Narrator: Liu Surong / Finishing: Sunflower / Picture: Internet
I am 61 years old this year, 2 sons and 1 daughter, I am in the city for the eldest son with children, my wife is doing a small business in my hometown, although it is not rich and expensive, but it is also a well-off family, others are very envious of me, even my relatives and sisters also said that I have a good life, I have been a farmer all my life, and I have lived the life of a city person when I am old, and my wife earns money. But who knows how bitter my heart is? I've been sleepless for days.
If life were to happen all over again, I would no longer force myself to get married and have children, and I would no longer force my children to start a family early. Some friends will say, "What kind of thoughts do I have?" At such an old age, why is it that the thinking is getting more and more regressive? I'll also tell you about our family's big problems.
01 In my wife's eyes, there is nothing else but making money, and it is even more difficult for me to ask him for money to spend.
Before I took care of my eldest son, I followed my wife to do business together, and when I was busy, I often drove out from home at three or four in the morning and stayed busy until eleven or twelve in the evening. I am not in good health, although I am so tired, but I am very happy in my heart, because I have earned money, my hands are in my own hands, hard work but there is money to spend.
But since I went to the city to take care of the children, and my wife started to do business on her own, he has never taken the initiative to give me a penny. What makes me sad is that last year I was sick for a month, dizzy and swollen, couldn't walk far, couldn't cook, I called my wife and asked him not to do business to come over to help take care of the children, he verbally promised uh-huh, just won't come.
I said that I had been infused for more than half a month, and he was still indifferent, and then I cried a lot and took the initiative to ask him for 500 yuan. He insisted that his family's business could not leave, and he came here for two days and left in a hurry, and he didn't even make a phone call when he got home, and he never cared if my illness had recovered. I used to be indifferent, but this time I've been sick for so long, and he doesn't even have a word of concern, and my heart is cold.
Every time he came here to see his grandson, he never came empty-handed, and he never took the initiative to give me a penny, he said that it is not easy to do business, he has earned it by himself, and he is reluctant to spend, but I also follow him to go south and north for most of his life, can I not spend a little money at home? I really feel that this marriage is a failure.
02 I have been taking care of my eldest son for 5 years, and my daughter-in-law is extremely lazy, and I am a nanny in this family.
My daughter-in-law's emotional intelligence is quite high, and under normal circumstances, she doesn't quarrel with me, but she is extremely lazy, so she uses me as a free nanny. My son is busy with work and basically has no time to rest, so it's usually me, and she and the children are at home.
Even when I was sick, I went to the kitchen to cook tremblingly, she either nestled in the bedroom looking at her phone, or playing with the child, anyway, she didn't cook, she didn't clean up the housework, she didn't do anything.
Some time ago, I went to the outpatient clinic for infusion with a fever, and it was 7 o'clock in the evening when I got home, I glanced at the kitchen, it was still a cold pot and a cold stove, and I only heard the living room, and my daughter-in-law was calling me: Mom, are you back? We're all starving. I burst into tears, and I quickly hid in the kitchen to cook, but she didn't care if I was better, but treated me like a nanny.
03 Since the younger son got married, the eldest daughter-in-law also began to complain that I was unfair in the house, and I didn't know how to balance the dedication of these two sons, and I regretted giving birth to 2 sons so much.
Everyone else envies my 3 children, I know especially the 2 sons, if it's not fair, this family is full of contradictions, so I try to be fair everywhere, but I didn't expect that even if I worked so hard, after the younger son got married, the eldest daughter-in-law also began to find fault with me.
First of all, when it comes to the bride price, the eldest daughter-in-law said that it is not fair, she entered the house 5 years earlier than the younger daughter-in-law, her bride price is about 100,000, and the younger daughter-in-law has just entered the door, and the bride price is 160,000. She didn't want to think about it, there was a difference of 5 years in between, and the customs of the hometown where the two people lived were also different.
Let's talk about having children, the eldest son's family has two children, and the younger son's child will be born in a few months, so I am very worried about how to show them the children when the time comes.
The eldest son was busy with work and couldn't pick up and drop off the children, and the eldest daughter-in-law couldn't rest because of the nature of her work, so I was tied up in their house and couldn't leave anywhere. But the youngest son's family is about to have a baby, the conditions of our family, and not allowed to hire a nanny, the two sons' homes are far away, the mother of the little daughter-in-law said in advance that she would not give the child to her, and the wife said that the business can not be lost and not to bring the grandson.
I'm almost sad, the task of taking care of the children of the two sons' families is on me alone, and the two children of the eldest son are also relatively young, I don't know how to balance, how to bring children to this family, and then to bring to that family.
I haven't figured out how to take my grandson, the eldest daughter-in-law and because the younger daughter-in-law is going to the confinement center, there is a conflict, she said that she didn't go to the confinement center, now it's the turn of the second family, to enjoy this good service, she was not convinced, but at that time she was at home I invited the confinement sister-in-law, two confinement and two months, I also paid more than 20,000 yuan. At this point, they all forgot about it, and only their hearts were left unbalanced.
Thinking of the above things, I really sighed, why did I have 2 sons at that time? What's the point of my marriage? I was worried all night long, waiting for my youngest son to be born, maybe I was facing more complicated situations, and all these things were pressed on me alone, and I felt breathless.
Friends, you're here to help with ideas, I really don't know how to deal with it.