In fact, the most important thing for tidying up the children's room is that the children should solve the problem of tidying up together under the leadership of their parents.
In this process, parents should gradually train their children's self-care ability and cultivate their independent personality.
To this end, there are several places that require special attention.
1. Parents should lead by example
In order to cultivate the habit of children taking the initiative to tidy up, parents must lead by example, and also help children determine the storage location of good items.
Agree with the child that after using the items, you must return the items to their original positions.
Instead of asking the child to tidy up when it is a mess, it is better to let the child know clearly what to put and where to put it beforehand.
2. The concept of family education should be unified
Chinese families with three generations in the same house often have such a situation: the child is obediently packing up the toys, and the grandmother or other elders will come to help.
They are distressed by their children, and anything that seems to be beyond their reach will not let the child do it, which is actually very detrimental to the growth of the child.
If the whole family atmosphere and educational concept cannot be agreed, it is impossible to form a unified code of conduct for children, which is not conducive to the construction of children's sound personality.
Especially in the cultivation of children's basic behavior habits and qualities, the whole big family must form a unified educational concept and model method, otherwise it is likely to be half the effort.
3. Gradually cultivate children's tidying habits
When some parents let their children start tidying up, they just give their children a "pack up" instruction at a time.
The child either continues to play indifferently or runs without throwing up his legs.
The reason for this is that the four words "pack things" are too abstract for children, and they naturally choose to ignore them.
To cultivate children's tidying habits, we must give clear instructions, including what to do, from what position to what position, how much to put and so on.
When testing their completion, it is also necessary to set the standard in stages, as long as the general position and method are fine at the beginning, and do not rush to achieve results.
Let the child slowly find a sense of achievement and self-confidence in sorting out the items, and let the child be willing to sort out his own items.
In particular, we must give the child enough time, because the child's rhythm is relatively slow and cannot be required according to the adult standard.
4. It is necessary to mobilize the enthusiasm of children to sort out
When the child tidys up the room, we must use the method of appreciation education to give the child praise in time, which is an encouragement for the child, and can also arouse the child's interest in keeping tidy.
We can use the way of games to mobilize children's enthusiasm for tidying up and cultivate their interest in tidying up.
5. Help your child control the number of items
Usually when children play with toys, they like to turn out all the toys in one go, which also leads to a particularly large workload when tidying up.
In the face of such a "mess", let alone children, even parents will be full of fear and irritability.
Therefore, parents must control the number of children's items (including toys), do not let the number of items exceed their own and children's management capabilities, in the matter of buying toys, do not blindly compromise with children.
At the same time, you can also make an agreement with the child: you can only take a small number of toys each time, and if you want to play with others, you must first put the toys you played before back in place.
To sum up, parents lead their children to do tidying up together, pay attention to 5 principles.
One. Parents should lead by example, and after using the items, they must return to their original positions;
Second, the concept of family education should be unified, especially for families with three generations in the same house;
Third, gradually cultivate children's sorting habits, set standards in stages, and let children slowly find a sense of achievement and self-confidence in sorting out items;
Fourth, use appreciation education to mobilize children's enthusiasm and cultivate their interest in tidying up;
Fifth, help children control the number of items, and do not let the number of items exceed their own and children's management ability.
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