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Time is not long, may you be in my words, see you not too late!
Compared with the love of youth, the love of middle age has less romance and more stability.
If love in youth is the result of heartbeat and impulse, then love after middle age is well thought out.
Middle age is a stage where maturity and rationality coexist, and both men and women know exactly what they want.
Especially for love, people in the middle-aged stage will have their own considerations and measurements.
They will neither seek love because of loneliness, nor will they choose love because they are moved. Especially for middle-aged women, love is love, and not loving is not loving.
If you're not the one she feels can keep going, then she won't gamble for you or even look back at you.
To put it simply, the difference between a friend and a partner is very clear in their hearts.
If you are her crush, then she will take off her disguise and be honest with you. In front of you, she will be her true self.
On the contrary, she will stop and stay in the best position to be a friend.
And when she puts the label of a friend on you in her heart, no matter how much you pay, it will be in vain.
So, as a man, you have to know if a middle-aged woman can develop further with you to see if she opens these forbidden areas:
Her emotional experiences
People have a past, and when a middle-aged woman wants to develop further with you, she will open up to you about her emotional experiences.
We all know that emotional experience is a very sensitive topic for two people in love. Almost everyone will care about the topic of "ex", and even get angry and quarrel because of it.
For middle-aged women, though, it's part of the candor. If the other person can't accept her past, then naturally there is no need to continue.
Therefore, before starting a relationship, she will definitely intentionally or unintentionally reveal her emotional experience to the other party. For example, I have been in love several times, what I broke up because of, my own criteria for choosing a mate, and so on.
And your attitude is the key influencing factor in her decision,and if you can't accept it, then she will stop there.
Of course, if you're not the man she likes, she won't talk to you about it at all. Even if you ask, she won't necessarily tell you.
Her circle of life
In fact, whether a middle-aged woman can develop further with you will see if she will open the forbidden area of "her life circle".
The circle of life includes her family, friends, work, and if a woman is willing to let you know about her circle of life, it means that she is able to develop further with you.
She is willing to let you fit into her life circle, and she is willing to integrate into your life circle. Simply put, she wants you to intersect, especially in reality.
She will let you know about the good and the bad about family; she will not hesitate to take you to know friends; and she will let you know a little about work.
In short, this behavior of hers is to let you have a general understanding of her whole. She wants to go down with you, and naturally takes that into account.
On the contrary, this move is meaningless, and she will not easily disarm you.
Her bottom line and principles
The bottom line and principles are also one of the forbidden areas for a woman. If a middle-aged woman is willing to go down with you, then she will open this forbidden area for you.
After middle age, most women are mature and stable, and will not easily change and compromise for others. However, if you are the man she loves, then she will be willing.
For example, she will be willing to show her most vulnerable and unbearable side to you, to be a "little woman" in front of you; she will do something for you that she has never done before.
Take physical contact, for example, which is a point where women are very concerned and sensitive. When she likes you, she will be willing to make physical contact with you.
On the other hand, she will never open this forbidden area to you, and if you approach her regardless of her feelings, she will lock you out of her heart forever.
Conclusion:
These personal privacy, middle-aged women usually leave it to people who trust and love.
Many times, you may have the illusion that she likes you because of some of the other person's actions.
In fact, as long as they are not nasty people, middle-aged women will treat each other with a friendly heart.
Just like Gu Qingyu in the TV series "Heart Residence", she and Zhan Xiang have been friends for many years. In their daily relationship, she also gave him a lot of illusions, making him feel that he was the one she wanted to marry.
It wasn't until Gu Qingyu married his first love Shi Yuan that he suddenly realized.
In fact, in the relationship between the two, Gu Qingyu was not so honest with him, and these forbidden areas were never open to him. She treated him like a friend.
When women reach middle age, they are extremely cautious and serious about their feelings. Therefore, in the treatment of ordinary opposite sex and like men, there will also be the most basic measure.
If she doesn't want to develop further with you at all, then naturally she won't easily open these forbidden areas.
Therefore, if loving someone is doomed to be fruitless, then letting go and letting go in time is also a kind of wisdom.