In One Hundred Years of Solitude, Márquez says:
"The secret of a happy old age is nothing else but a decent pact with loneliness."
In fact, the most important thing in this life is to make yourself happy.
So, what should one do? In order to make yourself better and happier?
In fact, the answer is simple, that is, let yourself talk less, worry less, and desire less on weekdays.
As the "Book of Changes" says: "Those who have few husbands are more expensive." ”
Many times, the less things a person has, the smaller the load on his spiritual world.
In the end, the whole talent is more energetic and energetic, and his daily life will become more and more fulfilling, and he will have more expectations and hope for the future.
Talk less
You have to understand that everything you have at the moment is not obtained by words, but by deeds.
No matter how eloquent a person is and can speak well, if he really has no real ability, he will eventually be alienated or even forgotten.
This society is always real, and real humanity is always real.
Think about it the other way, if others only talk sweetly and endlessly to themselves, just to satisfy their own interests.
Then, believing in yourself will also make an attitude and choice of alienation and rejection.
Hemingway said:
"It takes two years for a person to learn to speak, but it takes a lifetime to learn to shut up."
Take care of your mouth, and don't prove yourself with a strong desire to express yourself at every turn.
A smart person must know what kind of occasion to say, what kind of words to say, or even not to speak.
Let yourself stay quietly in the corner, don't always think about improving your presence, and don't always think that others will eat your own set.
Human nature is more complex and changeable than you can imagine.
As Wang Xiaobo said:
"You can learn little from the words of humanity, but from the silence you can. If you want to learn more, you have to keep quiet. ”
Choosing to be silent and talk less can allow you to observe more real humanity and glimpse more real human hearts in silence.
In this way, you will live more transparently, live more soberly, know what to do, and have a happier future of your own.
Think less
Most of people's troubles and pains are actually due to being too fond of cranky thinking.
A sober person will understand that life often has more thoughts and fewer problems.
Many people will derive a lot of ideas and bad thoughts because of small problems and few problems.
In the end, there are more and more troubles, more and more pressure, and even I always feel that life is miserable, there is no hope, and I can't find an exit from life.
I once read a sentence: "All the unbearable and troubles are just the narcissism and masochism of my own cup, and all the worries and doubts are all my own reasons." ”
To put it bluntly, when you encounter a problem, solve it immediately, know how to deal with it logically, and treat it with the right medicine.
Instead of having negative emotions because of problems, I brewed negative energy, causing me to be heartless and impatient no matter what I did.
There is a saying in "Health Essentials": "If you think too much, you will die, and if you think too much, you will be scattered." ”
Let there be less thoughts, let there be fewer ideas, and then our energy will not be wasted.
When a person is able to manage his energy and maintain his spiritual vigor and fulfillment, life will definitely be enjoyable.
Wang Wei once wrote such a poem:
"Sitting alone in the secluded grate, playing the piano and howling. People in the deep forest don't know, and the bright moon comes to take pictures. ”
When a person's inner world becomes more and more calm, more and more gentle, and the spiritual world is more and more full, it is the time when he is happy and at ease.
In this way, let yourself become clear, let life be bright, and truly let yourself live this life, let your life be vigorous and prosperous.
Less desire
People, the more desires, the less happiness.
On the contrary, know how to give up, screen out the desires that suit you, and pick out the necessary desires.
In this way, you can stimulate your motivation, tap your fighting spirit, and finally make yourself willing and more determined to do the thing at hand.
Many people just have too many desires and are too strong, so that no matter what they do, they want to do it in one step, and they can be perfect in all aspects.
But in reality, how can a person have so much energy and time to properly handle some problems and challenges at the same time?
So, when a person is unable to weigh the relationship between himself and his desires, contradictions arise, problems arise, and pressure comes.
When you fall into such a passive and anxious state for a long time, you will definitely collapse mentally and be impetuous.
The Tao Te Ching says: "If you take less, you will get it, and if you are greedy for more, you will be confused." ”
Reduce unnecessary desires, throw away unnecessary greed, believe that life is simple and simple, and know that life is actually short.
When we understand this truth, then we are more willing to make trade-offs, not to covet what we should not covet, not to cling to what we should not cling to.
Then, calm down, let go, slow down, get to know yourself well, and experience life.
In this way, we will live each day more fully, live more transparently, and live more consistently.