At half past nine the night before yesterday, I was about to wash up. Suddenly, the mobile phone kept ringing, and it was a call from my sister who had not been in touch for a long time. I immediately "chuckled" in my heart.
My sister and I have very different personalities, I am more outgoing and like to communicate with my family and friends. Almost every day, I would bubble up in the crowd at home and talk to my mother every other day.
My sister happens to be the opposite of me, and she rarely takes the initiative to contact us unless it is a holiday or something. She lives not far from her parents and sister, but she rarely has time to get together.
First, she is very introverted, she always hides something in her heart, and she easily refuses to show others. Second, she has a young daughter who goes to kindergarten, and she is very unfree, and she is tied to children and housework.
I answered the phone, and the air on the other end of the phone seemed to freeze, and there was no sound for a long time. For some reason, my heart was pounding, and I was afraid that something bad would happen.
I suddenly remembered that at noon the day before the 2021 college entrance examination, I had just walked into the house and received a call from my mother. On the other end of the phone, my mother was silent for a long time before she cried and said the bad news: "Your sister's child is gone, and he is finally free." ”
My sister's son suffered from depression in his sophomore year of high school and has been suicidal, and although he has been treated and intervened, he is still unable to recover. I have always had a good relationship with this nephew, and he has a lot of ideas and will take the initiative to communicate with me.
From the outside, no one believed that he was a talkative and athletic man. But he obviously has a tendency to perfection, and he can't think about it when he encounters things.
To this day, we still don't understand why he got sick and went to extremes. He is smart and good at studying, and after being admitted to 211 for a year, he didn't want to continue to study in other provinces, so he dropped out of school and returned to his hometown to repeat. I didn't expect something to happen the day before the college entrance examination.
The first text I wrote on the headlines was also written because of him. This is the only place where he is remembered. In front of his family, he has become a special symbol that everyone avoids.
Thinking of him, my heart was heavy, and tears slowly soaked from my eyes.
On the other end of the phone, my sister finally spoke, her voice was obviously heavy and weak, with a crying voice: "Sister, I am pregnant, and now I am on an intravenous drip in the hospital, I am so uncomfortable every day, I don't know if I can bear it." ”
I was taken aback. Oh, my God! My 49-year-old sister turned out to be pregnant again. What kind of sin is this, haven't you had enough suffering? O my miserable sister!
Having a baby at an age when you're about to go through menopause, isn't this an obsession? It's also too much to take care of your body. Could it be that my sister's psychology is not normal?
For a long time after the nephew's accident, my sister always had insomnia, which led to poor health.
At that time, my sister and I contacted her every day to enlighten her. Thankfully, she had a young daughter who was distracted, and she gradually came out of her grief. But I knew she couldn't really come out of it.
As long as I see the news of my child's accident, I can't help but think of my nephew. As long as I mention the college entrance examination, I will always remember poor him. Not to mention his sister who has raised him for 20 years.
Where can those days and months of getting along easily turn the page? Those bits and pieces of life are not something that can be erased by burning books and clothes.
I heard that many families who have lost their independence have an obsession with their children, but don't they have a little daughter who can express their emotions? Why do you have to have another one at such an advanced age?
Is it her idea, or is it her brother-in-law's obsession? The younger sister said that she and her brother-in-law had always felt that their youngest daughter was too lonely and wanted another child to keep her company with.
They have been doing IVF since last year and have finally succeeded recently. She is currently 7 weeks pregnant, and because of the severe pregnancy reaction, she is in the hospital every day to protect the fetus.
In my heart, I don't approve of my sister having another child. At such an advanced age, the risk is high. My sister is not in good health, how much energy will she have to take care of the two children in the future?
According to me, it is already quite difficult to raise a young daughter well, so why add another burden? Two people who are about to retire can't enjoy life well, so why do they have to spend their energy on having children? Why do you have to live such a tired life?
Thinking to the extreme, the family does not have thousands of assets for the children to inherit. I think nine out of ten people will react like me when they hear about it, right?
Even though this is my true thoughts, I can't help but comfort her, encourage her, and remind her to pay more attention to her body. If you can't complete the work, ask for personal leave from the school first. After all, the body is the most important thing.
In the past, my parents and sister had objected to my sister's having another child, but this time my sister chose to hide it from them. She must have been very depressed and decided to tell me to seek comfort and encouragement from me.
My parents are not in good health when they are old, and they tell them that they are worried in vain, and they can't help their sister, and they are troubled in vain.
Now pregnant, next year at the age of 50 to have a baby, the child will be in college when the sister is almost 70 years old. My sister's idea of this family is too puzzling. I really can't understand them, but I can only hide my sincere words and express my concern and blessings from the bottom of my heart.
At noon today, my mother said in the group that my 81-year-old father always had convulsions when he slept at night, and I don't know why. I hurriedly reminded my sister to take my dad to the hospital tomorrow for a check-up.
I couldn't help without my parents, and I was very sad. My sister was busy with business and couldn't get out. The younger sister who stays by her parents' side is too busy to take care of herself.
I can't figure it out, even though my parents raised three children, most of the time they were left to fend for themselves. Why does my sister still regard children so important?
I finally understood Yu Hua's words, "Life belongs to everyone's own feelings, not to anyone's opinions."
I raised my daughter until she was 23 years old, and I had to worry about her everywhere. She's not happy, and I'm hard to be happy. My middle age is full of difficulties, I can't settle my parents well, I can't take care of my children, and my sisters can't help me.
Somehow, I suddenly felt so tired from life that I couldn't help but want to cry.
(This is my own real family matter, and it is also some fragments of my life that is depressed and tired.) Write it down, and think of this place as a tree hole. Please don't spray if you don't like it. ）