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I once heard a saying like this:
"In marriage, there is no one who is not worthy of anyone. It's like two pieces of salt, which can be served with a dish on a table. But tens of thousands of dishes are also tasteless if there is no salt. ”
Marriage is the result of two people's own choices. Since you have chosen what kind of person you want to marry, you should learn to accept and tolerate some of the shortcomings of the other party and live a down-to-earth life.
A happy and healthy marriage emphasizes democracy and equality.
If after marriage, one party always feels that the other party is not worthy of himself, takes the other party's efforts for granted, not only does not know how to be grateful, does not know how to cherish, but also unscrupulously makes some acts that hurt the marriage. Then, most such marriages are not long-term.
Bing Bing (pseudonym) believes that her husband is not worthy of herself because she has a strong sense of superiority in marriage, which eventually leads to the loss of marriage.
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Bing Bing is an ordinary older leftover woman, who met her husband Xiao Cheng (pseudonym) at the age of thirty under the introduction of relatives. After dating for a while, the two got married.
After getting married, Bing Bing hated that it was too hard to go to work early and dark, and the salary was low, so she quit her job and worked as a full-time housewife at home.
Saying that she is a full-time housewife, in fact, she does not put much thought into the management of the family. Usually, you either don't do anything at home, or you go shopping with your girlfriend for afternoon tea. The days are very leisurely.
Husband Xiao Cheng is an honest man, who does not say sweet words to please people on weekdays, but he is very accommodating and loving to Bingbing.
He believes that men should hurt their wives and live a harmonious life.
Therefore, after getting married, he took the initiative to take on most of the responsibilities of the family. Working during the day, when he comes home from work, he helps with housework, and his salary is all handed over to his wife for safekeeping, and he is a good man who lives at home.
However, Bingbing believes that the reason why her husband loves her so much and accommodates her is entirely because of his own charm, in other words, any man will do this, or even do better than him.
She took her husband's efforts to her as a matter of course, instead of knowing how to be grateful and not knowing how to cherish, she became more and more disgusted with her husband's incompetence, saying that his monthly salary of eight thousand was not worthy of herself, and she was always sneering at her husband on weekdays.
In fact, in their small county, the salary of eight thousand is already very good. But Bingbing is not satisfied, thinking that others can earn tens of thousands, and he can only earn eight thousand wages is incompetent.
Xiao Cheng's heart is big, and his wife's complaint seems to him to be nothing more than trying to spur himself to be more motivated, and he can't see that the other party really dislikes him.
He is still busy at both ends of the company's home every day, spoiling his wife. The wife only needs to wear clothes to reach for food to open her mouth and be a hand-waving treasurer.
Life is like this without heart and lungs.
Later, for a while, Xiao Cheng found that his wife often went out and sometimes laughed out loud at her mobile phone. As soon as he approached, his wife hid her phone behind her and wouldn't let him see it.
Xiao Cheng felt in his heart that his wife must be in trouble. In order to prevent his wife from going the wrong way, he also reminded his wife sideways.
Who knows the wife's face is full of disdain. Saying that she could marry Xiao Cheng was completely cheap for him. He has no right to take care of himself.
Bing Bing just had a man outside marriage behind her husband's back. After being discovered by her husband, she still had no intention of repentance, saying that she would divorce her if she wanted to divorce her, and she did not lack a family anyway.
Xiao Cheng looked at her face full of indifference, and felt that her previous efforts were not worth it, and the two quickly went through the divorce procedures.
After the divorce, Bing Bing, full of joy, went to find a man outside the marriage. He is richer than Xiao Cheng, and he will please her, and she wants to be with him.
Who knows, when she swore that she would give her future lover that she was divorced, she was afraid that she would wrap herself up and turn around and break up with her. The other party laughed at her stupidity, and the feelings outside of marriage could be taken seriously.
It is a lie to say that it is not lost that it is a lie to suffer from the double abandonment of the husband and the man outside the marriage, the loss of love and the financial protection of the two men.
However, Bingbing is optimistic here, even if her conditions are mediocre, her age is not small, and she has experienced a failed marriage, and the "black history" of extramarital love, she still firmly believes that there will be better men willing to marry her. Husbands and men outside of marriage are "scumbags" who do not know the goods.
In order to find the "next home" as soon as possible and continue to live a worry-free life, Bing Bing quickly packed up her mood and threw herself into the blind date army, meeting and dating different men every day, but there was no result.
Not to mention that there is no shortage of beautiful women in this world, young and beautiful girls in the blind date market are emerging in an endless stream. Her label as a "second-married woman" alone is enough to keep her turned away by most men.
There is also the fact that she is too strict with her blind date.
It's not okay to look ugly, it's not okay to look short, it's not okay to have no money, it's not okay to be single-minded, it's not okay to be in love, it's not okay to talk about being in love too many times... That's not going to work, and that's not going to work.
She only knows that she does not look up to others, but she does not know that in the eyes of others, she is not competitive at all.
In the end, the "old bachelor" who earned three thousand a month told her that on her terms, he would rather be alone than marry an ancestor and go home to serve.
Men with a monthly salary of three thousand could not look at themselves, and this ice ice was completely panicked. She didn't know what kind of man she was going to find next in order to marry herself off smoothly.
03
In life, there are many women like Bingbing who are not blessed to be "demonized", and their marriages are often not as long as Bingbing.
And through her story, it also tells us the following two truths.
One: Greedy women often can't figure it out.
The most taboo thing in marriage is to be unclear.
When many women enjoy the accommodation and pampering from their husbands, they often blame themselves for everything like Bingbing. It is convinced that it is due to his own charm, in other words, any man will be obedient to himself. Therefore, it is extremely irresponsible to treat feelings, and it is arrogant and arrogant in marriage.
But in fact, this is just a woman's self-righteousness.
Many times the other person is good to you, not because of how attractive you are. In his heart, it is his unshirkable duty to take care of his wife and children.
To put it mildly, any woman who becomes his wife will be responsible for the other person. Spoiling a wife is the result of his character, not because of who you are.
Whether a man is out of love or out of responsibility, it is a blessing for a woman to tolerate you in marriage.
Don't believe you, just open the news and see how many women succumb to their husbands' violence every day and live what kind of life they live.
Therefore, women must understand the foot.
Marriage is the result of two-way choices.
If you really feel that the other party is not worthy of you, don't start this marriage in the first place. Since you have chosen each other, you must calm down and live your life steadily.
Can't always be a good man to let you pay, but also to get cheap to continue to sell well, right?
Two: Greedy women are often blessed in the midst of blessings.
Some people say that there is no stable happiness in this world, but some people are more content.
Deeply.
Living in this materialistic social dyeing vat, it is a very normal thing for people to have seven emotions and six desires. Everyone's heart also has their own "yearning life". However, in the vast world, how many people are really capable of achieving their ideal life?
If people are always obsessed with what they can't get, and they see the people and things they already have as nothing, then it is difficult for us to get happiness from life.
Especially for marriage, there can be no too high expectations.
You can't ask a man to make a million a year and then have to obey you and have time to saddle you up. Similarly, you can't ask someone who earns $8,000 a month to be able to give you a life of buying and buying as you please.
Fish and bear paws cannot be both, everything must be gained and lost, and contentment can always be happy.
If the life we have now is enough to match our own conditions, this is actually a kind of luck.
Too greedy, not knowing the blessing in the blessing, will only let happiness pass quietly and inadvertently.
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