"No rules, no squares"
A few days ago colleagues brought her daughter Meng Meng to our home as a guest, Meng Meng and our family Fruit Fruit is almost the same age, are in the third grade, this is the first time Meng Meng came to my house, but came to my home Meng Meng did not see outside, she picked up the fruit on the table to eat and even into the fruit room, she liked the Fruit Room on the Barbie doll, holding refused to let go, colleagues looked at me with an embarrassed face, looking at Meng Meng so like, I thought of The Fruit Fruit there is a Barbie doll, I gave this Barbie doll to her.
At noon dinner, my in-laws have not yet come to the table, Meng Meng has already sat on the stool and began to eat, but also pointed to the shrimp on the plate said that there is no her mother to do delicious, in the afternoon sent away colleagues and Meng Meng, our family was a mess of Meng Meng, when I and my mother-in-law cleaned up things, my mother-in-law said: Your colleague's child lacks education, no rules and do not understand politeness, and will not be welcomed in the society in the future.
For the mother-in-law to say that Meng Meng has no rules I am very recognized, in fact, not only Meng Meng, now many families of children are spoiled by their parents without rules, some families only have one child, in the mouth is afraid of melting, holding in the hand afraid of falling, the child pet lawless, but a person without rules is not welcomed, as the saying goes: "no rules, no square circle", most people without rules are ruined on "do not understand the rules".
There was once such a news, a 31-year-old man was punished with a fake driver's license, his parents came to the scene to tell the traffic police: "He is still just a child", the parents' excessive pampering led to the child has no sense of rules, and does not abide by the rules and regulations anywhere.
"The Golden Age of Rules for Children"
As a parent, we must make rules for our children, let our children become a person with rules and know how to be polite, this is the real love for children, so when is the best time to make rules for children?
When children are two years old, they will enter a turning point in psychological development, and they gradually have their own consciousness, what performance will children have during this period?
Children over two years old will begin to develop self-awareness, they will have self-centered thoughts, such as their own toys do not let others touch, their snacks do not let others touch, etc., sometimes parents can not touch, children may cry.
Children in this period will also become very persistent, for what they want to do must be done, parents' resistance is completely useless, Guo Guo is more than two years old is also like this, the TV socket in our living room is very close to the ground, when Guo Guo is more than two years old, she always wants to touch the socket, I and her father will not let her pass, she began to cry, who coaxed useless.
"How to make rules for children"
The psychological development of children in this period is rapid, parents can use this time to cultivate a sense of rules for their children, how should parents cultivate a sense of rules for their children?
1. Make rules
When Guo Guo was a child, I made rules for her, such as how long to watch TV every day, how long to read, waiting for her grandparents to move chopsticks before eating, and being polite when she saw others.
Some parents will worry that making rules for their children will affect the parent-child relationship, but this is not the case, blindly indulging the child to spoil the child is to ruin the child.
When making rules for children, make some simple rules, step by step, and make rules according to the child's psychological cognition.
2. Let children understand the rules through picture books
Two-year-old children are very fond of reading picture books, colorful images can attract children's attention, simple stories will make children have a sense of substitution, parents can seize this feature of children to help children cultivate a sense of rules, so that children can cultivate rules when watching stories.
Children without rules are not welcomed, and not understanding the rules is not good for the future of children, parents must pay attention to it and cultivate a sense of rules for their children.