Zeng Guofan said that if you want to achieve great things, people seek to live half, and providence lives half.
Providence represents all kinds of turns, as well as opportunities. And human strategy represents a person's ability and wisdom. The integration of the two is the best way to bottom out and rebound, from decline to prosperity.
If you have the ability but no chance, you are doomed to be unlucky and downcast, and there is no place for heroes. If you have the opportunity but don't have the ability, the same is true, you will only pass by the opportunity, and you will still be unlucky.
The so-called "Feng Tang is easy to get old, Li Guang is difficult to seal" is this reason. It's not that Feng Tang is not talented, and it's not that Li Guang is incapable, it's just that they lack certain conditions, so they regret their lives.
For ordinary people, the same is true, if you want to change your fate, you need to improve your ability and seize opportunities, and you can't succeed without any of these conditions.
There are three turning points in people's lives, and those who can catch them in time are all very good.
The first turnaround: when you are 18 years old, whether you can enter a prestigious school.
Ordinary people, why do they have to work so hard to be admitted to a prestigious school? There is only one purpose, to go to a better platform so that you can have more choices.
Students in Qingbei can have a myriad of options; Other 985 and 211 students can have a large number of choices; The right of students who are double non-resident, or college students, to choose their lives is basically equal to zero.
If you can fight your father and mother, you naturally don't care what school you go to, even if you graduate from secondary school, you can have no worries about food and clothing. The problem is that not everyone can fight dad and mom.
It can be seen from the "Twenty-Eight Rule" that more than 80% of them are poor ordinary people, and they have no choice, so they can only desperately involute in order to enter a higher school and seek a brighter way out of life?
Everyone is 996, and students from prestigious schools can get an annual income of hundreds of thousands of dollars from a large factory of 996, while students from pheasant schools can only get an annual income of tens of thousands of 996. The gap is particularly noticeable.
With the intensification of involution and the viciousness of competition, in the future, only more attention will be paid to personal education. It is possible that even a bachelor's degree has gradually become a "low education" in the eyes of HR.
The second turnaround: at the age of 30, whether to find the other half of "one plus one is greater than two".
The first reincarnation in life is to choose parents, and there is a starting point for parents of any class. The influence of the original family runs through the first half of a person's life.
The second reincarnation of life is to choose a partner, and what kind of partner you marry will have what kind of future and destiny. The influence of marriage runs through the second half of a person's life.
Some marriages can make people rich, and Dapeng rises with the wind one day and soars to 90,000 miles. And some marriages will only drag people back and make people poorer, and poor couples will mourn everything after all.
When a man is looking for a wife, he should pay attention to two points. First of all, whether the two sides can share weal and woe; Secondly, whether the emotional basis is greater than the material transaction. If the answer is "yes", then congratulations and happiness for the rest of your life; If the answer is "no", then unfortunately, marriage is the grave of your life.
When a woman is looking for a husband, she should pay attention to two points. First, whether it can provide material conditions suitable for survival; Secondly, when you encounter problems, can you not leave them? If the answer is "yes", the rest of your life will be happy; If the answer is "no", the rest of your life will be ruined.
The marriage of the two parties combined, but "one plus one is less than zero", is not as good as being single. A marriage in which both parties are combined, but "one plus one is greater than two", has a chance to change the fate of both parties.
The third turning point: at the age of 50, whether you are in good health and free of wealth.
When he was 18 years old, he entered a prestigious school, found a good job after graduation, and had a happy marriage around the age of 30, all of which laid the foundation for the rest of his life (middle and late life).
If you want to live a stable life in middle and old age, you need to meet three conditions. First, financial freedom, getting rid of poverty and disease; second, a happy marriage and a harmonious family; Third, physical and mental health, years without worry.
Without any of these conditions, life in middle and later life can only be a tragedy. For example, if he lacks the material wealth of life, he will basically not have a happy marriage, and he can only work for a long time, not only family quarrels, but also poor health.
For another example, if the marriage is unhappy and causes internal friction in the family, then he will definitely live an unhappy life, which will affect the efficiency of making money, and his physical and mental health will not be much better. It was destined to be a tragedy.
It can be seen that life is linked one by one. If there is a problem in one link, there will be a problem in the other links. One mistake is the wrong step, and in the end it is just a complete loss.
When people are over 50, they must not only "be at home" but also "stay outside". Anne is in harmony in marriage and good health for the whole family. The external thing is that you have to make money, but you will not be exposed to poverty and illness.
Write to the end
The three turning points in life are nothing strange to say, but if you want to fully grasp them, it is more difficult. The vast majority of people have not grasped even a turning point.
The life of ordinary people - no talent, no admission to a prestigious school, and no promising job. When I got married, I was even more confused, and I found the other half of the oil bottle, so that the family was all over the place. In middle and late life, the family is not harmonious, and he can't make money, and his health is not good, and he has no hope for the rest of his life.
Why can't they grasp the turning point in their lives? It's either a matter of ability, or a matter of vision, or a matter of brain, or a matter of luck. Anyway, there is luck in success and the inevitability of failure.
Between people, after all, there is "the same person who does not have the same fate".