As living conditions improve, the emotional needs of the elderly are also getting higher and higher.
After helping their children to start a family, they will also go to find their own love, followed by the elderly blind date, many elderly people sign up for blind dates, because through the red bride can have the opportunity to know more people, you can also match their own lovers faster.
However, there are more people on blind dates, the quality is uneven, we need to open our eyes to identify, such as the following uncle, the surface looks good conditions, there is a car and a house with savings, the body is not bad, but he exposes selfish thoughts with one mouth, or be vigilant.
01. It is difficult to have money in exchange for happiness
Uncle Jin is 68 years old, and as his name suggests, his family has a lot of assets.
He has 3 houses, and the demolition is divided into 2.1 million compensation, which is also given to his 3 sons, who have all started a family, and he has no burden.
Uncle Jin himself also contracted land, about tens of thousands of incomes every year, has saved 400,000, his own land compensation has more than 1.3 million, in addition to more than 3,000 pensions per month, savings of several million.
Really local tycoon, Uncle Jin is very optimistic, saying that he will live to 93, and there are more than 20 years of good times, do not want to live alone, just want to find a person who knows cold and knows hot to accompany, it is reasonable to say, the requirements are not high, but I don't know if he will increase his requirements after meeting?
According to his request, the red lady introduced Aunt Wang, who was 59 years old and had a gentle face, her husband died of illness, and after helping her son start a family, she took her grandson to kindergarten, and she also completed the task.
In the words of Aunt Wang: "I also want to live for myself for a few years, and live the rest of my life more comfortably." ”
She has her own 60 square meters house, more than 2,000 pensions per month, although the income is average, but it is enough to maintain life, the only fly in the ointment is that a person's life is too lonely, especially on rainy days can not go out, she can only look out the window in a daze.
The son also supports her to find a wife, which makes Aunt Wang more relaxed, the wife she wants to find is empathetic, and hopes that the two can have a common language and can support each other for the rest of their lives.
So, can these two people rub out the spark of love?
02. The love of the elderly must also fall in love before getting married
As soon as the two met, they had a good impression of each other.
Uncle Jin was even more blunt, saying that Aunt Wang was good-looking and was his favorite type.
And Uncle Jin's diligence makes Aunt Wang very good, and people of his age can still clean up the family, and they can also know how to live a life.
However, when it comes to marriage, the two have a difference of opinion, Uncle Jin means that the elderly must remarry quickly, do not take small steps like young people, to make big strides forward, he directly asked: "How long can you get to my house?" ”
This question confused Aunt Wang, and she replied euphemistically: "I think it is still necessary to fall in love first, and then get married, and if the two have the right feelings, they also need to get a marriage license to live together."
The meaning is very clear, Aunt Wang is hoping to take the formal process, such an idea is also the value of many people, even if they are old, their feelings cannot be too hasty.
Uncle Jin has a big brain hole, he feels that hesitation is too wasteful of time, as for whether the feelings are good or not, it depends on the feelings of the two living together, and whether the other party can meet their own requirements.
Again he made an unreasonable request: "What are you doing?" No problem. ”
So what? Uncle Jin is really not polite, you must know that this is a TV blind date, not the two of you chatting in the house, the responsibility of the camera brother, is to spread the content of your chat, there may be tens of thousands of people watching the program in front of the TV, what private ideas, should also be told behind people's backs.
Sure enough, Uncle Jin's question made Aunt Wang look confused, and she directly covered her face to say that she was too embarrassed and did not know how to answer the call.
But the problem is that Uncle Jin does not know that he has a problem, under the repeated reminders of the Red Lady, he still thinks that he should be sincere as a person, what ideas should be said, and the husband and wife can also ask normally, he just said what he thought in his heart.
It can be seen that Uncle Jin wants to find a wife and children is very sincere, but don't forget that a marriage without feelings is not long-lasting.
If you want the two to live well in their later years, at least they must know the roots, and their personalities can accept each other, not just to meet the needs of life.
There is no doubt that Aunt Wang refused, and she said: "If I want to get married again, I must also find a down-to-earth and stable person, you seem to have good conditions, but people are too unreliable." ”
03. Fast and slow are relative tests
Watching Uncle Jin's blind date reminds me of Uncle Liu around me.
Uncle Liu is also widowed, he can not cook, less than 3 months after the death of his wife, he brought back a big aunt from outside, thinking that the other party can take care of his own life.
At first, the two lived well, but with the passage of time, the contradictions between the two became more and more.
First of all, the living habits are different.
Uncle Liu has a light diet, he likes to drink some small wine, and then fry two vegetarian dishes, eat slowly, taste slowly, but his wife loves to eat spicy, and the speed of eating is fast, often he has not eaten a few bites, the other party eats a bowl of rice, let him sit there alone is very boring.
He also tried to communicate with each other, but no one could convince anyone, only each other.
Second, there is a different attitude towards money
Halfway couples, there will be some selfishness.
They will think more about their own interests, and so will Uncle Liu, who will give 2,000 living expenses every month, but ask his wife and children to report the daily grocery bills.
After a long time, my wife lost my temper, thinking that even if I put 2,000 pieces in my pocket, I would not get rich, so it was interesting to be wary of myself?
So, the two broke up after arguing a few times, and wanted to find a wife to take care of themselves, but they made a mess of their lives and felt very uncomfortable.
Therefore, the elderly remarriage is really urgent, need to understand a little more, and then it is not too late to consider being together.
For example, Uncle Jin, his own conditions are good, but he is too superior, did not take the other party's feelings seriously, such a person, living with him, is also very easy to be hit, when the time comes, he will also be injured and leave.
I agree with Aunt Wang's attitude, no matter how much money, it is not as important as good character, no matter how old you are to remarry, you must first get a license and then live together, so that you can give yourself a solid old age.
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