Does the mother-in-law want to help her daughter-in-law take care of the children? This is a problem that many mothers-in-law encounter.
Everyone knows that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is more difficult, and in rural areas, the son generally builds a house for him alone soon after marriage.
The conditions in the city are good, and generally the son does not live with his parents-in-law, just to avoid some conflicts, but when the son has a child, should the father-in-law help take it? Help bring it, I'm afraid that there will be conflicts with my daughter-in-law for a long time, don't help bring it, my son and daughter-in-law are busy, and I can't get over it, I don't have much to do when I'm idle, I'm in a dilemma, I don't know how to be good, today I'll talk to you about this topic and tell you how to deal with this problem.
Generally, the rural mother-in-law and the son live in a village, very close, if the son and daughter-in-law are busy, you can help to take the child, help take care of it, they come back at night, you can bring it yourself, try not to live in the child's house, generally there will not be too many contradictions.
In the city, if the parents-in-law and the son and daughter-in-law are in a city, living not very far, you can also help take the children, do housework, and go back to your own house at night to live, if you live too far away or not in a city, then you can only live together, the parents-in-law need to pay attention to not to interfere with the living and living habits of the son and daughter-in-law, for example, young people like to stay up late, and when they encounter holidays, they may also sleep lazy, which is normal, and at the same time, they should also pay attention to their personal hygiene and personal image, so as not to be bored.
Whether it is urban or rural, if you want to help your daughter-in-law take care of the children, you must pay attention to the following points:
First, don't come uninvited
Sons and daughters-in-law need help with the children, they will say, they will ask us to help, if people can take care of it, don't we need us, aren't we more relaxed? Don't come uninvited, don't worry about yourself, always ask people, they ask us to help and we take the initiative to help are two different things, we should be an old man a little bit like an old man, so that they will respect us more.
Second, do not interfere in your son's family affairs
They asked us to take care of the children, we just take the children, when we can help do some housework when we are free, do some housework, their family needs to make decisions, we must not interfere, let them make their own decisions, deal with it themselves, they don't tell us, we don't ask, we told us, you can give a suggestion appropriately, it is their business to listen or not, don't forcibly interfere.
Third, do not interfere in the child's education
Whose children are responsible for the education, so the child's education is the son and daughter-in-law's business, let's not interfere, people sometimes criticize the education of the child, let's not care, we don't want to protect the child, this is a mistake that many old people are prone to make, it is easy to cause the disgust of the son and daughter-in-law.
Fourth, leave decisively when it's time to leave
Some mothers-in-law and fathers-in-law just don't understand, people's children are older, they don't need them anymore, and they still live in their son's house and don't leave, people can't say, they can't drive you away, so when people need us, we stay, and when we don't need us, we leave quickly.
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