As many people age, especially in retirement, they become more afraid of being "marginalized" and worry that their past glory and abilities will be overlooked. This feeling of not being the same is often very unpleasant.
Therefore, many people are reluctant to accept old age, and the older they get, the more they want to prove their presence and try not to be marginalized.
To be honest, when I first retired, I was also afraid of being marginalized and worried that I would become useless. So I've always been actively involved in lively occasions as I did when I was younger, and I didn't show weakness when I could.
I used to think that this spirit of disobedience to old age was very commendable, but over the years, after seeing the old life experiences of two old colleagues around me, I changed my opinion.
Because I found that no matter how capable I was in the past, I had to learn to be a marginal person when I got old, and only in this way could my life be smooth and stable in my old age.
The story of my colleague Lao Zhang
Lao Zhang is my old colleague in the unit, he was the backbone of the business when he was young, and he had a lot of important resources and contacts in his hands.
Before his retirement, he was unmatched, and after his retirement, he maintained an active social life, frequently attending various parties and events, and trying to maintain his position in the circle.
Lao Zhang always felt that he could continue to shine and was unwilling to be marginalized. Therefore, he took the initiative to participate in some social activities, and even tried to participate in some new projects, hoping to prove his worth again. However, this kind of disobedience did not make him get his wish, but put him in a difficult situation.
Once, Lao Zhang invested a lot of time and energy in a project, but in the end, due to age and energy, he failed to achieve the desired results.
This setback made him feel very depressed, and even doubted his ability for a while. As a result, his health was affected and his mental state became very poor.
Friends and family around him advised him to relax and not work too hard, but Lao Zhang was always unwilling to admit that he was old and still stubbornly wanted to prove himself.
As a result, he suffered a heart attack during an event and was taken to the hospital for resuscitation. This sudden incident made him realize that his body could no longer withstand such high-intensity activities.
After being discharged from the hospital, Lao Zhang began to reflect on his behavior. He realizes that his past glory is a thing of the past, and no matter how hard he tries, he can't recreate the scenery of the past.
Instead of desperately pursuing a non-existent "sense of existence", it is better to learn to accept reality, adjust your mentality, and live your old age well.
The story of my colleague Lao Li
Unlike Lao Zhang, Lao Li chose another path after retirement. He was also the backbone of the unit when he was young, but after retirement, he took the initiative to fade out of the circle, returned to his family, and lived a peaceful life.
Lao Li believes that retirement is about enjoying life, not continuing to work hard. He began to learn new hobbies, such as painting and planting flowers. Although these activities may seem uneventful, he finds real fun and satisfaction in them.
Lao Li's family life is also very harmonious, he and his wife travel and walk together, enjoying the beauty of the world of the two. His children also visit them often, and the family atmosphere is very warm.
Lao Li did not feel lost because of retirement, but felt that it was a new beginning, giving him the opportunity to do what he loved.
Once, we chatted about our lives at a gathering of old colleagues, and Lao Li shared his retirement experience. He said: "Our generation has worked hard all their lives, and we should enjoy life after retirement." You don't have to fight for any sense of existence, you can be a marginal person with peace of mind, and your life will be easier and more enjoyable. ”
I was very touched by Lao Li's mentality. He did not accept old age like Lao Zhang, nor did he feel lost because of retirement, but calmly accepted the reality and lived a peaceful and happy life.
My reflections and insights
Looking at the very different retirement lives of two old colleagues, Lao Zhang and Lao Li, I began to reflect on myself. I used to be like Lao Zhang, I didn't want to admit that I was old, and I always wanted to continue to prove myself.
But reality reminds me again and again that when I am older, my body and energy are not as good as before, and no matter how hard I try, I can't return to the glory of the past.
Lao Li's lifestyle has given me new inspiration. After retirement, you don't have to fight for any sense of existence, learn to accept reality, and live your own life is the most important thing.
Being a "marginal person" is not useless, but a wise choice. Our generation has worked hard all their lives, and in their old age, we should learn to let go and enjoy the peace and beauty of life.
So, I began to adjust my mentality, no longer desperately pursuing existence as before, but learning to enjoy the small blessings in life.
I started learning new hobbies, such as calligraphy and flower planting, which made me feel happy and fulfilled my life.
I also learned to get along with my family and get more involved in family life. Whenever I see the smiling faces of my children, I feel heartfelt happiness.
After I retired, my wife and I traveled and walked together, enjoying the good times in the world of the two of us. Together, we reminisce about the past, look forward to the future, and live a warm and satisfying life.
Write to the end
Through the retirement experience of Lao Zhang and Lao Li, I understand a truth: no matter how great your ability was in the past, you must learn to be a marginal person when you are old. Only in this way can you live smoothly and securely in your old age.
Life after retirement is no longer a stage for pursuing a sense of existence and proving oneself, but a process for us to learn to let go and enjoy life.
Accepting reality, adjusting our mentality, and living our old age is what we should really pursue.
Being a marginal person is not useless, but a wise choice. Let us learn to let go of the past in our old age, enjoy the peace and beauty of the present, and live a happy and contented life. #头条创作挑战赛#
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