May 1, 2022 is my big wedding day with my fiancée.
My parents and I set up our home in advance to witness the beginning of my happy life with my family and friends.
But on the night before the wedding, my beautiful dreams were shattered.
On the evening of April 30, 2022, my mother and I hung a wedding photo of me and my fiancée on the second floor of our house.
My fiancée came over out of the blue, and she didn't like my mother hanging up our wedding photos, and she yelled at my mother.
"I don't like people to take care of my business, I take care of my own business. ”
My mother explained, "You're not here, I'm sure I'm going to do what we want." ”
The fiancée was emotional, didn't listen to her mother's explanation, and howled hysterically in the living room on the second floor, and the green tendons on her neck bulged.
In our impression, the fiancée has always been gentle and knowledgeable, but at this moment, she has become a tigress.
The fiancée opened her mouth wide and howled at us.
Her abnormal behavior made us all stunned.
My fiancée's emotions couldn't calm down, so I called my mother-in-law for help.
Unexpectedly, my mother-in-law was not in a hurry at all, and told us very calmly.
"You don't have to be afraid, just give her medicine on time. ”
Listening to my mother-in-law's words, I was very scared.
My first instinct was for my fiancée to hide her illness and marry me.
Based on her emotional reaction, I guess it's not an ordinary illness, but a mental illness or something.
It is said that this mental illness is hereditary, and I am afraid that my descendants will have this disease as well.
This kind of thing must not happen in our family, because I am the only seedling in the family, and the task of passing on the family is counting on me.
We just want to end this farce as soon as possible, send our fiancée back to her parents' home, and then inform all friends and family that our wedding is postponed.
In order to find out if my fiancée is really mentally ill, we negotiated with her mother's family several times to no avail.
In desperation, I decided to put an end to this absurd farce and no longer have illusions about my fiancée.
I ripped off our wedding photos and burned them all.
Looking at the touching fiancée in the wedding photos, my heart was like a knife.
I'm 30 years old, this is my first relationship, I didn't expect it to end in such a way.
I'm unwilling, I have to find out if my fiancée is cheating on marriage and money?
Let's talk about me and my fiancée first!
My fiancée is 33 years old, 3 years older than me, graduated from a junior college, 1.7 meters tall, fair skin, good face, and tall figure.
As for me, I am only more than 1.6 meters tall, 30 years old, graduated from junior high school, now a chef, the salary is not high, medium build, not fat or thin.
My fiancée was introduced to me by my uncle, and my parents liked her when they first saw her.
We had known each other for 21 days, and both our parents and my uncle urged us to get married soon.
My family is very happy to find such a beautiful and well-educated wife, so they are willing to give tens of thousands of yuan more as a bride price to thank my father-in-law and mother-in-law for cultivating such an excellent daughter-in-law for us.
In our case, the bride price is usually tens of thousands, hundreds of thousands, but my parents willingly gave them 200,000 bride price.
Since our family had just repaired the house, we didn't have much savings, and we still had 100,000 yuan left, so I asked my uncle to borrow 100,000 yuan, made up 200,000 yuan, and gave it to my fiancée's parents.
These 200,000 yuan are the hard-earned money of our uncle and our family, but now, our family is empty.
In order to get my hard-earned money back, I took my parents and uncle to my fiancée's mother's house. When my parents-in-law knew we were coming, they had already hidden my fiancée.
My parents-in-law didn't admit to cheating money and didn't want to see us.
When I knocked, they wouldn't, and they wouldn't let me in.
How difficult it is for a rural family to save 100,000 yuan, I was angry and kicked the door of my fiancée's house.
My uncle stopped me and didn't let me kick the door.
We came downstairs and a lot of neighbors gathered around.
They said that the fiancée's parents refused to come out to meet people, and they must be ashamed of us.
When the neighbors found out that we had given a bride price of 200,000 yuan, they were surprised. This is already considered the highest in the local area.
The uncle remembered the bride price in the first place, and realized that they had come prepared.
When my fiancée and I went to the Civil Affairs Bureau to register, it was just before 12 o'clock, and they were about to leave work.
My fiancée's mother pulled out an agreement and asked us to sign it.
Due to the rush of time, our uncle and I didn't have time to read the content of the agreement, so we signed it, and after giving a bride price of 200,000 yuan, my fiancée registered my marriage with me.
Later, I found out about the agreement.
"The woman received a total of 200,000 bride price from the man, and after marriage, whether it was divorced or not, the 200,000 bride price would not be refunded, and she could not find trouble with the woman's parents. ”
After reading the agreement, I woke up like a dream. It's a trap they've set for us.
My uncle owned a fruit shop nearby, and my fiancée's mother often came to my uncle's shop and said that her daughter didn't have a boyfriend yet, and asked my uncle to help introduce a boy to her.
My uncle told my aunt that she had met my fiancée before.
My aunt thought that my fiancée had such a good appearance and a high degree of education, and she was very enthusiastic to help introduce her.
Originally, my aunt wanted to introduce his fiancée to a boy in their village.
Later, my uncle felt that the fertilizer and water did not flow into the fields of outsiders, and the woman's conditions were so good, it was better to introduce them to me.
My family is in the countryside, and I am the only child in the family, I am naturally timid and afraid, and I have no opinions, and everything is arranged by my parents.
In the countryside, boys my age are already married and have children.
If I don't get married, I'm afraid of being a bachelor.
My parents and uncle were worried about my life events, so my uncle introduced me to my fiancée.
My parents and I fell in love with my fiancée the first time we saw her.
She is 1.7 meters taller than me, and when we took wedding photos, I was still standing on a piece of wood to be at her level.
With such a good girl, my parents and uncle were afraid of being preempted, so they urged us to get married after 21 days of acquaintance.
Maybe the parents-in-law heard the neighbors downstairs talking about them upstairs, and then disguised themselves and came down tightly.
When I saw them like this, I became even more angry, they clearly didn't see anyone.
My mother-in-law told everyone that because I didn't have a marriage house in the city, I asked for a bride price of 200,000 yuan, which was not too much.
Everyone was upset for me, and asked me why my mother-in-law was so tightly wrapped, was it because she had done something wrong?
The mother-in-law retorted that she had nothing to do with others and that others couldn't control her.
The father-in-law kept holding his mother-in-law's hand and didn't let him talk much.
But the mother-in-law always broke free from her father-in-law's hand and scolded everyone.
My mother-in-law told me not to trouble her daughter.
I spent 200,000 yuan, but my daughter-in-law didn't marry, and the money was gone.
Can I not trouble my fiancée?
I couldn't bear it anymore, and I had something to say that my fiancée was mentally ill, and they hid her illness and registered their marriage with me.
The mother-in-law denied that her fiancée was sick.
"My daughter is not sick, it is you who are sick, my daughter has become a second marriage before she is out of the cabinet, you don't want my daughter, you must give my daughter an explanation. ”
Originally, I wanted to ask my fiancée for an explanation, but in the end I didn't see her in person, and my mother-in-law never mentioned that my fiancée was sick, and forced me to give them an explanation.
Because I have already mediated with Uncle Hat 3 times, Uncle Hat asked me to show evidence that my fiancée is mentally ill.
But my mother-in-law didn't let her go for the appraisal, and we never got this information, so we couldn't mediate.
In order to get the money back as soon as possible, and also to take care of the face of his fiancée.
I told my mother-in-law that I would like to go for a psychiatric evaluation with my fiancée.
When the mother-in-law heard this, she burst out laughing, and the laughter was particularly harsh.
When encountering such scoundrels, there is really no way to take them.
Thinking of the 200,000 hard-earned money, I feel very uncomfortable, squatting on the side of the road and not knowing what to do?
I came home with my parents dejected, and I calmed down and revisited the moments I had with my fiancée.
At the time, I didn't notice anything unusual about my fiancée, but she thought differently than ordinary people. When I asked her why, she said that her parents were stricter. I took her at her word.
Now that I think about it, she was indeed a mentally ill person. She was always talking to herself, and when she was eating, she would burst out laughing when no one was talking to her.
I inquired and knew from others that my fiancée has no bad habits and is usually very well-behaved.
Since everyone else said so, then I didn't think badly, and because my uncle was the matchmaker, I was introduced to me, and then I was more relieved, so I registered with her.
I don't usually talk to my fiancée, and when I talk to my fiancée, she usually asks questions, and I feel like I'm playing the piano to a cow.
When we watched movies together, we didn't talk.
The fiancée rarely watches those variety shows and news channels at home, and they often watch this during that time when the Winter Olympics were held.
At my fiancée's house, each of us just stared at the TV.
Now that I think back to the original scene, I know how embarrassing it was.
I smiled helplessly.
I don't have a history of relationships, but it seems sweet to watch people fall in love, and my fiancée and I are in love with a TV.
I married my fiancée and it was like completing a mission. Now that I think about it, it was my immature thinking that hurt me.
There is also a wedding photo of me and my fiancée at home, and the beautiful reporter looked at our wedding photo and told me.
"She's really beautiful, but I always think she has no eyes in both eyes, didn't you notice it at the beginning?"
My mother said that my fiancée rarely talked to her when she came to my house, and they rarely looked at each other.
My fiancée is learning Korean, and she always has a book in her arms. My mother always thought she was very sensible, well-read, and a cultured person.
Our family is not highly educated, and if we can find a cultured person, we think that the ancestral grave is smoking, how can we think about other aspects.
After listening to the reporter's words, my mother realized that my fiancée was indeed a little abnormal. She always had a book in her hand, but at the end of the day, it was just a few words.
The mother looked at her fiancée in the wedding photo, and her eyes were reluctant to leave.
The daughters-in-law in our neighborhood were not as beautiful as my fiancée, and they all complimented my fiancée on her good looks in front of my mother. Every now and then, my mother was very proud.
Speaking of my fiancée now, my mother is still very happy. You can see that she really likes my fiancée.
If my fiancée hadn't been sick, we would have been married. But think about it carefully, why hasn't she found a partner at the age of 33 with such good conditions?
And I'm in a hurry to get out of the list, and I haven't thought through a lot of things.
My parents thought that everyone had a daughter-in-law, and our family should have one too.
Our family just finished repairing the house, and we didn't have much money, so we borrowed 100,000 yuan to show our sincerity.
My parents thought that they could make more money if they didn't have any money, as long as they had a daughter-in-law.
To this day, my parents and I have not yet come out of that fantasy, and my mother still smiles sweetly at the thought of her beautiful fiancée.
My mother-in-law wanted me not to divorce my fiancée, she told me not to be so nervous, as long as I gave my fiancée a pill on time at night, she was normal during the day, fine, and didn't need to take medicine at night.
In the past, when I went to my fiancée's house, I would come home on time before 10 o'clock every day.
And when she came to my house, she came home by 8 o'clock on time every day.
Even after we registered, she didn't want to spend the night at my house.
On the night of April 30th, it was past 8 o'clock, and my fiancée was still at my house, and I thought she should have not taken her medicine that night, so she became ill.
Because of this, my uncle was also very guilty, he didn't expect to do bad things with good intentions. At that time, he urged me to marry my fiancée, and now I am both drained of money and money.
Depression should also belong to the category of mental illness, people with depression are very manic, and will do a lot of abnormal behaviors, such as cutting the pulse, drinking medicine, jumping into the river, etc.
If something happens to my fiancée in our house, my parents are afraid they won't be able to take responsibility. After discussion, we resolutely refused to accept a sick daughter-in-law.
But my mother-in-law wouldn't let my fiancée go for a psychiatric evaluation, and the matter would never be resolved.
So, we went downstairs to my mother-in-law's house again and asked the neighbors about the situation.
Finally, let me know more about my fiancée.
The neighbor said that the fiancée's grandmother and her cousin were also mentally ill, and their ancestors had it for three generations, which should be a family genetic disease.
My neighbor said that my fiancée often swept some dust into other people's homes, and then said that others swept dust into their homes.
The neighbor's house is spotless, where can I find dust to get their house? When I meet such a person, the neighbors are very helpless and don't care about them.
There was a leafy tree next to my fiancée's house, and she plucked the leaves of that tree every day, and she killed the tree.
My father-in-law and mother-in-law only moved here 10 years ago, and my mother-in-law sometimes talked to the neighbors downstairs.
Once, my mother-in-law smelled flowers, but didn't know where they came from.
The neighbor told her mother-in-law that it was the gardenia in her own house.
My mother-in-law came to her gardenia and picked one, put it in front of her nose, smelled it, and realized that the flower was indeed from their house.
The neighbor also came over to smell the orange blossoms, and the mother-in-law was very nervous, pointing at the neighbor and scolding, you can't pull my gardenia, and drive the neighbor away while talking.
My fiancée was afraid that the neighbors would really pull their flowers, so she rushed over and tried to hit them.
My fiancée's family of three has no friends in the local area, and the relationship with the neighbors is not good, so my fiancée often looks back and giggles as she walks.
The neighbors all praised my fiancée for being very drifting, very kind-looking, and tall. At first glance, I didn't notice anything unusual about her, and I didn't know until I got along.
Hearing what my neighbors said, I was comforted. I didn't notice anything unusual about my fiancée, and I wasn't entirely to blame.
I hired a lawyer and was ready to sue for divorce, but my mother-in-law prevented my fiancée from doing a psychiatric evaluation.
My lawyer had to go to a psychiatric hospital and retrieve my fiancée's medical records.
My fiancée stayed for half a month in August 2017, and her parents reported her illness in the medical records.
It turned out that my fiancée had been ill 6 years ago, which means that she has been behaving abnormally since 2011.
When my fiancée was in college, she would throw a tantrum and splash water on top of her quilt.
She will turn on the faucet to the maximum and affect the rest of others.
During military training, she had a conflict with her teammates in the army.
In 2015, when my fiancée came home, my parents-in-law noticed that she was talking rambling, never getting to the point, and behaving abnormally.
And often wandering around the streets aimlessly.
In the middle of the night, I would cry and laugh for no reason.
If her father-in-law says a few more words to her, she will lose her temper and become impatient.
She had 34 jobs, but was fired because she couldn't do things, behaved sluggishly, and couldn't communicate with people properly.
Whenever my fiancée receives a spam message, she will be furious, and then smash her phone.
My fiancée's history of illness says that her grandmother and several cousins were mentally ill.
Doctors suspect that she has a genetic disorder in her family.
The doctor asked her to stay for a month before she could make a diagnosis, but because after she stayed for half a month, her mother-in-law forcibly took her away, and then the doctor could not tell that she was mentally ill, but only suspected.
However, the doctor prescribed psychiatric medications.
After looking at my fiancée's medical records, although the doctor was inconclusive, I was pretty sure that she was mentally ill.
I would not accept a woman who was sick and married me.
I had to give an explanation and go to my mother-in-law.
My mother-in-law said that she had not returned a penny, and did not admit that her fiancée was mentally ill, she said that divorce was not good for me and her daughter, and hoped that my daughter and I would not divorce.
At this time, she only thought about treating her daughter badly, and she had thought about my feelings.
If I marry my fiancée, my next generation will inherit her disease.
I asked my fiancée to come out with me for a psychiatric evaluation, but my mother-in-law refused, saying she was out of town.
The longer this drags on, the worse it will be for us. We just wanted to get justice, but I had already negotiated with my mother-in-law several times without getting any results, so I had to go to judicial mediation.
From the beginning to the end, my mother-in-law did not admit that my fiancée was sick and gave me two choices.
If my fiancée is not sick, I will compensate her for mental damages.
If the fiancée is really sick, the family will return 200,000 bride price to us.
People say it's a gambling game, and it's a bit risky for me.
If my fiancée is not sick after a psychiatric evaluation, I will compensate her for mental damages.
None of them recommended that my fiancée do a psychiatric evaluation.
But I'm pretty sure that my fiancée is sick, and if I don't do an appraisal, I won't be able to get back 200,000 yuan, and I won't be able to get a divorce.
My parents and I don't accept a mentally ill wife who must be divorced.
My father-in-law and mother-in-law got angry and changed their minds and asked me to compensate my fiancée 100,000 yuan for mental damages.
Hehe, I didn't get any of the bride price back, and I have to compensate 100,000 yuan.
I was already so angry that I wanted to hit someone, but reason told me I couldn't do that.
I insisted on suing for divorce, and my uncle agreed to do so. He said that if he couldn't get the bride price back, he didn't want to pay back the 100,000 yuan he borrowed from me, as long as I could successfully divorce it.
It is not easy for my uncle to earn 100,000 yuan, and our family not only lost 100,000 yuan, but also lost my name.
My fiancée and I are registered, and we are legally married. If I get divorced, I am a divorcee, and it will be even more difficult to find a partner in the future.
Uncle blames me for not being assertive, Mu Ne. When he forced me to get married, I didn't have my own opinions, and I was obedient to everything.
I accept whatever my parents say, which leads to the result of being empty of people and money.
After one thing, one thing grows and one wisdom.
After this incident, I will not be so sloppy about anything in the future, especially life events.
This story comes from the Hunan Metropolis Channel's Romance Column. For ease of reading, the story is narrated in the first person.
Marriage is a life event, not child's play, don't get married to complete a task.
Today, there are more than 30 million more men than women in society, resulting in a lot of singles, especially in rural areas.
My maiden village is a small village with only two or three hundred people, but there are more than 30 marriageable men over the age of 25.
In the last two years, the number of singles has been increasing, and there are only one or two lucky people who can get rid of singles every year.
Those who have not yet taken off the single should not enter into marriage hastily because of the urging of their parents.
A marriage that has not gone through the run-in and does not have a deep understanding of each other is not long-lasting.