There is a saying circulating on the Internet: "There is not much difference between the first and second grades, and the third and fourth grades are polarized." ”
Many children often get full marks in the first and second grades, and it is difficult to score 80 points in the third grade;
There are also children who are in the third grade, often inattentive in class, and are prone to desertion;
There are also children who are very careless in their homework, and make the same mistakes over and over again;
There are even children who begin to be tired of school, rebellious, and frequently disagree with their parents and teachers......
This is the classic "third-grade phenomenon".
Experienced teachers have analyzed that the biggest influencing factor behind this phenomenon is the problem of children's habits.
Mr. Chen Heqin also said: "Nine times out of ten, human movements are habits, and most of these habits are formed at an early age. ”
If you want your child to successfully cross the "hurdle" of the third grade, the following 3 habits must be cultivated in advance.
The habit of reading
Sukhomlinsky, a great Soviet educator, said: "A child who does not read is a potential poor student." ”
To some extent, reading ability determines learning ability.
A child's reading ability affects his ability to understand, analyze, judge, associate and innovate, and these abilities are related to whether a child can learn various subject knowledge well.
Fengman District of Jilin City once conducted a unified examination, and more than 3,000 sixth-grade students in the district participated.
The results of the exam came out, and it was found that the top 17 students were all from the same class.
Not only that, but the other students in this class are also ranked highly, and the math achievements of the students in this class are also quite good.
This attracted the attention of a nationally renowned expert in language education, so he led a team to investigate.
The survey found that the homeroom teacher of this class, Ms. Yang Qiaoyun, is just an ordinary teacher, but she attaches great importance to the reading and writing habits of students, and insists on leading the children to read a lot of extracurricular books and write diaries.
She also emphasized: "To read and write, you must read first. ”
It can be seen that reading habits are closely related to children's academic performance.
Sukhomlinsky also said: "The way to make students smarter is not to make up for classes, not to increase the amount of homework, but to read, read, read." ”
So how to cultivate children's reading habits?
Mr. Nie Zhenning, a well-known reading expert, proposed that the habit of reading can be developed at home.
From preschool age, parents can take their children to read every day until they graduate from primary school.
Starting with age-appropriate and fun picture books, and gradually transitioning to text reading, over time, it will stimulate children's interest in reading, develop good reading habits, and let children eventually move towards independent reading.
The habit of time management
The parents of primary school students around me resonate with these scenes:
Dressing and washing can be done in 10 minutes in the morning, but it can't be done in half an hour;
When I came home from school to eat, I didn't eat for an hour;
I always grind before going to bed at night, and I can't ......sleep at eleven or twelve o'clock.
These situations occur because they have not developed the habit of time management.
As the saying goes: "An inch of time is an inch of gold, and it is difficult to buy an inch of time." ”
The lack of time management for children affects not only the children themselves, but also countless parents.
My friend's family has two daughters, one is 7 years old and the other is 4 years old.
Every night, both children were able to wash up before bed on their own and go to bed on time by 9 p.m.
After the children go to bed, the couple can also read books and chat in the living room, and enjoy the world of the two of them comfortably.
Such a scene makes me envious.
I asked her, "How did you manage to be so easy with 'one to two'?" ”
She only said: "The sooner you develop the habit of time management, the better." ”
As for cultivating children's time management habits, she also shared two key points:
Before the age of 6, it is necessary to focus on cultivating children's living habits, so that children can clearly understand what they must do every day, and let children perceive how much time each thing needs.
After the age of 6, it is necessary to focus on cultivating children's learning habits, allowing children to participate in their daily schedules, visualize them, and then complete them one by one.
Gorky has a point of view: in this world, the most ordinary thing is time, the most precious thing is time, and the easiest thing to ignore is also time.
The time of both parents and children is precious.
The sooner a child develops the habit of time management, the more relaxed it will not only benefit the child, but also the parents.
The habit of doing housework
Harvard University conducted a study that followed more than 400 teenagers for 20 years.
The results showed that compared with children who did not like to do housework, children who loved housework had a higher employment rate when they grew up, and a lower rate of crime, divorce, and mental illness.
Develop the habit of doing housework from an early age, and children will grow up to be more promising.
Hanhan is a sophomore girl in high school, proficient in English and Korean, and has a very high piano level.
Every winter and summer vacation, when students are busy making up classes or watching dramas at home, Hanhan almost always chooses to study abroad.
Someone once asked her: "You travel the world during your holidays, how do you arrange your studies?" ”
Han Han replied, "I plan my schedule in detail every month, implement the things that need to be done every day, every hour, and then complete them one by one. Although I didn't attend cram school during the holidays, I would arrange four or five hours a day for studying. ”
She added: "It's really like tidying up the room, first sorting out the things that need to be organized, sorting them in the corresponding way, and then completing them step by step." ”
Life is a complicated curriculum, and we can't teach children everything, but we can let children experience and learn from these small chores, and then touch the bypass.
It was from such a small chore as tidying up the room that Hanhan learned to coordinate and arrange his life.
It can be seen that children who are good at housework tend to be more organized.
Unfortunately, there are too many children around me, and they are too unorganized.
Many children have such problems:
During class, I spent most of the class looking for a pen and a notebook for a while, just looking for things;
When doing homework, I write Chinese for a while, write mathematics for a while, and the homework that can be completed in less than an hour is delayed until I can't finish it for two hours;
During the exam, the questions are not done in the order of the test papers, one is done in the east and one is written in the west, and some questions and ...... are often missed.
To cure these problems, we can encourage children to develop the habit of doing housework from an early age, and exercise their organization from some small housework.
Like what:
Let the child put on and take off the clothes by himself, tell the child what to wear first and what to wear next, and help the child establish a concept of priority;
Organize things with your child so that they can learn the concepts of order and sorting; Clean the room with your child so that they can plan ahead.
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Mr. Ye Shengtao said: "The essence of education is to cultivate habits. ”
Raising a child is like planting a young sapling.
Good habits are indispensable nutrients for children's growth.
Reading allows children to swim in the ocean of knowledge and lay a solid foundation for learning;
Time management, let children control their own rhythm of life, and liberate their hard-working parents;
Do housework so that children are more and more organized, live and study better.
The sooner these habits are cultivated, the better, and they will be like a solid foundation to support children to move forward in their future studies and lives.
Author | Shiman Tu Min, an offline entity entrepreneur, is deeply involved in children's reading and family education, a national reading planner, and a senior family education instructor.