The years are ruthless and urge people to grow old, and time happens like an arrow.
When I was young, I always felt that every day was a long time, and I wanted to grow up quickly, become an adult, and do whatever I wanted. But when you are really an adult, you will find that the only time in a person's life to be truly happy and carefree is when he was a teenager.
In the adult world, the law of the jungle is the strongest, and there is intrigue. From a simple child, we have gradually become qualified adults who are insincere after the tempering of life.
The adult world is busy and cumbersome, time is like water, flowing quietly, and unconsciously, people have reached middle age and will go to old age.
In old age, it may not be necessary to devote most of your time and energy to work every day, as you did when you were younger, but more sorrow will also come to you.
The functions of the body gradually age, and I accept the fact that I am marginalized by society. As the mind and body deteriorate, anxiety escalates, and the fear that one day I may lose even basic self-care skills.
Therefore, in old age, we cannot relax in life choices. You must build a fortress to maintain your happiness for the rest of your life, no matter who you are in front of, don't show these 4 hole cards, it is the wisdom of survival in your later years.
Don't talk about your own financial situation
The relationship between people is like two hedgehogs. It's okay to stay warm next to each other, but also remember to keep a certain distance from each other to avoid stabbing each other.
In old age, financial ability is the greatest confidence to support your survival. Don't disclose it to others if you have money or not.
Because from the perspective of human nature: if you have no money, they think you are useless, look down on you, and even ridicule you; You have money, and they are also prone to jealousy and look elsewhere for balance.
If you want harmony between people, the best balance is that he has 200,000 and you have 190,000. You can't be more than him, but you can't be much worse than him.
But there are very few cases where this is just right. Therefore, there is really no need to disclose your financial situation to others to cause trouble.
When I meet those unfilial children again, I always want to collect money from my parents. Then your bottom line is that he holds your authority, and your old age will only become more miserable.
Children's ability to be filial, don't show off
In "Zengguang Xianwen", it is written: "When you meet people and say three points, you can't throw away all your heart." ”
People live a lifetime, and too many Chinese parents are living children. He is excellent, he is only happy for three points; He was very happy that his children were excellent.
Especially in old age, when we are retired and our children have grown up, we don't need to work hard for work and worry about family chores. There is more leisure time, and people can't struggle, and they don't have their own pursuits, so they look more and more at their children.
There is often no comparison between middle-aged and elderly people, so they compare their children everywhere. If your child is very filial and you can't help but want to "show off", then it is best to stop at it.
If your children are much better than other people's children, then the next thing to be choreographed is your family.
Don't spread the wrong things you've done
On the road of life, we will always make mistakes and encounter mud. As long as you go through those bumpy years and correct those mistakes, then don't look back.
The later we go, the longer our memories become. Often those happy and joyful things go away with the wind, but those heart-piercing things are vividly remembered and engraved in the heart. People can't help but talk to others to relieve the depression in their hearts.
It's like watching a TV series or a novel, and those sad plots always touch people's heartstrings more.
But what we need to know is that what you should say to others in secret, the moment you open your mouth, it is no longer a secret.
If the past is wrong, and the acquaintances around you who don't want to make trouble are well known, it's best not to talk about it with others. You think it's a salvation to say it, but it's actually pulling you into that dark state of mind again.
Don't tell outsiders about family conflicts and ugly things
Bi Shumin said: "Keeping a distance is the most appropriate way to communicate. ”
There is a measure in the interaction between people. But for some reason, some people always like to tell outsiders about their own ugly things and their children's mistakes.
In this life, in a family, how can there be a tongue that does not touch teeth.
Every family has ashes at the bottom of the pot, such as mother-in-law and daughter-in-law conflicts, husband and wife disharmony, brother discord, parental partiality, etc., depending on whether it is with outsiders.
To be a person and do things, we must know that "there is a difference between inside and outside", and if there are ugly things in the family and outsiders, there is no blessing for us, only contradictions.
The more you reach your old age, the more you have to be clear, who is the friend who uses each other in social interactions, and who is the person who accompanies you all your life. It's not a family, it's not a door. To belittle your own family is to belittle yourself.
There is a saying in "The Godfather": "Don't even talk about the gods what you really want to do."
Fate never favors anyone, and when you compete with each other, it only depends on how many hole cards you have in your hand. The one who can save the trump card until the last moment is the winner.
You never know what an ordinary sentence you say casually will be understood by others; You never know what kind of trouble you can get into trouble if you say something unintentional.
If you talk too much, you will lose, and if you talk too much, you must keep your mouth shut. In your old age, please be a mature and measured person, and treat no one with your heart and lungs, and you can't keep your mouth open.
When people reach their old age, they go through the wind and rain and see through life. At this time, we must learn to protect ourselves, protect our privacy, emotions, values, and hole cards, so that we can enjoy our own peace and indifference, and calmly meet the challenges of life in our later years.
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