Yesterday, I went to see my aunt, who I hadn't seen for a long time, and when I looked at each other, I felt old.
She is my own aunt, six years older than me, several aunts including my mother, she is the best-looking, I have thought she is good-looking since I was a child.
She didn't graduate from elementary school, and when she was a child, she didn't want to go to school, so she ran back when she was sent to school, because she was the youngest, and my grandmother loved her the most, so she couldn't say anything.
She runs and plays all day, embroiders at home, and collects the soles of her shoes.
I remember that at that time, my grandmother's house was still a two-story tulou, and there was a sewing machine on the second floor, and my aunt used to work there at that time.
When I was still young, when I was in elementary school, she asked me to learn how to do needlework, but I didn't want to, so she always ridiculed me, saying that if I found my in-laws in the future, I wouldn't know how to sew, and I would be treated coldly by my in-laws.
At that time, my grandmother always said to her: "You don't care about her, her mother doesn't care, so get you?"
The favored one has no fear, she is not worried when she grows up, because of the marriage event, she fell out with her grandmother, and she did not interact for many years, so that her grandmother died of a sudden illness at a young age.
After she got married, she gave birth to a boy and a girl, and she can't say that she is happy, and she can't say that she is unhappy.
The days in the countryside are so bland, and the plain is beyond sight.
At that time, when I was still young, my aunt was doing farm work at home, and my uncle went out to earn a living.
It is rare to go out in the mountains.
The two couples worked very hard, raised two children, married for more than ten years, and finally moved out of the side house of their parents' house and lived in a self-built bungalow on the homestead.
I've gone out to study and rarely go back.
Times have quietly changed outside the mountains, and my aunt's two children have also gone out of the mountains to study junior high school in the countryside dozens of miles away.
When my cousin with excellent grades took the high school entrance examination, he was admitted to the city's first high school, which was the best high school in our city.
However, from the mountains to the city, there are too many changes and temptations, and once you broaden your horizons, you can't go back.
I have been in love since my first year of high school, and I have no motivation to study.
That's when my aunt started planning to go out.
At that time, her daughter was still in junior high school in the township, and she hesitated for a year, but she resolutely went to the city to make a living.
No culture, no craftsmanship, no world, for more than thirty years, this city is the farthest she has ever been.
At that time, she dared to use her savings to rent a house near her son's school.
Opened a clothing store.
Take the goods from the nearest wholesale market, sell them when you earn a little, and the business is actually good, although she has no money in her hand, she can maintain it, and she can take care of the expenses of her two children, she is very content.
I heard that I had always wanted to see it, but I couldn't get it.
I have always admired her, I think she is too decisive, she has nothing, and she dares to do business if she is not familiar with life.
Some things, absolutely talented, really, talented.
After her son's exam, he did not do well, he was admitted to a third-rate junior college, went to the provincial capital to study, she closed the store in the city, and opened a clothing store near her son's school.
There are a mess of technical schools, colleges and universities, and a lot of young children.
She rented a shop at that time for 1,080 a month, and she put a table at the door and rented it to a girl to do nail art, and she shared 800 rent a month.
Still selling clothes, four years of college, she earned enough money for her son to pick up girls and call friends, and when the store was too busy, her son's girlfriend went to help, and it was not alone several times.
can't control it, she just doesn't care, she just hopes that her son won't get into trouble.
In the year of her son's graduation, there was a more regular girl who quarreled with her son and smashed the store into a mess, and she angrily asked her son to get out with his girlfriend.
After that, she learned about the physiotherapy industry from the owner of the physiotherapy shop next to her, went to the headquarters to study for half a month, and decisively joined, and since then she has started a new industry change.
Her son graduated and flew, she felt that her task was almost over, her daughter was well-behaved and sensible, there was nothing to worry about, although she also went to a low-end university, but she knew what she was doing, and she was more intimate.
Compared to the mood of being afraid of his son's trouble, I don't know how much better.
After experiencing her son's affairs, she spent a lot of money to support her daughter, she said: "Children who go to college, especially girls who grow up in our rural areas, have to give more money, and she spends a lot more money than my son." ”
My aunt is very smart, and not long after she entered the physiotherapy industry, she played the corresponding people in the industry.
Compared to making clothing, it is easy and quick to make money.
She moved back to the city from the big city, the business was unhurried, and her son and daughter had grown up.
It's just that when my son enters society, he rarely goes home and rarely contacts him again.
From the day he graduated, he didn't ask his family for a penny.
A few years ago, he went to my city on a business trip, and took a girl with him, who said it was his colleague, and he had a meal at home.
Back then, as soon as I had a holiday, I went to my aunt's house to play with him and coax him to sleep, and I was actually an adult again.
Time has ruthlessly taken away a lot of things.
Everyone was very busy, and for a while, I didn't know what to do after my shop closed, so I went to my aunt to see what she could do.
After staying with her for a few days, she analyzed several businesses with me, and I found that none of them worked, and I couldn't do it alone.
At that time, she said that I was shallow-sighted, "Have you ever seen a boss who does the work himself, hire someone." ”
She also offered to let me do her job, but I didn't like dealing with people, so I refused.
After three years of inconvenience, and then I was too busy to see her, at the beginning of this year, I heard that she was back, although in a city, not close.
Yesterday rested, finally made the trip, she was very busy, from my arrival at the store, she said hello, until one o'clock, the guest left.
When I talked, I felt that time passed too fast, and my temples were already gray.
Speaking of children, my aunt said: "He is in his thirties, he is not married, he is anxious when he says it, I don't say it now, I don't like to be a mother-in-law, really, if he gets married in the future and needs my help to take care of the child, I will go out to rent a house to live, and the child will be sent over, and it must not be lived together." ”
When asked why, she said, "Do you know how hard it is for parents to live with their children?"
She said that over the years, she has only had a handful of opportunities to meet her son, and she never makes a phone call, "Really, you want a girl, your son really can't." ”
A few years ago, my aunt and uncle came to look for a house in Xindian, lived with my son, knew that my son loved cleanliness, and brought a futon at home.
When the time came, the son had already made the bed and would not let them take the bedding home.
My aunt said: "It is very scorching to live together, and no one is allowed to disturb his life. ”
My son loves to be clean, he gets off work every day, puts his briefcase at the door when he enters the door, goes directly into the bathroom, washes the rag out, and wipes it from the door to the balcony.
Then I started mopping the floor, and my aunt said, I didn't say anything, and I still mopped the ground again before he got off work, and he still felt that it was not clean.
Wash your clothes once a day, iron yourself, cook at home, and skip food stalls.
My aunt said, "He can do this, a big man, I can't see it, I don't want to pay attention to him." ”
After the opening of the new store during the Chinese New Year, my son's place of work drove to her store for 20 minutes, and he didn't come or call.
I called him on the weekend and asked him if he would come for dinner, and when he came, he said yes, and if he didn't come, he said that he had something.
My aunt said, "There is no superfluous word, do you think this kind of relationship is interesting?"
My cousin is actually afraid of going home and being urged to get married, so he doesn't like to go home.
I didn't know how to answer, so I said, "My two sons, I don't know where I'm going." ”
During the meal, the aunt said: "People live for a lifetime, and after becoming parents, the rest of the time is to desperately earn money and support the children, but after reaching this age, when you think about it, you feel that when you are old, you can't ask your children for money, why do you say why?"
My aunt came out of the countryside, there is no social security, she wants to earn pension money for herself, she came back last night, she asked me: "I can't ride, what can I do with my grandchildren?"
I said, "Don't you have a driver?"
How can it be only her and her sister-in-law with children!
She said: "Both of them have children, who earns money?"
I said, "Whoever has the child will raise it." ”
She asked me, "Then why don't you raise your own children?"
Everyone's situation is different, from young to old, everyone has their own fears and cautions.
My aunt has been so strong in her life, she feels that her relationship with her son is gradually drifting apart, and she doesn't know why?
I wasn't old enough to experience that kind of heart-scratching confusion.
She said that she was looking for a way to liberate herself, no matter what, no questioning, no interference, she just wanted her heart to be free!