As the saying goes: "When people only say three things, you can't throw away all your heart." Even your friends and family may want you to have a good life, but they definitely don't want you to have a better life than the other person.
Getting along with relatives and friends is also a big science. With relatives and friends, if you don't want to form a vendetta, it's best not to tell each other about these 3 family privacy. Which 4 family privacy are specifically meant? Come and find out, the sooner you know, the better.
First, do not expose household income and savings
Between relatives and friends, "gift does not pay money", even if you are usually close, once too many interests are involved, it is likely to break the relationship.
If you tell the other party about the family's income and savings, you will not reserve. If it is better than less than the other party, if it is far beyond the other party, it may be jealous of the other party. Jealousy is a terrible psychology that can make people distorted. The light will be alienated by the other party, and the heavy will be secretly tripped.
People are warm and cold, and they cannot be defenseless. You have a high income and a lot of savings, and you will not only be jealous of the other party, but you may also find ways to borrow money. If your income is very low and you are poor, you may also make the other party look down on you from the bottom of your heart.
The best way to break ties with someone is to "borrow money." If friends and family ask you to borrow money, if you don't borrow it, it will affect your relationship. Lend it out, and the other party will also ruin the relationship if it is not returned.
Therefore, in communication with relatives and friends, it is best to achieve "wealth is not exposed, wealth is not exposed". Avoid financial disputes as much as possible, which is good for each other's feelings.
Second, do not expose interpersonal relationships
"Things are gathered in groups, people are divided in groups", everyone has their own interpersonal circle around them. In society, there will inevitably be some human exchanges, and these favors are exchanged at equal value.
If you have some good relationships around you, it's best not to spread the word about it. Otherwise, relatives and friends ask you to find each other to do things, and using your connections is equivalent to making you owe a favor.
As the saying goes: "Human favor is like debt, and the pot is sold on the head", whether it is a prominent status or ordinary, you need to pay the same price when enjoying the benefits brought by networking.
Networking is a double-edged sword, and it's best not to use it if you can. If you expose your connections to relatives and friends, do you help or not when they ask you for help? Not helping will destroy the relationship between each other, and if you help, you are consuming your own network.
Therefore, be low-key, do not brag and show off, and try to reduce the expectations of the other party. Avoid being resentful of the other party when you can't do anything.
Third, do not expose your own ugly affairs
There are difficult scriptures in every family, and it is inevitable that there will be some bumps in daily life, and there will always be some unpleasant things happening. These situations are all "family ugliness", it is good that your family knows it, and you must not publicize it everywhere.
If the family ugliness is publicized, it is easy to attract the shame of others. People who are sympathetic will have, but more people will take it as a joke. Their own ugly affairs have become the talk of others and become a laughing stock.
Whoever has ash at the bottom of the pot, their own affairs, close the door and solve them themselves. Shameful things, I would rather rot in my stomach than talk to relatives and friends. Otherwise, good things do not go out, bad things spread thousands of miles, and it will not take long to make everyone known.
summary
In people-to-people interactions, do not "talk shallowly and deeply", and tell each other everything, especially the ugly things at home. This is true even for relatives and friends who have a good relationship. Family income, savings, relationships, family scandals, it is best to "keep silent". Don't leave hidden dangers for yourself and don't leave others as a laughing stock, so that the relationship can last.