I could have eaten one for each person, but the child's mother, driven by the great maternal love, in order to make her son eat one more, so she ... Let me not eat.
What makes a woman make such a decision? What made her do this to her husband? What made things where they are today? The pen and ink on the case are turned over, and the shadow of the person at the table is ghostly. Vanishing memories, old routines, sparked speculation. An egg is renovated, and it makes people wonder about it. Is this a distortion of human nature, or a moral degeneration? Please walk into "Cloud Spouse's Self-Cultivation"...
The family status is not as good as Yuzu, and I am fourth willingly. Coupled with the fact that the supplies during the epidemic quarantine were not so generous, my status seemed to have dropped to the fifth, lower than eggs, which was also understandable.
Of course, once this tragic "egg snatching" incident was made public, some people expressed their concern for me, such as this father who probably had a similar experience:
There are also people who pretend to express concern, while caring and giggling, but in fact, they are worse for me and add fuel to the fire.
The donkeys of the production team did not dare to go so long without code words, but I dared. Doesn't that mean I'm a little better than the donkeys of the production team?
Well, it's hard to come out of business, less nonsense. Today we are going to talk about family status and self-cultivation.
In fact, this is inseparable from the usual accumulation and precipitation, and the hegemonic status of other people's families may depend on who has great strength, who is good at mathematics, physics and chemistry, and who has strong hands-on ability. But our family's right to speak depends on who has more fans, and Yuzu's fans have surpassed mine.
So I have experience in consolidating my family position (first to last), and when it comes to self-cultivation, I am not bad. Especially when the epidemic is locked at home, facing a more severe risk of interpersonal constraints, I must be more cautious and rational.
People are emotionally unstable during the pandemic, especially when children are also starting to take online classes at home.
Someone sent me a video yesterday asking if I was at home.
This video tells such a thing: Ms. Su from Weifang, Shandong Province, is tutoring her daughter in her homework in the room, angry, yelling and screaming, and her husband who is watching TV with Erlang's legs crossed in the living room hears that the situation is not good, and instantly gets up and pretends to be obedient to wipe the coffee table. After seeing his wife enter the room again, he immediately threw away the rag and continued to lie flat on the sofa.
Unexpectedly, this surveillance video was seen by her wife, and she thought it was funny, so she posted it on the Internet. Sure enough, their respective black husbands are the fastest way for contemporary women to close their relationships, and this video was quickly spread and liked by female friends, who said "My husband is also a sauce aunt.".
But why would anyone ask me if I'm at home? Am I that kind of person?
It's simply not possible because I don't watch TV at home, and it's not polite to rags.
Seriously, this brother is too pompous about the desire to survive. When the wife tutors the children to study, she is watching TV, which is not appropriate, the TV set target is very large, the decibel is high, it is not easy to control, and the emotional interference is serious.
I usually only look at the mobile phone, when I find that the signs are not right, I can switch to the parent group, read aloud some of the tasks or tips assigned by the teacher in the parent group, which can not only instantly extinguish the small flame of anger, but also make the other party calmly and attentively listen, and feel ashamed to see that you are very concerned about the contact between home and school.
If there is really no practical information to use, I don't even look at my phone, I may choose to watch "One Hundred Years of Solitude" in the toilet.
Therefore, the focus is not "what are you doing", the key is not "depending on whether you are working or dealing with urgent matters", but "when the child's mother is unhappy, you can't be happy", such as playing games, such as watching TV, such as chatting with friends and chatting very happily, or playing useless things (such as soldering irons), these happy things will instantly make the other party explode.
I've always been very understanding of this connection, so yesterday I deliberately shared the video with the child and sincerely discussed it with her.
I asked, "Why does the child make the mother unhappy, and the mother has to be angry with the father?" ”
She said: "Because the mother accompanies the child to study, tutoring homework, and hard and angry, at this time, when she came out to see her father happily watching TV, that second she was full of thoughts: what is the use of this man, day by day, up and down inside and out are me, giving birth to a child is me, taking the child is me, tutoring homework or me, this father only knows how to play, and if it is not his IQ dragging the hind legs, the child is not so hard to learn now, I am what sins in the previous life to find such a husband to give birth to such a baby, This stinky man not only does not help but also will only add to the chaos, wow, wow, watch TV, do not know to accompany the second to learn a little early education enlightenment to win at the starting line, but also a second lang leg as a grandfather, wait for the second brother to go to school and start again, when can I have a good day in my life, every day after serving the small waiter, singing black face in front of the baby every day to drink five or six, the baby her father only knows to be a good person, he has enough rest to take the baby not to do the right thing, which has led to the child learning to be so torturous now, The most infuriating thing is that I have been so aggrieved and angry, the child's father is still like a winter melon and does not know anything, only knows that he is looking at the TV with Erlang's legs and silly music! ”
Good fellow, no wonder when the mother feels tired, thinking more than six thousand words a second.
The relationship between middle-aged couples depends largely on the performance of their children. This is the most passive side of being a dad.
Baby makes my mother happy, and I am sunny. When my mother got angry, I thundered on a sunny day.
If my son behaves well and makes my mother very happy, then I "have taste in dressing today", "the bread I bought is also good", "the historical stories told to my children are also useful", in short, I can inexplicably be praised.
In case one day my son provokes his mother to be angry, then I "the cheese I bought for the baby last month is not good at all", "I didn't teach the pull-up pull-up", "I didn't take the baby to play tennis when I was 6 years old"... Problems say problems, and problems can be found without problems forced to recall.
Therefore, recognizing the positioning and improving self-cultivation is an important lesson for maintaining family stability. And the peace and stability of our fathers depends heavily on the baby.
After so many days at home, three people are together 24 hours a day, and it is not easy to maintain peace and stability within the family. I have thought a lot of details about parent-child relationships and the issue of educating children, and have summarized some lessons for your reference.
A very important point is that in the matter of mothers managing to learn, there are three big taboos for old fathers:
1. Gags, such as "Now this is a good time don't waste time at home, go, Daddy take you out to play..."
2. Protect the calves, such as "The child is still young, you always say that he can't do it, what is the homework to do, go, Daddy takes you out to play..."
3. Add fuel to your mother's fire, such as "How do you bring a baby with this attitude, it is the wrong method..."
Any of the above three taboos, if you commit any of them, you will get a meal without arrogance.
Therefore, for their own good, we must make the baby good, but how to make the baby good, then only by personally going down to take him, look at him, and guide him, can we control him and not provoke his mother to be angry.
So since the online class, I patted my chest and said, anyway, I'm at home, look at me! Later, I found out that although the child was not well taken, favored, and guided by me, the child's mother obviously stopped bothering me, because all of them became me with the child, and the person who was prone to tantrums became me.
Recently I found that it is not easy to take a baby, not only to vomit blood for the composition, but also to bald for the brain-burning math problems, these are not counted, but also to deal with all kinds of sudden solitaire and fill in the form, even the dream was @ by the teacher@ , saying that only I was not finished, scared to wake up.
But the gains were also remarkable, at least the clothes on the couch, the dishes that had nowhere to be placed in the kitchen, and the cat toys on the floor that were ignored did not put pressure on me at the moment.
I can honestly ignore all housework because I have to take the kids.
So this is the pinnacle of the middle-aged father's decisive battle —
Either trembling, self-amusement, and then angered by the mother who is angry because of the baby, and has to be ready to play a humble play at all times;
Either generous, arrogant to take the baby, and then will not be found by the child's mother, or even lose his temper, who let me take the child.
Whoever takes the baby controls the right to transfer anger and enjoys the benefits of not being angered. This truth cannot be summed up without a ten-year history of iron-clad babies.
From this, the essence can be distilled: what is the ultimate self-cultivation of the spouse of the epidemic home cloud? It's just to take the baby.