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In the bright galaxy of the entertainment industry, Zhu Yuchen should have been a dazzling star. However, the 45-year-old actor has never been able to enter the palace of marriage, and the three once vigorous romances are as fleeting as fireworks.
His acting career should have been thriving, but he was repeatedly frustrated at critical moments. Behind all this, there is a "shackle" woven with love - his mother Zhu Xiangling.
In a reality show, Zhu Yuchen once burst into tears and collapsed on his kennel, complaining bitterly about how mother's love has become a burden he can't bear. What kind of maternal love can make an adult man so miserable? Let's walk into Zhu Yuchen's inner world and uncover the sad past of this "mom bao man".
In 1979, Zhu Yuchen fell to the ground in an ordinary family in Shanghai. From that moment on, it seemed that only this little life was left in the world of her mother Zhu Xiangling.
Influenced by traditional concepts, Zhu Xiangling poured out her love for this boy far beyond ordinary people.
Zhu Yuchen's childhood may be happy in the eyes of others. He didn't worry about food, clothing, shelter and transportation, because his mother had already arranged everything. However, this seemingly meticulous care is like an invisible net, firmly imprisoning him.
During her school days, Zhu Xiangling's control reached the extreme. She does not allow her son to socialize with his peers, fearing that he will be bullied. Even if she picks up and drops off from school on time every day, what is even more suffocating is that she strictly restricts her son's every move, like a conscientious but unsettling monitor.
As he grew older, Zhu Yuchen gradually realized that he was different from other children. Whenever he came home a little later, his mother's stern questioning and endless worries awaited him.
"Did anyone bully you today?" This question became a "homework" that he had to answer every day.
After entering puberty, Zhu Xiangling's desire to control continued unabated. She began to force her son to take all kinds of hard-to-swallow Chinese medicines, which were called to promote physical development.
Although Zhu Yuchen hated these bitter drugs, he was never able to muster up the courage to resist.
When Zhu Yuchen was in high school, he pinned all his hopes on being admitted to a foreign university. He studied hard to escape his mother's grasp. However, fate always seems to work against him.
When Zhu Yuchen thought that he would be free if he was admitted to the Central Academy of Drama in Beijing, he never expected that his mother would resolutely follow him to Beijing. During college, Zhu Xiangling rented a house off-campus, but every day she would break into her son's dormitory, help him tidy up housekeeping, and even question her roommates' living habits.
Once, Zhu Xiangling found creepers growing outside the dormitory, and wanted to scald them to death with boiling water, just because she was worried that these plants would affect her son's safety. Zhu Yuchen tried his best to speak, and even threatened to drop out of school, but he barely stopped his mother's crazy behavior.
The young Zhu Yuchen's heart was full of contradictions and struggles. He loves his mother deeply and appreciates her efforts, but he longs to have his own space and life. However, in the face of his mother's strong desire to control, he has never been able to find a balance point, and can only hover between repression and resistance.
This overprotected childhood and youth experience also laid hidden dangers for his future relationship and career.
Zhu Yuchen's love path is like a destined tragedy, and every scene is staged in the shadow of maternal love. His three relationships all ended in failure without exception, and the driving force behind it was his mother Zhu Xiangling.
The beauty of first love is always unforgettable. When Zhu Yuchen was studying at the Central Academy of Drama, he met Tang Wei, who also came to the art examination. The young, beautiful and energetic Tang Wei is like a ray of sunshine, shining into Zhu Yuchen's hazy life shrouded in maternal love.
Although Tang Wei failed to be admitted as she wished for the first time, for the sake of Zhu Yuchen, she resolutely decided to rent a room in Beijing and re-prepare for the exam.
The relationship between the two heated up rapidly, and Tang Wei even cooked in person to prepare a love lunch box for Zhu Yuchen. Zhu Yuchen, who was immersed in sweetness, began to frequently do not return home at night.
However, this hard-won happiness was soon noticed by the keen Zhu Xiangling.
One day, Zhu Xiangling followed her son to Tang Wei's residence. The slightly messy sight in front of her made her furious. In front of Zhu Yuchen, she humiliated Tang Wei with harsh words, accusing her of lacking the ability to run a family.
In the face of his mother's unreasonable trouble, Zhu Yuchen could only be silent and did not dare to squeak. This farce finally ended with Tang Wei leaving angrily, and Zhu Yuchen's first love came to an end.
After stepping into the workplace, Zhu Yuchen met and fell in love with the gentle and lovely Huo Siyan. Huo Siyan has a gentle personality and an orderly life, and Zhu Xiangling seems to be quite satisfied with this prospective daughter-in-law.
However, the good times did not last long, and Zhu's mother's interference in this relationship became more and more frequent.
She often came to "instruct" Huo Siyan on how to take care of her son, and even asked Huo Siyan to serve meals and wash dishes for Zhu Yuchen during family dinners. This almost insulting request made Huo Siyan feel that her dignity had been seriously trampled on.
Finally, Huo Siyan, who couldn't stand this deformed relationship, chose to leave.
In 2012, 33-year-old Zhu Yuchen met Jiang Yan, who was a skilled cook. This time, he made up his mind to start a family, hoping to get rid of the label of "mom bao man".
At first, Zhu Xiangling was quite satisfied with Jiang Yan, thinking that she could take care of her son's daily life.
However, when Jiang Yan came to visit in shorts and wanted to discuss marriage, Zhu's mother complained about her outfit and thought it was too frivolous. What's even more incredible is that when talking about specific marriages, Zhu Xiangling put forward many harsh requirements, which made Jiang Yan feel unacceptable.
In the end, this originally hopeful relationship also collapsed due to Zhu's mother's interference.
Three romances, three heartbreaks, Zhu Yuchen's emotional road is like a doomed marathon. Every time, he thought that he was about to touch the other side of happiness, but he was always dragged back to the starting point at the last moment by his mother's obstruction.
These experiences not only made Zhu Yuchen lose confidence in love, but also made him gradually lose his suitors in the circle.
45-year-old Zhu Yuchen is still alone. Those love experiences that should have been good memories have become wounds in his heart that are difficult to heal. He was mired in self-doubt, not knowing whether to blame his mother for her over-interference or for her own indecision.
After a drunken experience, Zhu Yuchen once confided in his friends: "How I wish there was someone who truly loved me and could face all kinds of difficulties in life with me."
But every time I thought I had found that person, I was always hit mercilessly by reality. I don't know how long this life will last, I'm really tired and I want to run away.
These words expressed the pain and helplessness in Zhu Yuchen's heart. He longs for love, but he is afraid of being hurt; He wants to break free from his mother's control, but he can't change the situation.
This ambivalence makes it difficult for him to move forward in the emotional world, and it is difficult to find the happiness that truly belongs to him.
Zhu Yuchen, who has suffered repeated setbacks emotionally, has devoted all his energy to his acting career. However, the excessive interference of his mother, Zhu Xiangling, is like an invisible barrier, constantly hindering his career development.
Whenever Zhu Yuchen has a new drama to start filming, Zhu Xiangling will always visit the class uninvited. She brought all kinds of health products and delicacies, regardless of the discipline of the crew and the fact that the star needs to control her weight, and insisted on watching her son finish the food before leaving.
This behavior not only embarrassed Zhu Yuchen, but also brought unnecessary trouble to the crew.
The crew had a lot of discussions in private, some sympathized with Zhu Yuchen's situation, and some felt disdain for his weakness. Directors and producers are even more troubled by this situation, worrying that it will affect the progress and quality of shooting.
What's even more shocking is that Zhu Xiangling even interfered with her son's role choice. Once, Zhu Yuchen finally received a script with great development potential, which included an important fight scene.
However, Zhu's mother thought that such a scene was too dangerous, and she did not hesitate to kneel down and beg her son to give up this role.
Faced with his mother's bitter pleading, Zhu Yuchen struggled in his heart. He understood that this role could be a turning point in his career, but he couldn't bear his mother's tears.
In the end, he could only reluctantly cut his love and gave up this opportunity that might bring about a career turnaround.
This decision caused quite a stir in the circle. Many peers and industry insiders are puzzled and regretful about Zhu Yuchen's choice. Someone commented: "Zhu Yuchen is a powerful actor, but unfortunately he was delayed by his mother's overprotection."
In this highly competitive industry, missing out on a great opportunity can mean being left behind forever.
With the passage of time, Zhu Yuchen's reputation in the entertainment industry gradually declined. Many directors and producers had heard of his mother's "prestige" and chose to distance themselves from him in order to avoid unnecessary trouble.
Even though Zhu Yuchen is an outstanding graduate of the Central Academy of Drama and has excellent acting skills, it is difficult to get a role that matches his talent.
A director who has worked with Zhu Yuchen revealed: "Zhu Yuchen is a very potential actor, but his mother's behavior is really unacceptable. We need professional actors, not 'children' who need to be taken care of 24 hours a day.
In this way, Zhu Yuchen's acting career fell into a trough. He was full of frustration and powerlessness in his heart, watching the actors of the same period become hot stars one by one, while he was always stagnant.
This professional dilemma deepened the pain and contradictions in his heart.
In a private party, Zhu Yuchen confided in a friend: "I know that my mother loves me, but she doesn't understand the cruelty of this industry. Every time I tried to break through and try a new challenge, she always stopped me.
I felt helpless, as if I was trapped in an invisible cage and unable to use my talents.
As the years passed, Zhu Yuchen became more and more aware of the predicament he was in. However, in the face of his mother Zhu Xiangling, he was never able to muster up the courage to resist. This ambivalent psychological state is fully reflected in a popular variety show.
In the show, Zhu Xiangling publicly stated that the future daughter-in-law must have the quality of being able to go up to the hall and down to the kitchen, and there must be no flaws. She even claimed that even if her son never found a suitable partner, she would insist on taking care of him until he was old.
This remark not only caused heated discussions among the audience, but also made Zhu Yuchen feel extremely frustrated.
Zhu Yuchen's pain finally exploded in another show. He couldn't help but confide in the audience about his experience, saying that maternal love has become a burden that he can't bear.
However, even so, he still couldn't find an effective way to change the status quo.
This kind of almost paranoid maternal love has triggered people's deep thinking about the parent-child relationship. Some psychologists have pointed out that "excessive maternal love may hinder children's growth and independence.
Parents need to learn to let go at the right time so that their children can learn to face life's challenges on their own.
Zhu Yuchen's experience has become a mirror that reflects the parent-child relationship problems that are prevalent in modern society. It reminds us that love is as important as freedom, and that it is only on the basis of respect, understanding, and moderation of letting go that a truly independent, happy next generation can be raised.
Although Zhu Yuchen's story is full of helplessness and sadness, we still expect him to find a way out of the predicament. Maybe one day, he will be able to muster up the courage to redefine their relationship with his mother in a sincere and sincere conversation.
Zhu Yuchen's experience is a wake-up call for us to remind us that love and freedom are equally important in the process of parenting. Parents need to learn to let go at the right time so that their children can learn to face life's challenges independently.
Only on the basis of respect, understanding, and moderate letting go can the next generation be nurtured with true happiness.
We hope that Zhu Yuchen can regain his confidence in life and bravely pursue his own happiness. Maybe in the near future, we will see a new Zhu Yuchen, a Zhu Yuchen who can find a balance between career and relationship and truly control his life.
His story will eventually be an inspiration and inspiration to many.
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